Most people usually accept the lessons of their elders with humility when faced with them;However, without the advice of their peers, some may be dissatisfied. If you are blamed by your juniors, almost everyone will feel embarrassed. The relationship between generations is important, but it is undoubtedly sad that someone is reduced to the point of being criticized by the younger generation.
Aunt Zhang, 64 years old this year, recently moved to her daughter's home for the elderly due to physical reasons. Although the son-in-law seemed to be dissatisfied with Aunt Zhang's arrival, he still did enough work on the surface and did not make Aunt Zhang feel too embarrassed. However, his grandson's attitude was completely different, he often pointed fingers at Aunt Zhang, and even scolded loudly because of an extra piece of chicken leg.
I've never been in good health, and I remember when I gave birth to my daughter, it literally cost me half of my life. At that time, I firmly stated that I would not have children again, and my wife always respected my decision. As a result, we only had one daughter, and we never thought about adding more. Seeing other people's families full of children and grandchildren, there is only one girl in our family, and sometimes I feel a little lonely.
One child has the benefit of having one child. At that time, others worked hard to save money, but our family lived a leisurely life. The family does not have a large number of people, and although the income is not high, the expenses are not large. For so many years, our lives have been uneventful and uneventful.
My daughter inherited the stupidity of my wife and me, and her grades in Xi from primary school were not outstanding, and after graduating from junior high school, she stopped studying and chose to go out to work with the villagers. Within two years, she brought back a young man, and she thought she would get married happily, but it didn't take long for the two to break up. My daughter was heartbroken, and I was devastated and decided to find a good home for my daughter.
Through introductions, we got acquainted with a young man selling electric cars in the next village. Although the young man was short, he seemed to be full of energy and eloquence. The daughter was also very happy with him, and it didn't take long for them to tie the knot. For the bride price, we didn't ask for too much, but only symbolically accepted 100,000 yuan. After all, my wife and I may have to rely on our son-in-law for the future.
After her daughter got married, she moved to the next village with her son-in-law, and at first she often went home to visit. However, as the son-in-law moved to the city and the daughter followed, the number of visits to the home became less and less. My wife and I used to feel quite sad and watched other people's children come home from time to time, while our daughter was basically only in contact through **. That's when we really understand the meaning of the phrase "the water spilled by the married daughter".
Even though my daughter rarely comes home, at least my wife and I can support each other through our lives. I began to miss my daughter, and I began to miss my grandson. This longing gradually deepened, and appetite and sleep were also affected. I was already in poor health, but now I feel even more uncomfortable. I thought I wouldn't live for a few years, but I didn't expect my wife to walk ahead of me.
Suddenly, my wife fell seriously ill, collapsed to the ground, and passed away just three days after being sent to the hospital. After the death of his wife, his daughter and son-in-law finally appeared. When I saw my daughter again, I couldn't help but cry bitterly. However, she had an awkward smile on her face, as if she didn't know me, and it made me feel almost strange.
The wife left, and the daughter and son-in-law did not come with their grandson. Although my grandson is no longer a child, I missed the final goodbye to my grandfather, which is really sad. I don't know if I should blame my grandson for being ignorant, or my daughter and son-in-law. In those days, I was in a state of confusion and lost interest in a lot of things.
From then on, I was the only one left to live. Living alone was unbearable, not only mentally tortured, but also physically painful. During that time, anxiety permeated my life, and I frequently called my daughter and begged her to take me to the hospital. Finally, one day, my son-in-law drove me to the hospital, and after some examination, the doctor prescribed a bunch of medicines, and the pain was still there.
Calling for their daughter and son-in-law many times, they finally couldn't stand it anymore. Once, my daughter scolded me in **, accusing me of being troublesome and pretending to be sick to cause them trouble. I was very chilled at the time, but fortunately my daughter's conscience had not yet dissipated. After she scolded me that night, she personally drove me to pick me up the next day and take me to their home for the elderly.
Seeing my daughter and son-in-law personally driving to pick me up, I didn't know whether to be happy or sad. However, considering that I have no pension and no savings, and I depend on my daughter and son-in-law for my life, I decided that it would be better to go to their house. So, I packed my luggage, got into my daughter's car, and made a bumpy ride to their home.
Even at my daughter's house, I only go to it a handful of times. On this visit again, everything seemed strange and new. I was amazed by the white cloth on the sofa, the dark brown color of the bookshelves, and the chandelier that changes colors. I was even a little apprehensive when I sat on the sofa, for fear of soiling my daughter's beloved sofa.
Usually when people go to their children's homes to care for the elderly, the first meal will be arranged heartily and deliciously, after all, it is an important welcome ceremony. However, I was retired at my daughter's house, and I could only eat some leftovers from noon on the first night. Although I feel a little Xi uncomfortable, I think that my daughter and son-in-law work hard, and it is already good to be prepared, so why ask too much.
After the meal, I settled into the room that my daughter had prepared for me. The bed was quite hard, which made me feel sore in my body, but I felt solid in my heart. To be honest, I felt that my illness was mainly psychological. Now that I live in my daughter's house, I feel much better and my mood is much calmer.
The next day, my daughter and son-in-law went to work, and it was just me and my grandson who was on summer vacation. I always doted on my grandson, but unfortunately he kept a certain distance from me. In front of his daughter and son-in-law, the grandson was able to maintain some politeness, but once the two left, everything changed.
I was bored at home and thinking about doing something like doing household chores like washing dishes and sweeping the floor. I told my grandson what I thought, but I didn't expect him to immediately respond to me: "Grandma, don't help me." He said impatiently, and then went straight back to his room to play the game. Being choked by my grandson like this, I didn't feel inappropriate, but I felt a little funny. This kid is only 13 years old, how can he talk like a little adult, and he can still give me a lecture.
When my daughter came home in the evening, I told her about the funny thing. The daughter laughed, and only the son-in-law twitched without smiling. At that time, I didn't realize how many "surprises" this grandson would bring me.
In the days that followed, I lived my old age life as usual, spending most of my time in my living room and occasionally in my room. Sometimes when my daughter and son-in-law go out, I will talk to my grandson. My grandson's attitude towards me has always been very bad, and I understand that, after all, he was not brought up by me in the first place, and he is not familiar with me.
But to my displeasure, my grandson's attitude towards me became worse as time went on. Once, I had just walked out of the room and saw my grandson eating an apple. I casually said, "Good grandson, get me one." "I didn't expect my grandson to pick up an apple and throw it at my head, smashing me into the eye.
I was really shocked at the time, but my grandson smiled and apologized, and I was really speechless. The force with which he smashed people was obviously not to hand me apples, but more like he was simply trying to hit me. At that time, the daughter was not at home, and the son-in-law sat on the sofa and played with his mobile phone, obviously seeing the whole process, but as if he didn't see anything.
I had no choice but to be a grandson, not on purpose. However, this incident made me realize even more that I am really an outsider in this family. At home, I was able to be smashed by my grandson with an apple, and for some things, I decided to try to avoid it as much as possible. In the following days, I tried to be a "transparent person", showing up less and talking less, which was really better, everyone didn't care about me, and my life was relatively peaceful.
However, no one is perfect, and some people are just looking for trouble. My daughter reprimanded me from time to time, my son-in-law always found fault with me, and even my grandson learned to be dismissive of me. In this home, I really don't feel like a cat.
One day, the son-in-law made braised chicken thighs on a whim, and he made five of them first and placed them neatly on the table. I was a little hungry at the time, so I took one to eat, and halfway through the meal, I found that my teeth were a little stuffy, so I went to get a toothpick. Accidentally bumped into another chicken leg and ended up hitting that chicken leg on the table.
I thought it wasn't the right place to put the chicken thighs back on the table, so I picked them up and put them in my own bowl. Who knew that the grandson suddenly roared: "You haven't finished eating your own, why do you still have one?".He questioned violently, I was stunned for a moment, and before I could explain, he continued: "You ate 2 of the 5 chicken legs, do you think this is your home?"”
Faced with this 13-year-old menacing grandson, I could only look at my daughter sitting on the sofa playing with her mobile phone. However, she lowered her head as if she hadn't heard anything, and I turned to my son-in-law again. The son-in-law was still busy in the kitchen, tapping pots and pans, as if he was deliberately avoiding them.
I chose to ignore my grandson's questioning, and just got up and went back to my room, and began to pack my bags and prepare to leave. I decided I wanted to go back to my hometown. Seeing that I was about to leave, my daughter finally spoke: "Mom, don't be like a child, he is not sensible." I didn't respond, just waved my hand and walked straight out. My grandson was even more excited, and even picked up a stool and threatened to smash me, while my son-in-law was still busy in the kitchen, not squinting, and only my daughter kept stopping my grandson.
I had no choice but to get out of the house and spent 40 yuan to buy a ticket back to my hometown. On the way, I looked out the window at the scenery and couldn't hold back my tears. From the very beginning, I should have realized that my daughter and son-in-law did not welcome me, so why should I bother myself?100 help plan