Primary school students "** gambling" is quietly prevalent, and parents need to be vigilant.
Hi all, my name is Yumi Mama
Nowadays, in"Attention economy"In the times, wherever people's eyes go, it is a must for entrepreneurs.
Whether it's a variety of celebrity bloggers** in social media, a variety of treasure chests and skills in online games, or a variety of activities in offline stores, marketers have only one purpose, and that is to attract people's attention to themselves.
This has led many companies to launch a variety of products, even targeting schoolchildren who are still in school. As a result, at the gate of the primary school, a variety of toys that can make children addicted, such as blind boxes, scratch cards, golden eggs, etc., appeared.
Some time ago, I went to buy stationery for Yumi, and as soon as I entered the door, I saw several elementary school students gathered in front of the Ultraman card toy.
One of the children said:"I don't know what my luck will be today, I've been opening that out-of-print laser card for a long time and it still hasn't come out!The other child replied:"Me too!
Subsequently, several children each bought a box and opened it on the spot, but the result was clear: none of them took the so-called exhausted letters, and the children left the stationery store with a scolding.
I inquired about the shopkeeper and learned that this kind of scratch card, which combines cards, blind boxes and various cash prizes, is especially popular with elementary school students, some of whom come to try their luck almost every day.
Later, I checked the Internet and found this kind of belt"Game Properties"The toys have long been popular at the entrance of primary schools, and have even been on the news program of ** TV station.
When interviewed by reporters, the primary school students were even more direct: Pumping water can't be pumped anymore, it's impossible not to pump so much!Don't be afraid, don't be afraid, bet on a wave with a motorcycle!
I asked the parents around me and found that most of them knew that their children would occasionally buy some blind boxes and card games, but they didn't know that these toys actually had them"Nature of the game"Target.
There are also a small number of parents who don't think so: students buy it, children don't buy it, it's not isolated, let him go, it's not a lot of money!
But does it really matter?You know, the child's brain is still developing, and they are right"Addictive behavior"The resistance is very weak once formed in the brain"Xi cycles", it's hard to change!
Parents need to be reminded that their children's behavior of buying blind boxes, card drawings, and golden eggs should be corrected as soon as possible and not taken seriously. This kind of child"Addictive"Behavior can alter the development of a child's brain.
called"Nucleus accumbens"Brain regions control human addiction. The researchers inadvertently discovered that by electrocuting this area of the mouse, the rat would become so excited that it could go days without eating or drinking.
We all know that people like to do something because the brain secretes dopamine, and dopamine makes people feel pleasurable, and behavioral addiction takes advantage of this physiological trait. When"Nucleus accumbens"When stimulated, it prompts the brain to secrete more dopamine, which can lead to addiction.
But here's the thing: once addicted, the need for dopamine increases.
That's why addicts demand more and more until they break the bank. All they're after is the feeling of dopamine gushing out of their brains.
The scariest thing about addictive behaviors is not only that they are controlled by dopamine, but that even when dopamine is cut off, the Xi remains!
Scientists conducted an experiment in which rats were given sweetened water, and the rats smacked their lips when they felt good, a typical dopamine response.
After some time, the researchers cut off"Dopaminergic"behavior, but they were surprised to find that while the rat no longer liked to drink sugar water without dopamine control, it still smacked its lips when drinking sugar water.
A really addicted child may find that he no longer likes it after playing for a while, but by this time he has been unable to stop playing, and he has been completely covered"Addictive behavior"controlled!
The study concluded that with"games"nature of toys,"Can I win?""Will I win?""Will I win?"This type of uncertainty is more likely to stimulate the brain nucleus and make people addicted.
Therefore, it should be stopped as soon as possible"Addictive behavior"to prevent the child from putting"behavior"becomes"Xi"。
Since"Behavioral addiction"With so much harm, how can we get rid of it"Control of addiction"What about it?
This led to a professor at Stanford University named Fogg, who specialized in the study of human behavior patterns and also created the famous Fogg formula in psychology:
b=mat where b is an action, indicating that you are going to do something;m means you have to be motivated in the first place;a indicates that you have the ability to do it;t means you need stimulation.
For example: What do you do when you don't want to pick up **?
The first possibility is that you don't know that your mobile phone is in**, you can't find it in every corner of the house, you can't find it, so you won't answer it. Another possibility is that you look at the caller ID and find out that it is a sale**, you may hang up**, why?Because he has no reason to hang **!There is also a third case, **is muted, you don't hear anything, ** it doesn't ring at all, so naturally you don't pick it up.
You see, through control abilities, motivations, and stimuli, you have direct control over what a person will do next.
For example, we can use this principle to help children stay away from addictive behaviors:
Ability to control children.
Parents can control their children's pocket money so that they can't buy toys that aren't Xi learning tools. Alternatively, they can teach their children to do math problems so that parents can more easily monitor their children's spending on a regular basis and instill in them some basic financial skills.
Reason for destruction. For children from the third grade onwards, parents can conduct an in-depth study"Motivational interviews"。
So-called"Motivational interviewing"Through surveys and questions, parents understand the contradictions behind their children's behaviors, and then guide their children to solve their inner motivations through conversations.
Parents can choose from:"What do you like to buy this toy for?"Begin. from"What is your favorite thing to buy this toy for?"Starting, you can guide children step by step to understand why they want to buy this card, whether it is to satisfy their collecting habits, or to have a conversation with others
The child should then be encouraged to think positively about the possible negative effects of these toys and whether there are alternatives.
Some parents may question that this type of interview simply doesn't work, but trust me, just get your kids involved and you'll be amazed at how much initiative they have.
Finally, change the driving conditions.
Reduce the likelihood of triggers by changing the external environment, such as mom and dad taking their children home from school, or choosing a different route home, reducing the number of kiosks, etc.
In short, we can start from the three aspects of ability, motivation and trigger conditions to try to avoid dependence in children.
Today's topic: Your child likes to collect toys such as cards, pressed golden eggs, blind boxes, etc., and has a tendency to become addicted, how to solve it?Leave a message in the comment section and let's discuss it together.
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