If a person is reluctant to go out, it is due to the uneasiness created by not wanting to go outside, not because of past psychological trauma. It is not the past experiences that determine who we are, but the meaning that we ourselves give to the experiences. If we keep relying on causalism, we will never stop. Today I suddenly saw Adler's "individual psychology", which is completely different from Freud's psychoanalytic view, will it change your cognition?
When we find that the current situation is not determined by the so-called original family, but by the current cognition, do you want to read and Xi more and improve yourself? Instead of dwelling in the past, blaming the time that can't be returned and the people who can't change. They actually have one thing in common, they are always the only ones who can change themselves. It's just Adler that makes us focus on the present. Perception in the present moment determines behavior. The meaning you give to yourself, this meaning, you can choose and change. If you want to be in this state that doesn't look good, maybe you just don't want to change, you don't want to be more positive.
Including anger. Freud believed that anger is behind fear, love, isolation, borders, and the emotional and physical reactions of the present brought about by the past. But Adler believes that anger is just a means for you, and you want to get something out of it.
What do you think in light of this?