People don't see through until they are seventy, and their children and wives cannot be relied on
As the years go by, people who are old often face a vexing problem - being disliked.
On the topic of "old age", Professor Zeng Shiqiang once mentioned in a speech that as people get older, people tend to feel impatience from the younger generation. Whenever I see the elderly people living in nursing homes, I often wonder why the elderly are so undignified, and whose responsibility is it?
Reality is like a mirror, reflecting the various states of the world. Our vision of an ideal happy old age may be just wishful thinking. The real side may be more "cruel" than we fantasize.
Many seniors have to look at other people's faces when they are about to retire, and even become free nannies after retirement. As a result, their lives became more and more "bleak".
Therefore, modern people have begun to think about a question: why do people still live so aggrieved in their old age?When we raise our children to prevent old age, shouldn't we expect that the older we get, the more respected our children and grandchildren will be?
There is a popular saying on the Internet that expresses this dilemma, raising children to prevent old age is a luxury, the elderly enjoy the joy of family is a fantasy, and being bullied and disliked in old age, and even being a cow and a horse for their children is the reality.
It may only be at a certain age that people fully understand that old age is not as simple as we think.
When people reach their seventies, they know that their children and wives are more "ruthless" than outsiders.
In the town, 70-year-old Li has been bedridden for eight years. In the past eight years, he has a deeper understanding of world affairs, and also gives him insight into the "world and people's hearts".
At the age of 62, Lao Li suffered a stroke due to a sudden illness, and then complications occurred, so he could only lie in bed. At this time, the children discussed how to share the responsibilities and contribute their own money and efforts to take care of their father.
However, Lao Li's younger brother couldn't stand it and persuaded his children to share the responsibility. Unfortunately, every child fights for money and has no common aspirations.
A few years have passed, and Lao Li's younger brother can't help himself anymore and can no longer help his eldest brother who is sick in bed. The attitude of the children has become more and more indifferent, sometimes playing ball, sometimes playing tai chi, which makes people feel deeply chilled.
Lao Li was lying on the bed, seeing all this, he was full of emotion. He had worked hard to raise them, but he didn't expect them to be so indifferent, and they were really "no filial son in front of the bed for a long time"!
The only thing he didn't expect was that his wife moved to his daughter's house to help take care of his grandson, and was unwilling to stay in the old house to take care of him.
The love between husband and wife for many years has disappeared because of his "sick in bed". This is the tragedy of Lao Li's later years.
In today's era of increasingly popular education, we should perhaps think deeply about a phenomenon: why does the problem of "no filial son before the bed of a long illness" still exist?
In fact, this is not only a question of education level or individual quality, but also involves the fundamental problem of "wealth interests" and "human nature".
Each person's own "personal interest" is often the primary consideration. This dooms everyone to be more inclined to pursue matters related to their own interests, and it is difficult to show selfless and unprofitable behavior.
When it comes to caring for the elderly and providing for their parents, many children are often unable to sustain themselves because they also need to take care of their own family responsibilities. At this point, where do they go from here?
Their only choice seems to be to act in the best interests of themselves or their families, and they may therefore choose to "abandon" their elderly parents. Otherwise, the number of nursing homes will not continue to increase, and the elderly care service industry will not be so prosperous.
To judge whether the elderly are happy, one only needs to observe whether the business of the nursing home is thriving. If the business of nursing homes is booming, it means that there are more elderly people who are abandoned by their children, and relatively few elderly people who can enjoy family togetherness.
Imagine why you would choose to go to a nursing home if the elderly could care for the elderly at homeThis only means that children will choose to send them to nursing homes if they are unwilling or unable to take care of their parents.
It is indeed a tragedy when people get old. At least for those who do not have a lot of wealth and children who lack filial piety, old age often marks the beginning of misfortune.
In recent years, it is not difficult to find that unfilial behavior has gradually increased, and it is not uncommon for children and parents to face off in court. It can be said that today's parent-child relationship is in jeopardy.
Where did the source of this collapse come from?In my opinion, there are three main reasons.
First of all, the issue of money directly touches everyone's interests.
Some children lose interest in caring for their parents after they have been given property from their parents. There are also children who are not willing to spend time and money to take care of their parents. This is a reality in which "family affection loses to interests".
Secondly, the cost of old-age care is gradually rising, and children and parents are gradually unable to do it.
If children are unfilial to their parents because of money problems, then the responsibility may not be entirely on the children. When we think about it, we will find that this is also related to the "rising cost of living".
Third, people's thinking and emotions are gradually tending to be indifferent.
In contemporary society, people seem to be less concerned about feelings and family values than they used to be. For many people, money seems to be more important than feelings. As a result, they are more inclined to choose to chase wealth, and in the process, their feelings gradually fade.
For the above phenomenon, we can't help but remind that everyone will face the stage of aging. Today may be the unfortunate old age, but tomorrow it may be our own destiny. It's just an inevitable consequence of the passage of time.