A reader left me a message, complaining about a colleague in the company:
I have a colleague who has probably been in the company for a long time and is very greasy. Every time he ordered takeout, he asked me to help me order together, saying that he was too old to order, but he rarely gave me money in time.
I don't know if he forgot or deliberately didn't give it, because the money was not much every time, I was embarrassed to ask him directly, but I was really upset. No one's money is blown by the wind, and besides, I just graduated, so my salary is not high. ”
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I replied to him like this:
The next time he behaves like this again, you will directly ask him for money, half-jokingly and half-seriously, and let him settle the previous account. Don't be embarrassed about this kind of person who has no 'money', the more polite and tolerant you are, the more you will suffer in the end. ”
I've always believed that money is like a mirror that often best reflects a person's true appearance. Money and character see character, a person with poor money and character will definitely not be better than **, and he will never be able to make deep friends.
So, how can you tell if a person's money is bad?
To sum up, there are three main manifestations of people with poor money.
Love takes advantage of small advantages
This old colleague asks the newcomer to order takeout but does not pay for it, and there are often two reasons:
First, relying on the old and selling the old, relying on their seniority, bullying the newcomers;The second is that you love to take advantage of small advantages, and you are embarrassed to ask for it, and you will not miss it if you have a cheap advantage.
The first common manifestation of people with poor money quality is that they love to take advantage of small advantages.
In real life, some people's small abacus is always very shrewd, and they never do what they suffer, and they always have to take a little bit of cheapness, no matter how big or small.
When going out to eat with friends, some people almost never pay, and when they pay, either their phone crashes, or they have a stomachache to go to the toilet, anyway, every time they are treated by friends;
When you go to someone else's house, some people always try to go back when they see something good;
I have a friend who is a designer, so I ask someone to help design the new house, but I don't mention the cost at all;
The reason why people who love to take advantage of small advantages cannot have deep friendships is because most of these people are selfish, and they do not hesitate to encroach on and damage the interests of others for their own interests, and it is inevitable that they will suffer losses when they associate with them.
Moreover,People who like to take advantage of small things often find it difficult to make a big profit.
My friend Lao Liang once said that one of his colleagues has good ability, but he has not been promoted for many years in the company, because the boss does not like him very much.
The reason why he is not liked by the boss is that he likes to take advantage of small advantages too much. went out to take a taxi for 30 yuan, and he went to the finance to reimburse 35 yuan;50 yuan for dinner, he can reimburse 70 yuan. Sometimes he tried his best to reimburse some expenses incurred by himself due to personal matters.
If you do too much, you will naturally show your feet, but because they are all small accounts, the boss has not pursued them, but it is certain that he has no good feelings, so he has not been treated very well.
Love to take advantage of small advantages seems to be cheap, but in fact, it often loses more. This person seems to be smart, but he is not smart at all.
Borrowed money and not repaid
Since money is mentioned, it is natural that the topic of "borrowing money" cannot be avoided.
I believe that many people have encountered the situation of being borrowed by someone, or even a friend who borrowed money and did not pay it back.
The second common manifestation of people with poor money quality is that they borrow money and do not repay it on time.
Some time ago, a woman knelt on the street and cried bitterly and begged someone to pay back the money** became popular on the Internet. The woman and the man had a good relationship, and lent the other party 600,000 yuan, but did not set up an IOU.
Who knew that when it came to the agreed date to repay the money, the other party turned his face and refused to admit it, not only moved quietly, but also blocked her.
Later, the two met by chance on the street, but the other party still refused to pay back. In desperation, the woman knelt on the ground and hugged each other tightly, begging her to return the money to herself
You owe me 600,000, I only need 500,000, and I don't want 100,000. ”
This ** quickly fermented on the Internet, causing heated discussions among netizens. The reason why it can cause heated discussions is that many people feel the same way about it:It's easy to lend money, but it's too hard to get it back.
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Many times, when you borrow money, the other party begs hard, but when you ask for money, you become the one who asks for it.
Some people obviously have money to eat, drink and have fun, but they don't pay back other people's money, no matter how the other party urges, they just delay and delay, and they also deal with the reputation of others in a straightforward manner, "This person is too uninteresting, borrowing him some money is not paying him back, urging every day, annoying to death."
There are still quite a few people of this kind of scoundrel.
If a person borrows someone else's money, if he directly avoids talking about it, does not repay the money, or always procrastinates, then this person is definitely going to stay away.
Money and character are seen in character, and this kind of person's character is often very bad.
Not financially independent
Everyone has the right to choose their own way of life, and whether they work hard or not can be used as an option, as long as they can calmly accept the results of their choice.
But in real life, there is such a kind of person: they don't work hard to earn money, they are lazy, and they are idle, but their hearts are bigger than the sky and they want everything.
What should I do if I want it, but I can't get it on my own?
The answer is: rely on others.
The third common manifestation of people with poor money quality is that they are attached to others like parasites, and they are not financially independent.
In my opinion, if an adult with normal body and mind cannot be financially independent, and is still gnawing at the old or dependent on other people and institutions, he is not only selfish and incompetent, but also often has no principles and bottom line.
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Such a person naturally cannot have a deep friendship.
As an adult, you must be financially independent, whether it is a boy or a girl, you should have such awareness and attitude.
Because only by remaining independent financially can we be independent in personality, have more say and choice, and of course be more attractive.
Although money is not omnipotent, without the support of money, no matter how heroic a person is, it will be difficult to move an inch.
The above are the three common manifestations of poor money, I hope you can also introspect while knowing people, and if you have it, you can change it, and if you don't, you can encourage it.
It is wisdom not to associate with people who are poor in money;Not being a person with poor money and character is a spiritual practice.
Author: Uncle Ha, I like to use history to deconstruct the workplace, the text is down-to-earth, easy to understand, concise and incisive.