Some time ago, Wang Baochuan's stalk of digging wild vegetables circulated on various platforms, and in the TV series, Wang Baochuan's love brain finally changed from a rich woman to a beggar who has been digging wild vegetables for 18 years, and finally became a lady.
Some netizens ridiculed in the comments: "People with love brains will dig wild vegetables." ”
The love brain is a mindset that prioritizes love. When you love someone, you put all your energy and heart into yourself. Spend all your time with that person and neglect yourself.
Even in real life, there are many girls who are "tortured" by the love brain and ignore their feelings, even though they value their boyfriend more than themselves.
But love is a matter between two people. Treat your boyfriend as your everything. A girl with a "love brain" and her boyfriend doesn't respond to her feelings, can she really be happy?
Netizen "Rabbit" broke up with her boyfriend. When we broke up, I had a distinct sense that the other person didn't love me anymore. However, in the course of two years of love, "Rabbit" could not let go and let go, and tried to save her many times, but was rejected.
It was the winter solstice, and the rabbit posted a message asking for everyone's help in finding an effective way to get back together with her boyfriend.
It turned out that she ordered dumplings for her boyfriend, but he refused and asked her to stop harassing him. The boy refuses not only dumplings, but also her love, and even considers her request for "reunion" to be harassment.
When one person does not love, the love of another person becomes a burden. Even if the boy kindly agrees to get back together, the two will not be able to move forward because of the imbalance in their love relationship.
I was chatting with a friend that day and we talked about her and her ex. Since the reason for the breakup was her selfishness, the boy agreed to break up with her. After that, she calmed down and regretted it, so she went to reconcile with the boy, but at this time the boy calmed down and thought about their relationship, but had no intention of getting back together.
My friend broke up with me on the spur of the moment, but then insisted on getting back together. The boy didn't want to see her, so she messaged him every day.
It was a shopping festival, and a friend gave him a down jacket and shoes. Considering that the clothes he bought were practical, he happily accepted them.
Unexpectedly, the boy asked her to return the clothes and shoes to him, but he didn't want it. A friend said to me: "On the night of the shopping festival, I picked my order, added a discount, and stayed up until the wee hours of the morning, and I said I didn't need him, so I didn't need it. "It's so empty, I want to cry. ”
What she did was love and pity for the boy, but it was a burden and a worry for the boy that he would most likely never be able to get rid of.
Because if the boy still has her place in his heart, as long as she bows her head and admits her mistakes, the boy will resign, and the two will be reconciled.
After all, all she did was her own actions, and the others didn't care. Girls who have a "love brain" must not only make a good impression on themselves, but also avoid doing things that make their partner dislike them. Not dwelling on each other after a breakup is the ultimate dignity of the two of you.
One of my distant cousins went out to work when he was young and met the "right people". When they were together, the cousin felt very happy.
The two have a good relationship, and the boy is also very considerate of his cousin. However, the boy's home is too far away, and his cousin ends up marrying someone far away as well.
When they talked about marriage, the cousin's family objected to it.
My cousin was so angry that he went home on a hunger strike. The family thought she was just talking, but they didn't expect her cousin to really go on a hunger strike and forced her to go on a hunger strike. This reassured her parents.
As she wished, the two held a wedding in the man's town, but in the end, due to the trivial matters of daily life, the exhaustion of raising children alone, and the incomprehension, she felt sad about the sense of loss that came from marrying far away. Tongues, I feel it.
Just when she feels helpless, she discovers that her husband is cheating. She was furious and had a big fight with her husband, but she was slapped by her mother-in-law, blaming her husband for not being able to control herself.
She filed for divorce, and her mother-in-law asked her husband to fight for custody of the child. Her cousin faced divorce proceedings alone and suffered from depression due to excessive stress.
Later I found out that my cousin was not feeling well. The man was originally happily married, but in the end he treated her like this.
Forcing him on a hunger strike was just to motivate himself and make his parents worry, but it never caused any waves in the man's heart.
"Love Brain" blinded the bright eyes of the girls, making even the best people lose their self-confidence. Most love-minded girls are not happy.
This is because the essence of the "love brain" is to focus on your partner, not yourself.
So how can you get rid of the love brain and become a confident and cheerful girl?
1.Learn to love yourself and always put yourself first.
No matter who you're with, or in your relationship, you're the most important. If someone does something that makes us uncomfortable or makes us anxious, we have to think about whether the person is thinking about us, whether we need to continue the relationship, whether there is. If the answer is no, immediately distance yourself from such people.
The premise of being loved is not to be pretty, pretty, and rich, but to love yourself.
2.Emotionally stable.
Emotional stability is the most basic and important quality of any person, whether alone or together. Being overly emotional can exhaust you and your partner.
No one likes a partner who expresses a lot of emotion. Only when I'm emotionally stable and I control my emotions and others can't control them, they can't hurt me.
3. Develop the habit of thinking independently and not studying others.
Some "love brains" send short texts to their partners when they are in the mood, but this is an act of losing self-worth. The girl must shine, and if her partner no longer loves her, she must not look back.
Don't study what the other person is thinking, why they changed their minds, and other issues that will only drain our energy. When you get into the habit of independent thinking, you can calm down and do what you want to do: read, study, and improve yourself.