I'm 72 years old, and I've been busy all my life, and I haven't accomplished anything big.
is to give birth to a pair of children, and her husband is honest and reliable.
Ten years ago, my husband passed away due to illness, and my daughter was filial, and after assisting me in dealing with my wife's funeral, she took me to her home.
This stay is ten years, and it can be regarded as worry-free food and clothing, and enjoy old age in peace.
However, on this day, I decided to pack my bags and move because of one thing.
In the past ten years, my daughter and son-in-law have been very good to me.
Knowing that I like to eat soft and rotten food, that there are dishes on the table that suit my tastes, and that I like to watch TV series, my daughter installed a TV for me in the bedroom.
Knowing that when I was young, I liked to travel, and they always took me around whenever they were free.
Suddenly, one day, the daughter-in-law came by an appointment, and she said mysteriously, "Mom, I'm here to pick you up." ”
I was taken aback: "Did something happen to my son?"”
The daughter-in-law's eyes immediately turned red: "Mom, you live in your sister's house all the year round, and if outsiders don't know, they blame me for not being filial, I really can't afford this infamy!."”
I listened and was very moved, but I felt that something was wrong.
Helplessly, I packed up my things and followed my daughter-in-law away.
However, within a few days of arriving at my son's house, I discovered their intentions.
My son's house is very small. It's a two-bedroom apartment.
I hadn't lived here before, in large part because of the small size of the house.
They lived just right for a family of three, and after I came, my grandson moved to the living room.
Within two days, the grandson quit and cried to move back to the bedroom.
The daughter-in-law pointed at him and scolded: "Grandma has only been here for a few days, you can't stand it?"She's going to live with us for the rest of her life!Your days have just begun!”
My grandson looked at me aggrievedly: "Grandma has a big house, which is empty, and she came to grab my bed!."”
Yes, I do have a large empty house, the only property left to me by the old man.
Because, the old man died at home, and I really didn't want to go back, so as not to bring back memories of the past.
At night, I was looking through the old **, and my son knocked on the door and came in.
I looked at him and stopped, and took the initiative to speak: "Say, you have something on your heart, mother and son have no secrets, just say it." ”
The son sat down next to the bed: "Mom, you have also seen the environment of our family. Originally, I was a son, so I should have given you a pension. However, the house is too small, and now the house price is so high, if you help me, I can be more filial to you. Moreover, the house is appreciating, let's change to a bigger house, which is also an investment. ”
I nodded, it was time to come, and it was still here.
I either don't know their minds, or I'm waiting for them to speak.
I'm alone now, living in my daughter's house all the time, and it's really not like words.
However, his son's abilities are limited, so he can only live like this.
As a mother, there's only so much I can help him.
I closed the album: "Needless to say, that old house, sell it, you go and do this, don't let your daughter-in-law interfere!".”
When the son heard this, he jumped up excitedly: "No problem, I'll do it myself!."”
My old house, in a good location, is still a school district house, and it was quickly taken off.
Most of the money from the sale of the house was subsidized for his son's new house.
On the day I moved into the new house, my daughter-in-law happily hugged me and called me "Mommy" non-stop. It's been a long time since I've seen her so welcoming.
Originally, I thought that all this was as she wanted, and I could live a stable life for a few years.
Unexpectedly, one day, my daughter-in-law came to my room with a sad face.
Mom, you sold the house last time, don't you still have some money left?My daughter-in-law asked me timidly.
I was stunned: "It's a part, what's wrong?".”
The daughter-in-law came over: "Mom, you see that you live with us, and you don't have to spend money to eat and drink." You might as well leave your spare money and salary card to me for safekeeping. I took it to save for a fixed term and used the interest to supplement my family. ”
As soon as I heard it, I understood it all.
first asked me to change her house, and then managed my money, and co-authored it to let me help her live a comfortable life.
I shook my head: "Do you treat me like a mother?".”
The daughter-in-law raised her eyebrows: "Mom, if you are an old man, you have to live more transparently, and you can't take this money away." ”
I was so angry that I was dizzy: "I've already changed the house for you, what's the matter, I have a little money left, and you still don't let it go?."”
The daughter-in-law took a step forward: "Mom, be a man with a conscience, that old house, to be honest, our family also has a share, not your property alone!."”
Moreover, you are old, and when the time comes, you will get sick and spend more money, so I just plan ahead and plan ahead!The daughter-in-law said shamelessly.
I slapped the table hard and yelled, "You don't daydream, it's impossible!".”
I was slapping my daughter ** while packing up my things.
I went back to my daughter's house, but this time I felt that my daughter and son-in-law were not treating me the way they had done before.
They whispered a lot, and when I wanted to hear it, they didn't say anything.
So, I secretly called my granddaughter to me: "Tell my grandmother, what are your parents usually discussing?".”
My granddaughter put her ear to me and said, "My grandma is gone, and my dad wants to take grandpa over." They said, you and grandpa, there can only be one person living here. ”
I understand that my mother-in-law passed away last year, and my father-in-law is not in good health, so he should indeed live with his son.
There was no room left in the house, and I came back suddenly, disrupting their plans.
That night, I couldn't sleep, and when I woke up the next day, I made a decision.
I put the remaining 200,000 yuan from the sale of the house on my granddaughter's desk.
I still have a pension, and the money my wife left me, so I can support myself.
There are many old sisters who have moved to nursing homes, and I also went to them to be companions.
However, the day after I arrived at the nursing home, my daughter and son-in-law came to me crying.
My son-in-law "poofed" and knelt down in front of me: "Mom!."I was wrong, you move back, we will give you a pension!”
My daughter also wiped her tears in my arms: "Mom, you go back with me." ”
It is said that raising children to prevent old age, but I have seen the two sides of raising children to prevent old age.
Although, they are willing to provide me with material support, which is a manifestation of raising children to prevent old age.
However, on the other hand, their respect and emotional communication with me were very different.
I felt taken advantage of and ignored by my daughter-in-law's demanding.
Filial piety to one's parents is not only material support, but more importantly, spiritual care and respect.
Only in this way can we truly achieve the goal of raising children and preventing old age, so that the elderly can get real peace and happiness in their old age.