Marriage is a major event in life, some people fall in love purely by feelings, and some people wait until they are old to get married.
Whatever you choose, you need to have your own criteria when looking for a partner to accompany you for life.
By doing this, you will not find out that he has negative aspects in his daily life that could lead to divorce.
How can you tell if this person is a qualified partner?
1.Look at the way he is entertained.
A person's entertainment represents his or her preferences. It is possible to judge whether a person is positive and cheerful, and has a good or bad personality.
People who run a lot like to exercise, people who like to play chess like to use their brains to think, and people who often go out drinking with friends like sports. I don't have any requirements for myself, I just live.
A friend of mine told me that her ex-boyfriend doesn't usually have many hobbies, and whenever he has time, he would ask his friends out for drinks, get together to sing, or go to various entertainment venues, and I was also present.
When the two were together, the boy borrowed money from friends several times. The last time I borrowed money was 5,000 yuan. After the breakup, he refused to pay it back on the grounds that he had no money.
After the breakup, the friend repeatedly asked him to pay back the money, but he always seemed indifferent: "I don't have any money, if you want, you can go to the court to pay me back." Please sue me. ”
My friend said: At that time, my heart was blank and I didn't know anything, but I wondered why my boyfriend who had been dating for a year was such a villain.
If my friend could identify the boy's character from his hobbies and the way he was entertained, he wouldn't have wasted a year with such a person.
2.Check if he is studying.
I once saw a netizen post asking: "Do you care about your partner's education?" ”
Many people in the comment area expressed concern. It must be the same. You want to have something in common; As long as the other person is a good person, the answer doesn't matter.
In fact, both statements are true, but educational background does not tell the whole story. You can't draw conclusions about a person based on his educational background.
If the person is highly educated, it will depend on their educational background. in everyday life. If you don't stop and open your heart to study, everything will be wasted.
Regardless of the level of education, as long as a person maintains an attitude towards learning, it means that he or she is positive and self-motivated.
One teacher said: "Most of our achievements in life come from reading, and only a small part comes from schooling. ”
People who don't want to learn, growth is very limited. In this information age, information is becoming increasingly fragmented and globalized. If you don't know how to learn and grow, and only stay in your comfort zone, sooner or later you will be eliminated by society.
3.Take a look at your plans for the future.
People who don't have even the most basic career plan are not responsible for their future.
Men's career choices affect future household incomes. When choosing a partner, it is important to have a correct understanding of your partner's career plan and to judge your living situation after starting a family.
We need to understand not only each other's career plans, but also each other's family plans.
Some couples like to talk about the future and children during their relationship. In fact, these are very good topics.
This tells us a man's attitude towards children, whether he has a sense of family, and whether he will take on the responsibility of starting a family and raising children in the future.
I met a classmate from elementary school a while ago, and she told me that her husband attaches great importance to family. After the birth of the child, the husband took the lead in sharing the responsibility of taking care of the child. This is not "widow parenting" as it is said online.
Seeing her happy face, I praised her for her good taste. She said she wanted her husband to do so before he got married.
Because every time she talks about her husband and their future family, the boys are looking forward to it. Learn how to be a good father and husband before your child is born.
If there are problems in the marriage, or if there is a disagreement between the husband and wife about the education of the children, such a husband will definitely take the initiative to take responsibility.
There is a saying on the Internet, "Having a happy marriage is an ability, but many people see marriage as a path to happiness."
Choosing a good partner is the key to a happy marriage. The first step and how to choose is a must for unmarried women.