The male doctor admitted that he had never been in a relationship in his nearly 30s, and the reason sparked social discussions
A doctor admitted that he was almost 30 years old and had not been in a relationship yet, and the reason sparked discussion, netizens: a bit of a double standard.
The way in which the educational pathway shapes and transforms the individual is obvious. At first glance, academic qualifications are the threshold for a career and determine the future development potential of graduates.
In many aspects of life, education inculcates values. Education influences social relations and the assumption of family responsibilities in the future to varying degrees.
In the eyes of the public, students with excellent academic performance are often considered to be the best, and their future is bright. However, these students also face some problems that the average classmate does not have in adulthood.
It's hard to understand that someone as extraordinary as a doctor would admit"I'm about to turn 30, but I've never been in a relationship"。Cultivating an excellent college student is already a great achievement for a family, and if this student is still a doctoral student at a prestigious university, it is even more worthy of pride. In the eyes of the public, such a student is admirable and enviable.
Considered"Make friends"They can even put some boys and girls off because they may be too good at their jobs. It is intriguing that a PhD student from the 90s of the last century shared about him and his colleagues on the Internet.
He works in the research department of a well-known company in Shenzhen, and the working environment and salary are quite good. He was a strong learner, starting his studies earlier than most of his colleagues from an early age, and even took the college entrance exam at the age of 16.
The doctor confessed that the only time he had contact with a female student was during his postgraduate studies abroad. Because he scored much better than his classmates in an exam, he caught the attention of one of his classmates.
After that, the two did not see each other often, and after the girl returned to China, the relationship between the two gradually drifted apart, and it could not be regarded as a formal relationship. The young man said that his situation was similar to that of a doctor from Tsinghua University and a doctor from the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
For a male PhD student who is nearly 30 years old but has never been in a serious relationship, this seems to come as a bit of a surprise to many parents and colleagues. He analyzed his situation, which sparked some discussion.
According to the doctor's summary, he mentioned several reasons for the heated debate. First of all, due to his early enrollment, he played in the class"Little brother"role, so in his student years, he often failed to attract the attention of the female classmates in the class.
Secondly, he believes that it is indeed more difficult for boys studying science and engineering to realize their love ideals. However, the third reason that caused the most controversy among netizens is that he believes that girls will also pay attention to their appearance in love.
The doctor confessed that he was looking for a girl with a beautiful appearance and deep thoughts. What he doesn't realize, however, is that the girl is now also starting to think, and he doesn't seem to have an advantage in this regard.
Some people comforted him and told him not to worry;But more students believe that the doctor has a bit of a double standard, and as he says, he has high requirements for the appearance of girls.
There are many reasons for the relatively limited experience of highly educated graduates in finding friends, some of which may be worth rethinking. Perhaps many parents have noticed such a phenomenon, highly educated graduates are obviously very good, but they seem to feel more limited in terms of making friends, and there are many objective reasons behind this. At different stages of their studies and careers, they generally feel that time is pressed and that they have relatively little personal time.
Second, a student's own sense of superiority can make them more demanding of their potential friends, and sometimes even harsh. For example, when looking for a beautiful girl, the average guy may ignore other flaws because of her appearance.
Highly educated boys often want their partners to be on par with them in a number of aspects such as education, level of thought, and personal skills. In fact, girls who meet these criteria may have more options, including choosing a more qualified partner.
Therefore, if such graduates want to get a head start in dating, they need to adjust their thinking: while a high degree of education and a decent career represent a certain degree of superiority, it does not mean that dating performance is also certain"Excellent"。
Conversely, those with relatively little experience in this field may want to develop one"Beginners"The mentality of learning to get along with the opposite sex is indeed a science. Scholars may be good at researching experimental topics, but they may not be good at putting themselves in the other person's shoes.
If you think of making friends"Homework"When you come to study, you may have a better chance of finding friends. Of course, everyone's needs and expectations in this regard are different, and perhaps for some highly qualified graduates, relationships are not a necessity.
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