Parenting, every family, everyone has their own way. But without exception, it's for the good of the child. But why are some children ordinary, while others are exceptionally bright. What role do we play in accompanying our children through the first stages of life?Whether it is a "benefactor", "educator", "manager", "judge", or "grateful", "companion", "helper", "sharer". ”
Benefactor: "I give life to my children, I feed and clothe them, I send them to school, I give them everything, so I have the right to manage everything about my children, and the children must listen to me." ”
Thanksgiving: "I am grateful to my children for giving me the opportunity to become a parent, grateful to my children for their tolerance of me in the process of accompanying me, grateful to my children for bringing me happiness, and grateful to my children for letting me grow." ”
Educator: "As a parent, with the best experience, with the best point of view, for the child's behavior, big and small things must be corrected".
Companion: "Let go of the identity of the parent, analyze the child's behavior, do not arbitrarily correct the child, the child encounters difficulties, and can stand in the child's perspective to challenge the difficulties with the child".
Manager: "Plan your child's life, plan every step of your child's life, and as long as your child doesn't achieve your goals as planned, complain that your child is disobedient and even collapse yourself." ”
Helper: "Help the child to make plans and goals for each stage together, and in the process of achieving the goal, the difficulties encountered will be faced with the child, summarize the experience, and help the child achieve the goal." ”
Judge: "With the mentality that I eat more salt than you eat, from the perspective of an adult, condescendingly evaluate every behavior of the child, and constantly give the child all kinds of opinions and instill all kinds of great truths." ”
Sharer: "Don't judge children's behavior at will, don't condescendingly talk to children, children encounter difficulties, can stand in the child's perspective to share their past experiences, and work together to ** things that children are interested in." ”
Parents, if you are still a child, in what way would you like your parents to accompany you?It must be accompanied as a "grateful person", "companion", "helper" and "sharer". But it is undeniable that such a change of identity is not easy. There is a saying that says: "Do not do to others what you do not want to be done to yourself", everyone has learned it, as a parent, you must also have the courage to admit your mistakes, know your mistakes and correct your mistakes, and you will definitely be able to grow into a qualified parent.