It's uncomfortable to get to the school gate, I want to go to school and can't get in, a mother consults that her child is depressed and doesn't go to school, this is the case, I don't know what to do?
I said that in fact, most of the children have this kind of love at the school gate can not enter, go to a few days after going and come back, this situation occurs, the early parents are just forced, urged, pushed hard, push the child into the school, the middle is the parents and the child to negotiate the conditions, you just go to school, I buy you something, to the later stage how to force it is useless to coax, the parents also collapsed the child is also painful, in fact, this is through these are wrong, parents must see the essence of the problem, the child now he does not go to school, first of all, the problem of emotion, he has suppressed a lot of this painful negative experience, This needs to be vented, by writing it out, shouting it out, playing it out, and saying it, through these ways to get a catharsis of the child's emotions, which is of course or on the surface!The most important thing is that the child has to reinstall the system, he doesn't know why he is studying, he goes to school because his parents have pretended to be a vicious system since he was a child, and he was ** by his parents!As long as you work hard, you can get into a good university, as long as you work hard, you can live the life you want, this concept is trapped, and he keeps pushing himself!After being forced to school like this, the impact of the school on his emotions was a very painful and uncomfortable experience, which made him particularly uncomfortable, and at this time his mind, emotions and his behavior were completely scattered!Therefore, the fundamental solution to the problem is to help the child reinstall the system from thought to emotion to behavior, which is the fundamental solution!Parents can see what vicious programs have been loaded into our child's mind by our family education to clean him up, help the child reactivate his emotions, and make his behavior more energetic, which is the fundamental solution!
The ideology of parents is to raise children as pets, the school is to raise children to be problem-making machines, and the society is to raise children into wasteI just let parents have a high-dimensional cognition, see clearly the chaos of the family, school, and society, and use the true educational logic of doing things to upgrade the dimension, so as to completely solve the problems of depression, lying down, hating school, not going to school, etc.!