February** Dynamic Incentive Program
Children will one day leave their parents and fly to a broader living space, which is not only the common wish of all parents, but also the reality that parents will eventually face. But whether children can fly high and far is limited by the amount of space provided to them by their parents. It is true that if children are provided with more space, they will get more exercise, accumulate enough energy, have more survival capital, and their possibility of flying high and far will be correspondingly enhanced. Otherwise, even if parents have the desire to let their children fly high, and their children have the ideal of flying high, they will also be affected because the space provided by parents for their children is too small.
Some parents may ask rhetorically, what do we need for our children now, what do we give, and is there not enough space for them? In fact, most of us parents only provide space for our children to learn from books, and pay little attention to the other spaces for our children. You know, sometimes we provide children with superior living conditions, which on the surface are very beneficial to their growth, but in fact, they compress, crowd out, and deprive children of survival ability exercise. This may seem serious, but it is a fact that we have to admit. It is well known that a fattened mallard duck will not be able to fly into the sky, and similarly, a caged bird will lose its way home. Can you say that we don't provide abundant food for mallards and small birds, and we don't provide them with space to survive? I've heard people tell about the mystery of swans taking off. It is said that before swans can spread their wings, they must have a long enough water surface to run, otherwise, they will not be able to fly into the blue sky. This may be the reason why swans can be kept free in some tourist areas or zoos with a small area of water. What is this piece of water, is the space that people provide to the swans. Because the water surface is too small, the running line is not long enough, so they cannot fly far. Let's see, aren't the living conditions that people provide them with good enough? Presumably, it is just that the staff of the zoo or tourist area have grasped the relative value of the size of the water surface and the high flying swans. So that the swans can live normally, but will not fly into the blue sky. Should parents also learn about zoos or tourist attractions? However, we need to do the opposite, and control the size of the water surface (the child's living space) to let the child fly high, rather than just living like a swan, but not flying.
Provide children with space to fly high, mainly including space for expression, imagination, hands-on space, etc.
The first is to give children the space to express themselves. Everyone has a psychological desire to communicate, be recognized and understand each other, and children are no exception, and communicating more with children can help improve children's expression skills, broaden their horizons, and also help parents understand their children. However, many parents are always accustomed to engaging in adult conversations and children don't"Plug in"In the eyes of these parents, children are children, and what children have to do is to take care of their own affairs (mainly referring to learning), and children do not need to discuss family discussions, and children should not participate in adult conversations. In fact, for children, on the one hand, they want to seek an independent self and do not want their parents to control themselves too much, and on the other hand, they want to listen to their parents' teachings and understand their parents' evaluation of themselves. If we don't give them enough space to express themselves, parents and children will lose the opportunity to understand, communicate and interact with each other, which will also have a negative impact on the healthy growth of children.
The second is to let children have space for imagination. Maybe it's because the pace of life is too fast, maybe it's too realistic, many of us parents don't pay enough attention to cultivating children's imagination and creativity, on the contrary, most of them focus their energy and attention on supervising, guiding and imparting knowledge to their children. I know a girl who is in her third year of high school this year, and two years ago she wrote tens of thousands of words of fairy tales behind her parents' back, some of which were published in monthly magazines, which was a good thing, but when her parents found out, they were subjected to high pressure from their parents"**"。Imagination is far more important than knowledge. Imagination and creation are corresponding, and without imagination, there is no creation. To put it bluntly, if we don't leave enough room for imagination in our children's childhood, they won't be more creative when they grow up!
The third is to let children have hands-on space. Today's children have poor hands-on ability, and it is a common phenomenon that they can say but not do, and they can speak well and do not do well. However, this can't be all blamed on the children, look at us parents, how many people are not all housework, and the children's affairs are taken care of? On the one hand, we spoil our children and are reluctant to let them suffer the slightest grievance; On the other hand, we have high hopes for our children, for fear that they will waste time doing things. The former Soviet educator Sukhomstes said:"A child's intellectual development lies in the tips of the fingers"I don't know if parents know what it means. To this end, I hope that our parents must not forget to exercise their children's hands-on ability while developing their children's intelligence. Don't do everything, leave some space for your child to stretch out, presumably this is much better than letting your child use his brain and not his hands.
Swans can't fly high without the running line, and children can't fly high without the running line. Whether a swan can fly high depends on the width of the water surface it has, and whether a child can fly high depends on the amount of space he has. The width of the water surface determines the length of the swan's running line, and the size of the space determines the quality of the child's running line. Artificially bred swans can't fly into the blue sky because they are restrained by the water surface, if the child can't fly high, is it because the space we provide for them is not wide enough? This is worth pondering.