A reader sent me a private message asking if I could recommend a few books on anxiety to her, preferably to guarantee a lifetime of anxiety-free.
I replied to her, your standard is too high, there is no such book, even if there is such a book, it depends on whether the person who reads it can do it.
If you really want to find a book that makes people not anxious for life, I can only recommend the Book of Changes, once you read it thoroughly, you will live thoroughly, and you will no longer be anxious about trivial things.
I'll find three sentences below, as long as you remember them, you have a good chance of not being anxious for the rest of your life.
1. A gentleman cultivates with fear.
This sentence means that a gentleman consciously cultivates virtue because of fear. If you have a sense of awe in your heart, no matter what you do, you won't be too out of line, and nothing troublesome will happen, which will make you quite comfortable and not anxious about it.
Because of this fear in your heart, you are always vigilant not to do things that violate your conscience or violate the law, even in the face of all kinds of **, but also because of the fear of harm and bear to refuse, all of which make you less likely to get into trouble, which is equivalent to cutting off the source of anxiety at the source.
In this way, you will be able to do what Confucius said"Do whatever you want, don't go beyond the rules".No matter what you do, everything is under your control, everything you have to do will not have sequelae, what else do you say can make you anxious?Do you really do it without anxiety for life?
2. The gentleman is in the right position.
This sentence is to say that a gentleman should be like Ding, standing in his own position and fulfilling his mission. In today's words, it is to sit upright, not afraid of crooked shadows, insist on taking the right path, and never lose your position at any time and do things that hurt others and yourself.
I think that if a person has done this, he will basically be free of disasters for the rest of his life, so what is there to be anxious about?
Only those who have done unsightly things, or taken advantage of others, are afraid of being discovered, so they suffer all day long, for fear of being taken away by others by accident.
But when you are in the right position, you know everything you can and can't do, and you can restrain yourself from doing things that go against your conscience, then you can accomplish your mission with all your energy.
In this way, everything you do is reasonable and legal, and what you get is worthy of your heart, and you will naturally be free from anxiety for life.
3. Don't use to take women, see that the golden husband does not bow.
The meaning of this sentence is that you cannot marry a woman of bad character, because she will not follow the rules when she sees a rich man, and generally nothing good will come of it.
In our words today, it is a money worshipper, she sees a rich person and thinks differently, and you must be deeply anxious to marry such a woman.
In fact, men are the same, when you choose a husband, if you see the other party also have similar actions, you can't take your eyes off when you see other beauties, and such a man can't marry. Even if you reluctantly marry yourself, there will be a lot of things for you to worry about in the future, because you don't know when he will cheat.
It can be seen that it is not a trivial matter for a man to marry a woman, once you meet someone unladylike, it will bring a lot of harm, it is better not to marry.
If you remember this sentence, be cautious when choosing a mate, and keep your eyes open to see if the other person has all kinds of problems that worry you, if not, you will not be anxious for life.
In a person's life, there are always all kinds of things that make you anxious, but if you can make your heart not anxious, you can fundamentally reduce unnecessary anxiety and make your life comfortable and transparent.
These three sentences of the Book of Changes have such an effect, as long as you remember it, you may be able to be free from anxiety for life.