Marriage is like a ship with a goal, husband and wife are at the helm of the ship, when the wind and the sun come, no accident, the boat will be under the strict control of the helm, moving towards the set goal, unfortunately, there are unforeseen circumstances, husband and wife centrifugal, capsizing will also be a common thing.
The reason why marriage needs to be managed is because the people in it have to try to keep the ship in a balanced state at all times, not to capsize, so how to manage the marriage is particularly important.
It is inevitable that everyone will encounter difficulties and take inappropriate measures when they get married for the first time, but if they cannot be corrected and made up in time, it will cause trauma to the marriage and get the opposite result of the original intention.
So, remember three sentences, when you feel unhappy with your partner, take it out and chew it repeatedly, you will think a lot, and you will also change your state and manage your marriage with more positive behaviors.
After a woman gets married, her expectation for her other half is to be able to get all the love of her other half, to treat each other as a harbor of life, and to have a place to accommodate your restless soul when you encounter troubles.
However, the ability to provide shelter should be mutual, and the woman must not only satisfy the security that the man wants while also satisfying the security that the man wants, not only to her own feelings, but also to show the expectations of the man, to lose her heart and blame the other person for not loving herself enough.
The consequence of not being in the position of a person is that he is disheartened, has no habitat for his soul, and feels tired.
Just like Zhong Xiaoqin in "Thirty Years Old", she lives in her own emotional world, seeks warmth from her husband, complains that her husband doesn't know how to care about people when she is frustrated, and when she quarrels with her husband, she never knows that the other party is facing huge work pressure and is also suffering in her heart.
Husband and wife, no one is the arm of steel and copper, they only need to pay, they don't need to care. When you feel that you are being neglected, don't blame it, it is likely that your partner's mood is also stuck in the quagmire, waiting to be saved.
Seriously perceive the mood of the other half, use companionship to eliminate the insecurity in his heart, the other party feels warm, and will naturally give warmth without reservation, and the emotions will warm up and flow.
The point in intimacy is that when you truly love someone, you subconsciously want to serve them unconditionally. However, such unconditionality is not absolute, and in the process of pursuing love, there will be no regard for the good return of a person, but the ultimate goal, and there will be a desire to receive the same love from the other person.
In marriage, partners will unconditionally take the initiative to do something for each other, such as women will wash men's clothes, and men will comfort women when they are in a bad mood.
Unfortunately, in real life, women will misunderstand men's love, thinking that love is a perpetual motion machine, and to love someone, you must always be enthusiastic and do anything for yourself.
Just like Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", like Wang Baichuan, subconsciously put all the economic pressure on the other party, but chose to escape, such a distorted psychology made the other party breathless, Wang Baichuan began to exert his wishful thinking, and the sense of alienation he showed made Fan Shengmei feel cold.
It wasn't until Fan Shengmei really figured out that she shouldn't use too high moral standards to ask for a partner, that she didn't know that she was not necessarily like Wang Baichuan, and the relationship was completely awkward.
Being able to enjoy a person's love calmly, but also being able to maintain sober independence in love, although the daily little things and troubles can be shared by the partner, even so, they have to take responsibility, so that they do not blindly consume love, and it is possible to keep love.
There are no exactly two leaves the same in the world, and there are no exactly the same two hearts, and husbands and wives get along with each other, even if they love each other, they will have disagreements because of some things, causing quarrels or contradictions, and the atmosphere between them will drop to the freezing point, and they will not be happy.
But true love is not that two people are together and never quarrel, but that after a quarrel, they can reflect on themselves, give each other a step back, and quickly reconcile.
No matter how good a couple is, in the process of getting along, they will have a hundred thoughts of wanting to divorce each other, but they will find reasons for themselves to continue to get along for the 101st time.
Women are the emotional collapse point, once they quarrel, they will infinitely magnify the emotions in front of them, and they will think that their partners no longer love themselves, so they dare to quarrel, but in fact, they are not. Rabbits will be in a hurry to bite, let alone live people, and if they don't agree with each other, their emotions are often uncontrollable.
Don't deny feelings because of quarrels, love and love should be judged from multiple directions and angles, and don't judge feelings badly because of a few quarrels.