There is a good saying: "Middle age is a period of war and chaos." "Indeed, as we enter middle age, we often feel pressed for time and overwhelmed by life. Middle-aged fatigue stems from the fact that we often spend energy on trivial matters and struggle to maintain useless relationships. As Lin Yutang said, "The wisdom of life lies in gradually eliminating those unimportant impurities and preserving the most important parts." "When you reach middle age, you can't waste time and energy on these two things, and you can only live comfortably and comfortably by cutting down on the complexity.
Unnecessary socialization is not necessary.
Dong Yuhui became popular on the live broadcast, and an old friend came to visit him after learning the news, hoping to Xi learn from him and communicate with him. Friends often organize dinner events and invite him to join them, because he is often seen alone. When Dong Yuhui just wanted to refuse, his friend immediately said: "These people are important relationships in the future, and only by attending more gatherings can we meet valuable people." ”
Faced with the enthusiasm of his friends, Dong Yuhui had to put down his work and hurried to the dinner. However, as soon as he arrived at his destination, he began to regret that the banquet was filled with smoke, and people raised their glasses, whether they spoke or closed, were exaggerating past experiences and complaining about life. When they get emotional, they bang the table and even drop their chopsticks. Dong Yuhui sat in the crowd, he didn't have a chance to say a word at all, and it looked very incongruous.
Recently, Dong Yuhui's WeChat friends have increased a lot, but he hasn't really built a deep relationship with anyone. Since the nightly dinner took up a lot of time, he himself missed a lot of the planned plans. When an old friend invited Dong Yuhui again, he resolutely refused. Since then, the two have not been in touch. When Dong Yuhui recalled this incident, he said helplessly: "My time and energy are limited, and instead of wasting them on meaningless social activities, it is better to use them to improve my ability and literacy." ”
In our daily lives, we often encounter this situation: relatives who have not been in touch for a long time organize a party, friends who are not familiar with us visit, colleagues invite us to have afternoon tea. Even if we don't want to, we will try our best to fit in, thinking that this kind of social interaction can enhance our relationship and expand our network. Many people don't realize that clinking glasses at a drinking party doesn't bring about a heart-to-heart exchange at the end of the partyRunning around in various social venues, although it may seem like a lot of fun, is actually just a waste of time.
Writer Xue Xiaozen once said: "When a person reaches a certain age, the focus of his life will turn back." "Finally, get together with a few confidants, drink a light cup of tea, and make life the way you want. If a meal is meaningless, we can skip it, after all, social activities should be a moment of relaxation for the body and mind. If there is an opportunity to avoid this kind of energy-draining socialization, we can also choose not to participate. By dedicating your limited time to enriching yourself and spending time with your family, your life will become more fulfilling and colorful.
Bad Xi
Bacon once said, "Man can do many stupid things in his life, but the most stupid thing is not to pay attention to his health." "After middle age, we especially need a strong body to withstand life's challenges.
Mr. Li Xuejian, who won the Best Actor award, neglected to pay attention to his health when he was young because of his busy work: when he was not in good condition at work, he would drink liquor to refresh himself;Lacking inspiration when acting, he smokes frequently;Sometimes when filming, I can't eat, so I have to solve it at will to relieve hunger. Over time, he was prone to coughing, and sometimes his throat would swell and sore for no apparent reason. Although his family advised him to pay attention to his body, he always ignored it.
During the filming of "China Orbit", he suddenly felt a very sore throat. He thought it was because he was tired from filming, so he didn't care, thinking that as long as he persisted, he would get better. Unexpectedly, my throat was getting more and more sore, and I even coughed up blood. After some examination, I learned that I had been diagnosed with nasopharyngeal cancer. As his condition worsened, his neck began to swell and fester, and he felt severe pain even when he drank water. He spent all his savings because the surgery was very expensive. Fortunately, the condition was discovered in time, and after some **, his health was restored.
After Li Xuejian was discharged from the hospital, he often said: "Only by experiencing a serious illness can we truly understand that the body is the most valuable asset." "When we reach middle age, we often pay attention to the health of our parents and worry about our children's health, but we often neglect our own health. Even if you don't feel good physically, you always choose to ignore it, always thinking that the future is still long, and you will take care of yourself slowly in the future.
We often underestimate our bodies, but they don't know that they are as strong as we think. Any single neglect can become a hidden danger in the future.
In the days to come, you can stop and take a break when you feel tired, and stick to exercise when you have free time. Every penny invested in our bodies will be rewarded even more in the future. Staying healthy is essential throughout life's journey. Only by maintaining good health can we enjoy ordinary and long days and have lasting happiness.
Su Qin once said: "Everyone's time and energy are limited. Learn to do subtraction in order to get a light and flexible life. "We may not be able to stop the passage of time, but we can change the focus of our lives and devote our limited energy to more valuable things. Only by staying away from the noise can we enjoy the beauty of life;Only by taking care of your body can you give more support to your family;Only by giving moderately can we make our sincerity not disappointed. I hope that in the years to come, we will be healthy physically and mentally, and we will have confidants by our side to make ordinary days full of vitality and beauty.