At a school in Xiangxiang, Hunan Province, a teacher was suspended for his rough behavior while tutoring homework, an incident that sparked widespread discussion about the way education is conducted. As a rural educational psychologist, I know that education is not only the imparting of knowledge, but also the communication of emotions and the touch of the heart. In this stressful era, how can we do not yell, hit, or scold our children when tutoring their homework, but still stimulate our children's enthusiasm and potential for learning?
First, we must recognise that yelling, punching and name-calling not only do not solve the problem, but can cause long-term damage to a child's mental health. Children's self-esteem, self-confidence, and interest in learning are often gradually eroded in these negative ways of parenting. So, what should we do?
First, establish a positive communication environment. Have an equal conversation with your child about the difficulties and challenges they face in their learning. Replace criticism and blame with encouragement and support, so that children feel that learning is something to be enjoyed. When tutoring children with homework, parents should not rush to give answers, but listen to their children's thoughts and ideas.
When a child encounters difficulties, we can give some hints and suggestions appropriately, but do not directly replace the child in completing the homework. In this way, children can be exercised and improved in their own thinking process, and they can also feel the care and support of their parents.
Secondly, cultivate children's self-directed learning ability. Guide your child to make a learning plan and encourage them to think independently and solve problems. When children encounter difficult problems, do not rush to give answers, but guide them to find solutions on their own by asking questions. Parents can work with their children to create a study plan that clarifies the daily learning tasks and schedule.
In this way, the child will be able to complete the homework in an orderly manner and avoid procrastination and friction. At the same time, parents should also give their children a certain degree of freedom, so that they can freely arrange their own time on the premise of ensuring that they complete the task. In this way, children can feel the respect and trust of their parents, and they will also value their time more.
Furthermore, create a family environment that is conducive to learning. Provide a quiet, uncluttered learning space for your child with fewer distractions. At the same time, parents should also be role models for their children and demonstrate the importance of lifelong learning through their own actions. Because parents are their children's first teachers and role models.
In daily life, we should pay attention to our words and deeds, be consistent with our words and deeds, and lead by example. When we are conscientious and responsible in our work and diligent in our studies, our children will be subtly influenced and will work harder to study and complete their homework.
Not yelling, not hitting, and not scolding does not mean that you are left to your own devices, but that you should use a more scientific and reasonable method to guide your children. The essence of education is to guide and stimulate, not to coerce and oppress. What we need is a gentler and more humane way of education.
Teacher Tutoring Homework Rough Treatment of Students Suspended In the current educational environment, parents and teachers are often under a lot of pressure, which can lead them to adopt some inappropriate methods when educating their children. However, we must be aware that these methods do not bring long-term positive results, but can have a negative impact on children's development.
Let us be more open-minded to explore and practice those educational methods that do not yell, hit, or scold. Let us use love and patience to accompany the growth of children, so that they can learn in happiness and confidence.
What are some of your successes or confusions when tutoring your child's homework? How do you think you can help children learn more effectively without yelling, hitting or scolding? Feel free to leave a comment to share your thoughts and suggestions.