The best way to get something is to make yourself fit it.
This is a very important point of Charlie Munger, which is to optimize yourself first, and other things will be easier. For example, change the way of thinking, improve one's work ability, exercise more, read more books, associate more with excellent people, and so on.
Conversely, if you don't put improving yourself in the first place, there is little point in other efforts.
The best way to get anything is to change yourself and nothing else.
For example, if you want to find a partner and want the other party to like you, the best way is not to try to please the other party, but to improve yourself desperately, and when you are more than enough for the other party, it becomes easy to make the other party like you.
Most of us do the opposite, desperately being good to whoever we like, giving each other all our good things, and then humbling ourselves to the dust, which makes the gap between the two sides even greater, and the result is of course getting farther and farther away from each other.
If you don't improve yourself, all the good things will be farther and farther away from you, and all the good things will pass you by.
How much ability you have, how much value you have, you can only match that level of partners and friends, you can only match that level of life, you can only see the beauty of that level.
Changing yourself is the most effective way to change your life conditions.
People should pay more attention to themselves and not care too much about what others think.
Don't look at what I say very well, I understand all the truths, in fact, I often act irrationally because I care about other people's opinions.
For example, when writing an article, I should write about what I really think, write what I like to write, and then don't care about the result.
However, I often care about whether the articles I write are liked by others, and I often can't help but want to see how many reads and likes there are, but in fact, this is very bad and will disturb my mind. I often find that the articles I try to write well often don't have much read, while the articles I write on my own tend to do well.
I feel that most things in the world are like this, there is no intention to plant flowers and flowers, and there is no intention to plant willows and willows.
You especially want to achieve something, you care too much, pay attention to the result, work hard, and often the result is not achieved. You do something just out of a hobby, purely out of love, without any purpose, and the result is often unexpected.
For example, those ** accounts, who want to make an account to make money, are basically difficult to make;It's just out of hobby, out of fun, casually posting works, Buddhist bloggers, slowly accumulating, and sometimes they accidentally become popular.
I now have a sense not to do things that are not smooth to do, not to do things that are painful to do.
If it doesn't go well, or if you feel pain, it means that this matter is not suitable for you, which is against the will of God, and forcing yourself to do it is against the way of heaven, and there will be no good results.
I used to say a lot: don't go for the money that is tiring to make.
The project that is really suitable for you will feel very easy and happy to do, and it will feel very smooth.
Life should go with the flow, not against the current.
What is homeopathy?
As soon as you do it, you can make money, the more you do it, the happier you are, and the more you do it, the more comfortable it feels, which is homeopathy.
What is contrarianism?
As soon as you do it, you will lose money, and you will lose money when you do it, and you will feel very painful and tired when you do it, and you need to grit your teeth and persevere, you are counting on accumulating experience by constantly losing money, hoping that you can turn over in the future, which is the contrarian trend.
The model of "losing first and then earning" is no longer suitable for the current business situation, and the first loss will basically continue to lose until your capital chain is broken. A really good business is one that makes money from the very beginning.
Warren Buffett has two iron rules for investing: first, don't lose money;Number two, never forget the first.
I only now really understand the true meaning of these two iron laws, I appropriated them to my own projects, I require myself to do any project in the future, to do two principles: first, don't lose money;Number two, never forget the first.
How to do it without losing money is the key.
After losing a lot of money, I finally found a way: not to do any projects that require investment.
I don't do any projects related to industry, and I don't touch any projects that need to rent factories, rent shops, buy equipment, advertise, and promote.
I only work on projects with zero capital investment, such as knowledge payment, writing, editing**, consulting, and artificial intelligence. The only thing I can invest is my own time, energy, knowledge, and thinking, and as for money, I won't invest a penny.
I don't invest any money, which ensures that I don't lose money at least, and then the rest is a matter of earning more and earning less.
The result of doing business is not only two options of "making money" and "not making money", but three: making money, not making money, and losing money. In fact, among all entrepreneurs, 1% make money, 1% do not make money, and 98% lose money. However, we often only see the 1% who make money, and do not see the 98% who lose money, probably because everyone thinks they are geniuses, think they are lucky, but in fact, you are not.
Don't do business that requires investment, don't do business that needs to owe debts, these are the two basic principles of my business.
The longer I have been in business, the more I feel that whether or not I can make money is largely a matter of probability, that is, a hundred people go to start a business, work the same hard, use the same method, and finally succeed in those one or two people, why these two people, it is not that they work harder than others, smarter than others, it is a matter of luck.
We often like to find the reason for success in reverse, in fact, many times it is luck, it is just a coincidence.
Why can a battle-hardened survive survive?The main reason is that because of good luck, when the two sides are fighting, no matter how strong your ability and IQ are, can you calculate the trajectory of every bullet and every shell?Who lives and who dies, who is rich and who is poor, mainly depends on life.
It's not that hard work is useless, but that hard work is the basic condition, and if you don't work hard, you won't succeed, but if you work hard, you won't necessarily succeed, and success will only come from the countless people who are working hard, and whether you can succeed in the end depends mainly on luck.
However, once a person succeeds once, he has accumulated a lot of experience and ability, and a lot of resources will be concentrated on him, which is equivalent to having more props to improve his ability, and his chances of success again will be greatly improved.
So, the most important thing for a person is to make himself successful once at all costs.
After one success, it is easy to move from one success to another.
Otherwise, you will have to linger in the world of failure.
That's why successful people succeed in everything they do, and people who fail fail in everything they do.
People who have successfully been in a relationship once will easily succeed in a second relationship because you are already familiar with the methods of getting along with the opposite sex.
People who have never succeeded in falling in love, constantly chasing others, will basically fail because they have no way.
Good luck leads to good luck.
Bad luck brings bad luck.
There are two more points: first, a person takes off, which is a blessing to all those who know.
So, make more friends with good people and make more friends with those who may take off in the future.
Second, hating the rich will allow you to miss out on many opportunities.
Whoever is rich should worship whom, who is rich should be close to whom, what should others do if they ignore you?Have you tried?You haven't tried to say why people will ignore you?
Even if others ignore you, you may have a chance if you try a few more times, learn to exchange value for value, and provide more value to others.
Don't be too face-conscious, don't be glassy.
The door to happiness, why not knock a few more times?