The prosperity of a family does not depend on how much money it has, how big a house it is, or how good a car it has, but how well it gets along with each other. The atmosphere of a family determines the fate of a family. So, how can you tell if the atmosphere in a family is good or bad? I think there are three obvious signs, if you have one in your family, it's amazing, if you have two, you're very happy, and if you have three, you're the luckiest person in the world.
The first sign is to give nice words to your child. Zheng Yuanjie once said: "Verbal violence is the most terrible violence, and it can permanently damage children's hearts." Marshall Luxemburg also said, "Every word is a seed, which takes root in the listener's heart and becomes his beliefs and actions." "If parents often say something demeaning, blowing, ridiculing, and scolding to their children, then children will feel that they are incompetent, useless, and worthless, they will lack self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love, and they will lose confidence and hope in themselves, their families, and their society. On the contrary, if parents often say some words of encouragement, praise, affirmation, and support to their children, then children will feel that they are capable, valuable, and meaningful, they will be full of self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love, and they will be full of confidence and hope in themselves, their families, and their society. For example, there is a couple whose son has a poor grade in school and is at the bottom of every test. Their father always said to his son: "Why are you so stupid, why are you so useless, why are you so ashamed, how can you find a job in the future, how can you support your family, you are a waste." Their mother always said to her son: "Don't be discouraged, don't give up, don't be inferior, you have your strengths, you have your talents, you have your potential, as long as you work hard, you will succeed, you will be happy, you will be a baby." As a result, what kind of man did their son become when he grew up? He became a man with low self-esteem, self-defeating, idleness, addiction to games and drugs. Not only did he not get a job, he was in debt, he often beat and scolded his mother, and he even thought about suicide. Another couple, their daughter also had poor grades in school and was the last in every exam. Their father always said to his daughter: "Don't worry, don't be nervous, don't be afraid, you have your efforts, you have your progress, you have your growth, as long as you persevere, you will have gains, you will have hope, you will be a hero." Their mother always said to her daughter, "How can you be so smart, how can you be so useful, how can you be so good, how can you change the world in the future, how can you help others, you are a genius." As a result, what kind of person did their daughter become when she grew up? She became a confident, self-reliant, productive, and passionate about life and learning. Not only did she get a good job, she also started a non-profit organization, she often thanked her parents, and she wanted to change the world. Therefore, giving good words to children is the first sign that a family is getting better.
The second sign is to save your good temper to your lover. Marriage is one of the most important relationships in life, it not only affects the happiness of two people, but also affects the growth of children, and even affects the harmony of society. If couples often quarrel, cold war, and hurt each other, then their marriage will become painful, tense, and uninteresting, their children will become anxious, sensitive, and restless, and their society will become cold, violent, and loveless. On the contrary, if couples communicate frequently, understand each other, and respect each other, then their marriage will become happy, harmonious, and fun, their children will become happy, confident, and healthy, and their society will become warm, friendly, and loving. For example, there is a husband and wife, their marriage has lasted for more than ten years, but their relationship is getting weaker and weaker, and their life is getting more and more boring. Their husbands always say to their wives, "Why are you so lazy, why are you so fat, why are you so ugly, why are you so tasteless, why are you so temperamental, you are a yellow-faced woman." Their wives always say to their husbands, "Why are you so poor, why are you so short, why are you so old, why are you so incompetent, why are you so unattractive, you are a wreck." As a result, their marriage was like a dry well, without a little water, without a little life. Not only do they have no love, no friendship, no family affection, they just live together, they just torture each other together. And the other couple, their marriage has also lasted for more than ten years, but their feelings are getting stronger and stronger, and their lives are becoming more and more interesting. Their husbands always say to their wives, "Why are you so industrious, why are you so slim, why are you so beautiful, why are you so tasteful, how are you so temperamental, you are a goddess." Their wives always say to their husbands, "Why are you so rich, why are you so tall, why are you so young, why are you so capable, why are you so attractive, you are a male god." As a result, their marriage is like a ** spring, with an endless stream of water and endless vitality. They not only have love, but also friendship, and family affection, they enjoy life together, and they achieve each other together. Therefore, leaving a good temper to a lover is the second sign that a family is getting better and better.
The third sign is to leave a good attitude to your parents. Filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which is not only respect and gratitude to parents, but also self-cultivation and growth. Mencius said: "A filial piety is good at following the aspirations of others, and is good at telling people's affairs." The "Book of Rites" also said: "The matter of filial piety is also related, living is to make him happy, raising is to his old age, illness is to his doctor, death is to his funeral, and sacrifice is to his worship." "If children often say impatient, disrespectful, and ungrateful things to their parents, then their parents will feel that they are superfluous, burdensome, and useless, and they will feel lonely, sad, and hopeless, and they will lose the meaning and joy of life. On the contrary, if children often say some words of concern, respect, and gratitude to their parents, then parents will feel that they are important, valuable, and useful, and they will feel warm, happy, and hopeful, and they will increase the meaning and joy of life. For example, there is an old mother, her son is married, but their marriage is not happy, their son often quarrels with his daughter-in-law, often beats and scolds the old mother, and often asks the old mother to do housework, and often dislikes the old mother's food, and often tells the old mother to get out. As a result, the old mother felt that she was a superfluous person, she felt that she had no one to love, no one to need, no one to understand, she felt that she had no meaning, no value, no dignity in her life, she felt that she was just a living dead. One day, she couldn't take it anymore, so she ran to the top of the building and wanted to jump down and end her life. And another old mother, her daughter is also married, but their marriage is very happy, their daughter is often in harmony with her husband, and often cares about the old mother, and often takes the old mother out to play, and often praises the old mother's food, and often lets the old mother live in her own home. As a result, the old mother felt that she was a happy person, she felt that she had someone to love, someone to need, someone to understand, she felt that her life was meaningful, valuable, and dignified, and she felt that she was a living person. One day, she went to the park with her daughter, enjoying the sunshine, admiring the flowers and plants, chatting with others, and living a happy life. Therefore, leaving a good attitude to parents is the third sign that a family is getting better.
Lin Yutang once said: "The happiness of a family does not lie in how much money you have, but in how much love you have." "I hope that every reader can treat their family members with love and respect, can give good words to their children, leave a good temper to their lovers, leave a good attitude to their parents, and make their families better and happier. Finally, I would like to thank you for reading, and I would like to bless your family, and may you and your family be healthy, happy, and beautiful.