What to do after a quarrel with an adolescent?Hello dear parents!I'm sure every parent has had an argument with their child at one time or another, especially when the child enters puberty. In the face of our children's resistance and incomprehension, we may feel helpless, tired or even anxious. However, remember that these challenges are all part of growing up, and we need to learn how to properly handle these conflicts to help our children grow up healthy.
So, what to do after a quarrel with an adolescent?Today, I would like to share with you some of my experiences and advice in homeschooling.
First of all, we need to understand the psychological characteristics of adolescent children. Children at this stage are experiencing great physical and psychological changes, and their emotions may become very sensitive and unstable. They may rebel against their parents' rules and expectations, trying to find self-identity and independence. Therefore, when we have a conflict with them, we need to try to remain calm and rational and avoid emotional responses.
Many parents have a tense relationship with their children, and in the long run, it is very detrimental to the development and long-term development of children's character
Purely by yelling at the child or strict discipline, it is basically in vain, and the child is even more disgusted, I came here like this, until a few months ago, in the Gaotu beautiful family Xi for a period of time, with Song Li teacher learned too much, we first learned Song Li's adolescent class, at first because after the junior high school, the child's grades were originally in the middle, but after junior high school, new courses such as geography and biology were added, the child was very hard at the beginning, but in the second half of the year, the opportunity was very late and even he was rotten and did not learn Xi！
The family was also very anxious, but they couldn't control their emotions, which caused the smell of gunpowder at home to be particularly strong during that time, basically blowing up at one point, and the child was becoming more and more rebellious. Asking for help from the teacher, the teacher let science guide and recommended Teacher Song Li's class, the first half of the second year of junior high school, basically we stabilized, and the child also realized the value of learning Xi, and worked hard to catch up, and the atmosphere at home was also good, so it was worth learning Xi.
Secondly, we need to learn effective communication skills. After an argument with our child, we can give them some time to calm down before trying to communicate. We can choose an appropriate time and place to express our feelings and thoughts in a calm tone, while also respecting and listening to the child's point of view. We can try using an "i" statement, such as "I feel ......Instead of "You're always ......."This prevents the child from feeling attacked and is more willing to open up.
Again, we need to set clear family rules. While teens may rebel against rules, clear, fair rules can help them build good behavior Xi and responsibility. We can work with our children to make rules and involve them in the decision-making process so that they will be more willing to follow the rules. At the same time, we need to stick to the rules, even in the face of our children's resistance.
Finally, we need to give our children enough love and support. Adolescence is a challenging time and children need our understanding and support. We can have regular heart-to-heart conversations with our children to understand their thoughts and feelings, and give them the necessary guidance and help. At the same time, we also need to praise their efforts and progress, and enhance their self-confidence and self-esteem.
What to do after a quarrel with an adolescent?Quarreling with an adolescent child is an inevitable challenge in homeschooling. However, as long as we are able to understand our children's psychological characteristics, master effective communication skills, set clear family rules, and give our children enough love and support, we can successfully cope with these challenges and help our children grow up healthy.