Foreword
Eleven years ago, my brother suffered a serious car accident that left his lower body completely paralyzed.
From that moment on, the elder brother's life became decadent and hopeless.
Fortunately, the sister-in-law did not give up on her brother. She persevered in caring for and encouraging him, and gradually, his brother regained the motivation to live.
Seeing the positive changes in my brother made our family feel relieved.
At the same time, I also told myself in my heart that it was related to my sister-in-law 11 years ago"Big secret"Let it be silent forever.
Ms. Hu's statement:
Today is my nephew's 10th birthday, and the yard is bustling with laughter.
I noticed that my brother, who had never been too surprised, was wearing a brand new dress today, and he was in good spirits with a happy smile on his face.
The sister-in-law pushed her brother's wheelchair and actively shuttled between the guests, greeting relatives and friends.
In the past 11 years, my brother has finally gotten rid of the pain that has plagued him, and seeing him so happy, my inner worries have gradually dissipated.
Back in 2012, my brother was just 26 years old and entered the palace of marriage with the girl of his dreams.
After graduating from college, my brother worked for four years, and he finally mustered up the courage to marry the girl he had silently liked for many years.
At first, the parents were not very optimistic about this marriage, but with the determination of the elder brother, they finally supported the young couple's marriage.
My sister-in-law is my brother's high school classmate, she has a slender figure, although her appearance may not be outstanding, but as long as she dresses up a little, she also looks very beautiful and moving.
My sister-in-law has a gentle and kind personality, and her speech and demeanor are always full of warmth and kindness. I still remember the first time my brother brought my sister-in-law home, her amiability made me feel a deep affection for her.
There are some main reasons why parents have reservations about the marriage of their brother and sister-in-law.
First of all, they are worried that their sister-in-law has a relatively low education and only a college diploma, while their brother is a bachelor's degree graduate.
Mom believes that this educational gap may lead to conflicts and friction after marriage.
Although I didn't quite agree with this opinion and thought that life was run by the two of them together, my mom said I was too naïve and worried that something might go wrong in the future.
Secondly, although the brother and sister-in-law were high school classmates, they only dated for 10 days before they hurriedly decided to get married, and received a marriage certificate without the consent of both parents.
This news made my parents angry. Mom said, "You have to date for at least half a year before you think about getting married." The elder brother was in a hurry to get married, worried that his sister-in-law would change her mind.
In fact, the mother's concern is understandable, she is worried that her brother is not thoughtful and may end up being harmed.
But the elder brother seems to insist on his opinion, believing that his sister-in-law is the one he wants to marry.
In the end, the parents could not resist the resolute determination of the elder brother. After half a month of intense preparation, they happily welcomed the arrival of their sister-in-law.
In just half a month after the wedding of my brother and sister-in-law, good news spread frequently in our family, because my sister-in-law came with the good news of pregnancy, which made our whole family happy.
At that time, my brother and sister-in-law were both working in Shenzhen, and my mother talked to me from time to time about her worries: "I don't know if your brother can take care of my sister-in-law, or I will go over and take care of Yingying." ”
I hurriedly persuaded my mother: "Mom, don't make trouble. Today's young people are not the same as your time, they don't like to live with their elders very much, which is easy to cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. ”
Mom sighed and said helplessly, "Okay, I'll observe for a while." ”
However, on the fifth day of our conversation, my brother suddenly called ** home and nervously told us that my sister-in-law found some bleeding when she slept at night, and then went to the hospital for examination, and the doctor told them that the pregnancy was not stable and there was a risk of miscarriage, and suggested that my sister-in-law stay in bed to recuperate.
However, my sister-in-law was working in sales at the time and needed to go out to run business constantly, so it was almost impossible to meet the requirement of bed rest.
In the end, the brother and sister-in-law made a difficult decision after discussion, and the sister-in-law decided to quit her job and return to her hometown to raise the baby to ensure the healthy growth of the baby.
I couldn't help but joke about my mother: "You were thinking about going to Shenzhen to take care of your daughter-in-law, but now that your daughter-in-law has sent it back by herself, you should be satisfied now." ”
But the mother responded seriously: "*Everything I do now is for my future eldest grandson." ”
I smiled and didn't say anything more, and my mom left embarrassed herself.
However, the next day, my brother suddenly asked for leave and personally sent his sister-in-law home. Just when our whole family was basking in the joy of being about to have a new life, something unexpected happened that caught us all off guard.
While his brother was out shopping for his sister-in-law's daily necessities, he was tragically involved in a rear-end collision with a truck, resulting in him being rushed to the hospital.
After more than ten hours of emergency rescue by the doctor, the elder brother finally saved his life, but at the same time, the doctor also conveyed a cruel news: "My brother's legs are seriously injured and he may need to rely on a wheelchair for life." ”
The doctor also mentioned that "miracles can happen".
But we all understand that the way my brother will live for the rest of his life will likely change forever, unless an incredible miracle happens.
My brother was admitted to the intensive care unit for observation, and we could only look at him from a distance through the heavy glass windows.
My mother was in tears at this time, and she said to me in a trembling voice: "Your brother has always been so smooth, from childhood to adulthood, whether it is his studies or life, he has never worried us. Now that he has a successful career, is married, and will be a father in a few months, how can he suffer such misfortune?It's so uncomfortable, what are we going to do?”
I hugged my mother tightly and comforted her: "Mom, think about the bright side. Although the accident was very serious, my brother was lucky enough to escape the danger of his life, which is God's blessing. I believe my brother will survive. ”
At this moment, my sister-in-law suddenly called** and anxiously asked about my brother's situation. I could only pretend to be calm and answer: "My brother is fine, just a broken lower leg, and the doctor said that he needs to be observed in the hospital for a few days." ”
The sister-in-law showed obvious concern in ** and said, "Then I'll go to the hospital to take care of him." ”
I was about to continue to comfort her, but my mother suddenly snatched the phone and told my sister-in-law: "Yingying, you don't have to worry, Xiaoqiang is not a big problem." You have a good rest at home, we are here to take care of him, you have to hold on, and Mom will go back to cook for you right away. ”
Maybe it was because I didn't want to show my flaws in front of my sister-in-law, so my mother quickly hung up**, but my heart was full of bitterness.
My mother asked me to take care of my brother in the hospital, and she went home to prepare meals for my sister-in-law, and I agreed.
The next day, my father returned from a business trip and saw my brother lying alone in the intensive care unit, and he, a big man of 1.85 meters, actually hugged his head and cried at the staircase of the hospital.
I was also filled with anxiety because we both understood that it would not be long before my sister-in-law would find out the truth, and how hard it would be for my brother to learn that he might not be able to walk anymore.
Sure enough, on the third day after my brother was transferred from the intensive care ward to the general ward, my sister-in-law suddenly rushed to the hospital.
It turned out that her mother accidentally leaked her mouth and let her sister-in-law know the truth of the matter, and she rushed to the hospital desperately.
When my sister-in-law lay on my brother's hospital bed crying, we all felt heavy.
However, the elder brother insisted on comforting his sister-in-law, saying, "Fool, I'm fine." Believe me, if you don't die in a great disaster, you will be blessed. ”
My sister-in-law giggled, but I had an indescribable taste in my heart.
On the tenth day in the hospital, my brother's face improved significantly, but he suddenly asked me: "Xiaofang, what happened to my leg these days?".Something didn't feel right. ”
Things can finally no longer be hidden.
I could only pretend to be calm and respond to my eldest brother: "The doctor said that your leg will be fine after a while, and the current situation is quite normal." ”
Then I hurried out of my eldest brother's room, found a quiet place, and hid my face and wept. It is not known how long this lie will last.
After 15 days in the hospital, the doctor finally announced that the eldest brother could go home to recuperate.
On this day, everyone's mood was relatively happy, but we didn't expect that this might be the prelude to the storm.
The day after I got home, I was cleaning the living room when I suddenly heard an argument coming from my eldest brother and sister-in-law's room.
I wanted to get closer to hear the situation, but I was surprised to see my sister-in-law rushing out crying.
I quickly handed her a tissue and asked with concern, "Sister-in-law, what's wrong with you and your eldest brother, what happened?"”
The sister-in-law wiped her tears and said in a trembling voice: "Your brother knows, he wants to divorce me, and he wants me to kill the child in his belly." ”
Although we all knew that this day would come sooner or later, we didn't expect it to come so quickly.
I felt unable to comfort my sister-in-law with words.
As my brother's sister, I don't actually want to see my brother and sister-in-law divorce. If they get divorced, I can't imagine what my brother's life will be like in the future, especially considering that his legs are paralyzed.
But from a woman's point of view, it is true that there are many difficulties in living a long life with a man with paralyzed legs, especially with a child.
I tried to explain to my sister-in-law: "Sister-in-law, I understand my brother's thoughts, he may not want to be a burden to you, don't get me wrong. ”
The sister-in-law said a little angrily: "I understand what he meant, but after all, we are husband and wife, how can we be so ruthless." ”
In the evening, after my brother went to sleep, my father, mother, sister-in-law and I had a family meeting.
These days, her mother's worries have made her gray hair a lot, and she is the first to ask.
Yingying, now that you have personally experienced Xiaoqiang's situation and everything you may face in the future, can you tell your parents what you plan to do next?”
I held my breath and waited for my sister-in-law's answer, because I also wanted to hear what she had to say.
However, the sister-in-law just shook her head: "To be honest, it all came so suddenly, I don't know what to do yet." ”
Mom suddenly knelt in front of her sister-in-law, and this sudden move startled us.
The sister-in-law asked, "Mom, what are you doing, and if you have anything to say, let's talk about it." ”
Dad also said, "Old lady, what are you going to do, aren't you afraid of breaking the blessings of your juniors?"”
I hurriedly helped my mother to stand up, but she still insisted, "Yingying, my mother has a request, I hope you can agree." ”
The sister-in-law said, "Mom, you can stand up first." ”
The mother continued firmly: "Whether you and Xiaoqiang want to continue their marriage or choose to divorce, your mother will respect your decision, but your mother implores you to give birth to the child, which may be Xiaoqiang's only hope." ”
After saying that, my mother's eyes were red.
I looked at my sister-in-law, she looked embarrassed, and said, "Mom, let me think about it." ”
Then, the sister-in-law turned around and left the room and walked into another guest room.
Mom wanted to go along, but my dad and I tried to dissuade her.
I said to my mother, "Mom, I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry, so let my sister-in-law think about it for more time." ”
Dad also echoed and said: "I understand your concerns, but you have to look at my brother's current situation, if Yingying chooses to divorce and kill the child again, I'm really afraid that he won't be able to get through it." ”
This scene made me deeply feel the love of my parents, my mother has worked hard to raise our brothers and sisters all her life, full of pride and strength, but now for her son, she actually knelt down to her daughter-in-law, just to leave the last glimmer of hope for her son.
At noon the next day, my sister-in-law hurriedly went out after eating and picking up a **.
The weather was a little cold, and my mother saw that my sister-in-law was wearing thin clothes, so she asked me to take a coat to her. When I went out, I found that my sister-in-law was gone.
Considering the tension at home these days, I felt the need to go to the park near my home to relax and calm my emotions a bit.
Unexpectedly, as soon as I came to the park, I found a secluded place to sit down, but suddenly I heard a conversation between a man and a woman not far away.
I saw the man and the woman, and sure enough, it was my sister-in-law and a man I didn't know. A wave of doubt struck me as to why they had to meet here secretly
Even though I knew it was dishonorable to eavesdrop on other people's conversations, I couldn't help but be a thief because it was about my brother.
My sister-in-law stood next to the bushes, and I hurriedly lowered my body, trying not to be spotted.
I heard the man say, "Yingying, I heard that Guo Xiaoqiang had an accident and said that he might not be able to walk in the future, is it true?"”
It turns out that he and my brother are classmates. I listened and wanted to know more.
The sister-in-law nodded, "It's true." ”
The man then said, "In that case, what are you waiting for?"Yingying, divorce him, let's get married. ”
When I heard this, I suddenly felt a surge of anger welling up in my heart. There is a good saying that it is better to tear down a temple than to destroy a marriage. This man was going to ruin my sister-in-law's marriage to my brother and give me the urge to beat him up.
At this point, the sister-in-law remained silent, while the man continued, "Yingying, don't you want the baby in your belly to be with his biological father?".”
The sister-in-law responded firmly: "You are talking nonsense, when I married Xiaoqiang, I already beat the child, stop talking nonsense." ”
The man insisted, "Yingying, stop deceiving yourself. I know that you were reluctant at the beginning, so you married Guo Xiaoqiang immediately after the breakup. I understand that you just want to give our kids a dad. ”
The sister-in-law replied, "Even if the child is yours, what does it matter?"Do you think we can go back to the way things were?Can you resist your mom marrying me?”
The man then said, "Yingying, I believe that time will change everything, and my mother will eventually accept you." You have to trust me, too. ”
The sister-in-law retorted: "I just believe in you too much, so for so many years, I have been humiliating myself in front of your mother. But in the end, what did I get?Was it your mother's disdain, or was it your mother's insult to me?”
The man tried to argue: "Yingying, don't talk about my mother like that, after all, she is my biological mother, and I can't go against her will." ”
The sister-in-law calmly asked, "Since you can't go against her will, then what are you coming to me for?"”
The man replied with difficulty: "I just can't bear to see you suffer." Think about it, what good days will it be to spend the rest of your life with a cripple?”
The sister-in-law said angrily: "Get out, even if Xiaoqiang is disabled, he is better than you, a mother-in-law boy!."”
No wonder the truth of the matter is so brutal.
Maybe the eldest brother and sister-in-law decided to get married after only 10 days of dating, so the gentle and kind sister-in-law married the eldest brother in order to find a cheap father for the child?
Does the eldest brother know about this?I think he probably didn't know. When we first learned that my sister-in-law was pregnant, my eldest brother was the happiest person in our family.
Before I could fully comprehend all this, the dispute between the two was over, and they were long gone.
On the way home, I couldn't calm down for a long time. When I got home, my mother saw me holding my sister-in-law's clothes in my hands and started to accuse me wildly.
Let you get the clothes for your sister-in-law, your sister-in-law has already returned, the clothes are still in your hands, what are you doing unreliable things, it's exactly the same as your father. ”
I tried to keep my calm and responded: "Mom, I understand that now in your heart, my sister-in-law and the child in her belly are your treasures. But don't blame your own daughter so harshly. ”
My mother held a broom in her hand, as if she was going to beat me, she said: "Stinky girl, you are already 24 years old, why don't you find a boyfriend to marry and hang in front of me all day long." ”
I smiled lightly, "Mom, okay, don't regret it when I get married." Nagging me every day, don't get tired of your voice. ”
Without waiting for my mom to respond, I turned and went into the bedroom. The vacation time is short enough, and being nagged by my mother is really enough.
Back in the bedroom, I finally breathed a sigh of relief. However, I couldn't help but start thinking about what I had just heard in the park. Should I tell my family the truth?What would happen if my brother found out?
For the next two days, I became distracted. At night, I couldn't sleep. I decided to share this secret with my best male girlfriend and wanted to hear his advice.
The male girlfriend said: "From a man's point of view, if your sister-in-law can continue to be with your brother, I suggest you keep your mouth shut. ”
I asked, confused, "Why?"”
He replied, "Think about how important legs are to a man, especially someone as good and self-respecting as your brother. Now he is not only disabled, but also lost his job. If he knows that your sister-in-law married him because of the child, it will be a fatal blow to him. ”
I pondered for a while and felt that my boyfriend had some point. The most crucial thing now is to observe the sister-in-law's attitude and decision.
For the next few days, my sister-in-law stayed at home with peace of mind and took care of my brother wholeheartedly.
Even though I heard the sound of things breaking in my brother's room from time to time, I felt sorry for my sister-in-law.
However, the sister-in-law behaved very strongly, she said: "Your brother is in the most difficult stage now, but I believe that after a while, he will slowly get better." ”
I hope she's right.
Another Saturday, when we were having dinner, my sister-in-law suddenly stood up solemnly and said in front of our whole family: "Mom and Dad, don't worry, I won't divorce Xiaoqiang." I have decided that I want to go with him forever and I will be there for him no matter what difficulties may arise in the future. ”
With that, she sat down again and concentrated on eating, while I saw tears of gratitude glistening in my parents' eyes.
Our days are getting harder and harder, and only those who have experienced them can truly understand the suffering.
The elder brother has never been able to let go of the fact that he has become a physically disabled person, and he has tried to stand up countless times, but each time he has failed. He was exhausted, and we as family members were heartbroken.
Especially for her sister-in-law, she bathes her brother with a big belly every day and takes care of her daily life, without regrets. However, my brother's attitude towards his sister-in-law has always been very poor, and he doesn't have many good faces.
Every day when I come home from work, I hear the sound of objects breaking and arguing from my brother's room.
The elder brother used foul language to force his sister-in-law to divorce, but the sister-in-law resolutely disagreed, and insisted on taking care of him after crying.
Gradually, I began to feel sorry for my sister-in-law. Sometimes, I can't help but stand in front of my brother and say a few words for my sister-in-law, "Brother, things have come to this point, and you should also learn to accept reality." My sister-in-law is pregnant with a child and has to take care of you, can't you feel sorry?”
However, my brother always responded angrily to me, "Whoever told you to mind my business, get out of here." ”
Looking at my brother's depressed expression, my heart was full of helplessness, and although I wanted to step forward and slap him, I still held back.
My sister-in-law had a dangerous fall that was worrying, and I was the only one at home that day, with both parents working outside and my brother resting in the room.
I quickly called a car and took my sister-in-law to the hospital.
After the doctor's examination, an emergency caesarean section was urgently recommended. My sister-in-law suddenly grabbed my hand and said worriedly, "Little sister, I'm so scared. ”
I held her hand tightly and comforted, "Don't be afraid, I'm always there for you." ”
Outside the operating room, I anxiously walked back and forth, praying silently in my heart, because everyone knows that childbirth is a time of uncertainty for women, and I only hope that my sister-in-law and child are safe.
Soon after, my parents arrived, and my mother anxiously asked me, "How is your sister-in-law?"How could she fall all of a sudden?”
I told my mom that I just accidentally fell and reassured her not to blame herself. But my mother said with tears: "It's all my fault, your sister-in-law is already pregnant for such a month, I should take care of her at home, why do I have to go out to work." ”
I reassured my mother that she didn't have to worry too much, and that her sister-in-law and children would be safe.
About half an hour later, the door to the operating room opened, and the doctor announced, "Mother and child are safe." ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and secretly rejoiced.
After four days in the hospital, my sister-in-law was finally discharged and returned home. We expected the eldest brother to smile more when he saw his child, but he only glanced at the child briefly, and then pushed the wheelchair into the bedroom silently.
We couldn't change my brother's decision, so we could only watch his back with palpitations.
The mother picked up her grandson lovingly, and said with a smile: "My good grandson is so handsome, your father is not sensible, I will love you in the future, let him live his secluded life alone." ”
We all laughed, including my sister-in-law.
Previously, the family had been shrouded in worry because of his brother's injury, but now that a new life has arrived, it seems to bring new hope.
The secret hidden in my heart may no longer matter, right?
After the sister-in-law finished her confinement, she proposed that she wanted to go to work.
My mother said distressedly: "The family economy is fine, you don't have to go to work, just stay at home and take care of the children, we can hire a nanny to help, and leave the money to me and your father." ”
The sister-in-law shook her head and said firmly: "In any case, I think it would be better for Xiaoqiang to get along with the child more." And we can't rely on you all the time. ”
The mother sighed, knowing that persuasion was useless, so she could only accompany her sister-in-law.
My sister-in-law went out to work, and my mother stayed at home to take care of the children and my brother, and during this time, we gradually noticed that my brother had undergone some changes.
Initially, we thought that the elder brother might have shown some changes out of the child's face, but he was still caught up in his own thinking and it was difficult to get rid of it.
Sometimes, the child will lose his temper and the older brother will get angry.
However, whenever I was at home, I would take my kids to my brother's bedroom to play. Even if my brother was impatient at first, I felt that as long as there was a little bit of fatherly love, this day would be a good day for us.
At first, my brother's response was not very good, but gradually, I found that he had become more patient with the child's crying.
Sometimes, I would pretend to have something to do and put the child in my brother's bed, and I didn't believe that he would really watch the child cry and ignore it.
A few minutes later, I peeked through the crack in the door and found my brother patiently coaxing the child in his arms.
That night, I shared this incredible observation with my father, mom and sister-in-law, who were also very surprised.
As time went on, we gradually noticed that my brother had a lot more smiles on his face, although he still struggled to hide his emotions.
My sister-in-law goes out early and returns late every day, and works hard for the future life.
Since my sister-in-law started working, my brother rarely brought up the topic of divorce anymore.
Perhaps, the distance makes the relationship between the two more harmonious, after all, when people are not together, there will be fewer conflicts.
Or, the sister-in-law and the child are struggling with the pain in the brother's heart day after day.
Year after year passed, the days passed quietly, and the little nephew gradually grew up.
During these years, I also experienced a deep love, although it did not end up happily ever after.
Later, I married a man who loved me, tolerated me, understood me, and gave birth to a lovely daughter.
At that time, I really understood my sister-in-law's mood at the beginning.
Maybe the sister-in-law initially loved someone else, but in the end she chose a flash marriage and married her brother who had always loved her deeply and tolerated her unconditionally.
This kind of affection may not be traditional love, but it is a deep family affection, which has long been integrated into their flesh and blood, and this emotion is more precious than love.
Over the years, every family member has seen the efforts made by my sister-in-law for this family, for my brother, and for my children.
The changes in my brother are not only brought about by the children, but also from the sister-in-law's daily care, tolerance, understanding, and her compromise.
In those difficult years, my sister-in-law withstood the pressure, and my brother seemed to have a new life. At his nephew's 10th birthday party, in front of all his relatives and friends, his brother expressed his heartfelt gratitude to his sister-in-law.
"Since my accident 11 years ago, every day has been a torment for me, and I have wanted to end my life countless times, but my wife has saved me from the edge of the cliff every time," my brother said. If it weren't for her, I would have been a cold corpse. ”
After speaking, there was warm applause all around, and I saw tears glistening in my sister-in-law's eyes.
The elder brother continued: "Over the years, I know that I have been lost and hurt my dearest people. But from today onwards, I hope they can rest assured. For the sake of my parents, for my wife and children, and for the sake of other relatives who love me, I will definitely work harder. Starting tomorrow, I will welcome a new version of myself. ”
After 11 years of immersion in the haze, my brother finally found a new life, and the secret I had hidden about my sister-in-law also made it sleep in my heart forever. This family finally walked out of the long dark night and ushered in the dawn of a new life.
Conclusion
This family finally walked out of the long dark night and ushered in the dawn of a new life. Since then, the elder brother has become more considerate and caring for his sister-in-law, and they have gone through difficult times in the family together and also shared the heartwarming moments in the family.
As time passed, the nephews grew up, and they thrived under the care of their sister-in-law, becoming the pride of the family.
My sister-in-law has also successfully achieved a work-family balance and is constantly working hard for the future of herself and her children. She showed tenacity and maternal strength and became a mainstay of the family.
The story of this family teaches us that affection and perseverance can overcome all difficulties in life. The love between sister-in-law and brother may not be the first passion, but their affection and perseverance make the family even more indestructible. It's a true story of love, perseverance, and family that shines forever through every corner of their lives.