I'm Li Jingyi, 26 years old, a kindergarten teacher. I remember that day, Zhang Wei and I, my husband, stood in front of our new house, and our hearts were so excited that we felt like we were overturned.
Zhang Wei, 28 years old, is an architect, and his eyebrows are always a little calm and serious. With the help of our parents, we finally had our own nest.
Jingyi, we finally have our own home!Zhang Wei took my hand, his eyes full of anticipation for the future.
However, the good times did not last long, and my mother-in-law suddenly offered to move in with us.
It was to "take better care" of our newlyweds, she said.
I remember that day, Zhang Wei turned his head and asked me: "Jingyi, my mother said that she would come and stay with us for a while, what do you think?"”
I was stunned for a moment, a little apprehensive in my heart. Although I get along well with my mother-in-law, living in the same room is always another thing.
I tried to make my voice sound as easy as possible: "Well, since Mom said so, let's do our filial piety." ”
In fact, the little abacus in my heart is playing: will my mother-in-law interfere too much in our lives when she comes?
But it's hard to say it bluntly, after all, in the traditional concept, filial piety is the top priority.
In the first month after my mother-in-law moved in, everything seemed to be harmonious.
But slowly, she began to dictate our lives.
Once, my mother-in-law looked at me washing clothes at night, so she frowned and said: "Jingyi, you see your Xi of washing clothes, it's true, the water is not clean, how can the clothes be cleaned?"”
I smiled awkwardly, "Mom, the washing machines are all automatic nowadays, and it will take care of it." ”
She continued: "Also, the taste of your cooking is too light, and our family eats heavy flavors." ”
I felt a little uncomfortable, but I endured it.
What I didn't expect was that when I excitedly told her about my pregnancy, she didn't react at all.
As a result, the next day, she said, "I have to go back to my hometown to deal with some things, you should pay more attention to yourself." ”
I turned to Zhang Wei and said, "Husband, my mother knows that I am pregnant, but she wants to go back to her hometown." I thought she would stay and take care of me. ”
Zhang Wei patted my hand gently, "Don't worry, there's me." ”
I nodded, but I always felt a little lost. It was a joy that everyone shared, but it became so cold.
After my mother-in-law left home, Zhang Wei and I were left at home. During that time, I was very tired.
Although Zhang Wei comforts me every day when he comes back from work, it is too hard for him to go to work and take care of me alone.
Jingyi, why don't we hire a babysitter?This way you will also be better cared for during pregnancy. Zhang Wei made this suggestion.
I hesitated and nodded. "It's okay, at least someone can help you, and you can be more relaxed. ”
We found an experienced babysitter who was attentive and warm, which made my pregnancy less difficult.
Half a year later, when I gave birth to my baby, my mother-in-law suddenly returned. As soon as she entered the door and saw the nanny, her face changed.
What's going on?You hired a babysitter?There was obvious dissatisfaction in the mother-in-law's voice.
I smiled awkwardly, "Mom, I can't handle it alone during your absence, so we'll just."
My mother-in-law interrupted me, "I am your mother-in-law, and it is my responsibility to take care of you and the children. You hire a nanny, do you think I can't take care of it?”
I hurriedly explained, "No, Mom, it's because we don't want to trouble you, and."
Zhang Wei interjected: "Mom, Jingyi was not there during her pregnancy, and we were forced to do so." ”
My mother-in-law's face softened a little, but I could feel that she was still a little unhappy.
In the days after my mother-in-law returned, the atmosphere at home became a little awkward.
One day after dinner, I decided to talk to my mother-in-law.
Mom, in fact, asking for a babysitter is mainly for your body, and we don't want to make you work too hard. I said cautiously.
The mother-in-law sighed, "Jingyi, I know you mean well, but I always feel that as a mother-in-law, I have the responsibility to take care of you. ”
Mom, we all know how kind you are to us. But you also have to give us some freedom. ”
Well, I try to let go. You are also adults, and you have your own ideas and space. ”
At that moment, I felt finally relieved.
Since then, my mother-in-law has learned to respect our private space, even though she still lives in our house. The atmosphere at home slowly eased.
This experience taught me that family harmony is not only about caring for each other, but also about understanding and respecting each other.
This kind of parent is shorter, which is more down-to-earth and warm.