If you die once, you know that the damned one is dead; Live again, and you will see that life is complete.
My friend committed suicide in front of me.
Just yesterday. She was already sitting on the roof when she called me **. I thought it was just an ordinary **, and when I picked it up, she said seriously: "Cha Cha, I feel that there is no hope in life, I don't want to do anything, am I sick?" ”
I was still working overtime at the company, and I didn't take it seriously, saying, "Ah, yes, yes, I don't want to go to work every day." The ideal of life is to get something for nothing. There was silence on the phone for more than 10 seconds. I felt something was wrong, so I got serious: "Sister, are you depressed?" People with depression can also have this thought. Do you need me to help you find a counselor? She thought for a while and said, "No, in fact, I went to the hospital, I have been drinking medicine for several months, and I am much better." I was relieved when her next words gave me the creeps again.
You see, I didn't have the strength to give you a ** before, but now, I can climb to the top of the 18th floor. Not tired at all, really. ”
I hurriedly asked her, "Where are you?" Don't scare me, why did you climb to the top of the building? Drying clothes? She suddenly smiled bitterly and said in a very desperate tone, "I finally have the strength to end this." You don't have to feel bad anymore. Cha Cha, I'm going to die, I'll just tell you. You live well. ”
With a loud bang, I lost her completely.
My friend's name is Lulu, we met in a university club, and later she went back to her hometown to take the career editor's exam, and I worked as a psychological counselor assistant in Beijing. Occasionally talking about things in life and work, I always feel that she is stable and comfortable, and I am very envious. But she has been sending me WeChat messages very frequently recently, and the content is: "I'm so depressed, I'm so annoying, I'm so uncomfortable, I'm so tired, I'm so sleepy." ”
I was really too busy, and I neglected her asking me for help. I couldn't help but tears blur my eyes as I typed these lines. I hated myself if I had warned her earlier, it would have been something else.
Teacher Nanxing heard me crying at the front desk and hurriedly came over to ask me what was wrong? I asked him with teary eyes: "Didn't you say that depression can be cured by drinking medicine?" Why did you commit suicide after drinking medicine? ”
The teacher sighed and said"There are three kinds of despair in life – not knowing the self, not wanting to have the self, not being able to have the self. In the case of severe depression, people will lose the ability to commit suicide. Drinking the drug will reduce the physical manifestations of depression, and the worst thing is that if her somatization symptoms are reduced, but the psychological problems are still there, then she becomes suicidal and suicidal. Therefore, the process of major depression turning into moderate depression is the most dangerous. Someone around you must be watching the patient, otherwise it is easy to commit suicide even though the somatization has improved. ”
I wiped away my tears and asked, "How do you know if a person is depressed?" ”
Teacher Nanxing frowned and said:"Depression can go hand in hand with anger, and depression also represents despair. It's about not having any hope of being yourself anymore. This is the deepest root of depression. Beware of the energy of anger in your heart, thinking that you are unfortunate and lonely, but in fact you have isolated yourself and chosen to be lonely. ”
I still shook my head in confusion and pleaded, "Can the teacher make it simpler?" ”
Teacher Nanxing continued:"Depression is the negative perception of the Trinity. I gave up on the world, on myself, and on the future. ”
Let's start with the view of people with depression about the worldRegardless of what the reality may be, people with depression interpret their interactions with their surroundings as frustration and contempt, and being looked down upon by others. They will think that their life is full of burdens, ups and downs, and pain. People with depression have almost zero resilience to frustration. Depressed people can be very sensitive to any obstacle they encounter. The slightest obstacle is seen as an insurmountable barrier and is interpreted as a complete failure. ”
What people with depression think about themselves ——People with depression see themselves as worthless. They will belittle themselves like crazy.
They interpret insults, ridicule, and contempt in the words of others. Perceive the neutral evaluation of others as a denial of oneself.
I especially like to take all the fault on myself, thinking that all of it is my responsibility, and will abuse myself roughly, punish myself, and pump myself for it.
Depression patients' views on the future——For them, the future is no future! is an extreme pessimist. ”
I nodded in shock. Teacher Nanxing continued: "Of course, there are professional scales to judge depression in clinical practice, and some depression is just depression, and depression also has mild and severe manifestations. If left unchecked, it can develop into real depression. Depression can be recovered through psychological counseling. If you are depressed, you need to take medication. Biological function is restored first, and then cognitive behavior through psychological counseling to correct some extreme and desperate thoughts. ”
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