Have you ever felt that at the end of the year and the beginning of the year, spending time with many relatives and friends is very trivial and tired?
On the other hand, on some occasions, many people are helpless, nervous, and even feel constant pressure to meet each other, which is a common psychological distress.
What's more, for middle-aged people, year after year, celebrating the festival requires careful preparation of a large number of materials, a lot of financial and material resources, and at the same time, it is necessary to meet the various needs of relatives and friends.
We have to admit that as we enter middle age, we should focus more on our own emotional experiences, rather than just endlessly catering to the expectations and requirements of others.
After all, if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to gain the sympathy and support of others.
Therefore, at this stage of middle age, it is wise not to invite too many relatives and friends to the banquet, and from then on, learn to be kind to yourself.
01 Inviting a large number of people at one time, is it tiring or not?
In fact, during the festive season, the items prepared are heavy and exhausting.
The most practical problem is that we often struggle to enjoy mountains of food. Nowadays, when people want to taste food, they choose to eat at the right time.
So, is it worth the money and effort invested in such an activity?
Have you ever imagined that many of your friends are doing a lot of work for important traditional festivals, such as cleaning windows and cleaning their homes?
Spend thousands of dollars on all kinds of food, and at the same time be busy entertaining guests. When relatives and friends have finished eating and leaving, you still need to clean up the mess yourself. It's a daunting task! After a week of hard work, do we still have to bear such a burden?
In fact, it is enough to have a small reunion with your closest relatives and friends, so why overcomplicate things and worry about yourself?
Isn't that exhausting enough?
02 Verbal disputes when the family is reunited.
In real life, whenever a major holiday is reunited with relatives and friends, it is a headache for everyone.
If you ask yourself: What family hasn't been bothered by a few upset relatives today? Who hasn't encountered some seemingly abnormal kinship?
In some family members, it is even inevitable that there will be fierce quarrels and even attacks on each other. Can we really keep in touch with such relatives?
There are also some relatives who are full of gossip and jealousy.
If you bring them into your home, wouldn't you let yourself endure your anger and give them an errand that would make them happy?
For example, if we associate with a relative who is more estranged, we are disgusted with them, and they are hostile to us. In that case, why should we let ourselves suffer while smiling and pretending to receive them?
Such people are obviously impossible to change, so why waste precious time dealing with them all the time? Instead of grappling reluctantly, it's better to let go at the right time.
If it is true that there is no harmony between relatives, it should no longer be forced. Some people are often forced to indulge in behavior in order to preserve their self-esteem, and there is really no need to be overly concerned about that. You don't need to depend on them for a living, so why do you need even a shred of patience and tolerance for them?
03 Ways to improve the quality of personal holidays.
Smart people have long since begun to adopt a lean strategy when it comes to celebrating important holidays.
Everything should be based on self-interest, and all actions should be aimed at improving one's comfort and well-being.
Instead of spending money and providing services to others, it is better to pay more attention to your own feelings and live a relaxed and happy life. For example, you can invite only your best relatives and friends for lunch (dinner), or you can choose a takeaway service if you don't have time to cook your own food.
If you are too lazy to take care of household chores, you can pay to ask someone for help; Or simply leave all the chores behind and go out and enjoy the pleasure of traveling. Of course, there is no need to invite a large number of guests for the sake of social etiquette and make yourself tired.
Life doesn't have to be confined to a fixed pattern.
Patterns are important, but people are flesh and blood, and they are dynamic individuals. We only have a few days off a year, so it makes sense that we should be more pampered by ourselves, don't you think it's appropriate?