I paid a pension of 5,000 a month, but my son-in-law said that I was a burden, and a 60-year-old man could not afford to support him
I have two children, the eldest daughter is 40 years old this year, and the younger son has just turned 30 and has just been married for two years. I am a retired employee of a public institution and receive a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, which is enough to maintain my life. My lover died in a car accident five years ago, and the other party paid 1 million in compensation.
When the son got married, the woman asked for a car and a house. In order to help my son, I had to take out the 1 million compensation and the 200,000 I had saved for many years to meet the woman's requirements so that my son could get married smoothly.
Now they have children of their own, and my son took me into their home. On the one hand, it is convenient to take care of me, and on the other hand, I can also help take care of the children. However, due to my advanced age, I was unable to take good care of my children, which caused them a lot of burdens. So I thought that my daughter's children were all adults, and maybe it would be more appropriate to go to my daughter's home to care for the elderly, and I could also be taken care of by them.
I expressed my idea to my daughter, who readily agreed and quickly took me to her home. At my daughter's house, I live comfortably and comfortably, I don't have to worry about housework, and my daughter does everything. I can go out for a walk after dinner every day, chat with other elderly people, and live a very comfortable life. I also handed over the monthly pension of 5,000 yuan to my daughter on time, after all, I also need expenses to live in their family, and I also feel guilty, because I once gave most of my property to my son without telling my daughter, so I have nothing to be reluctant about this 5,000 yuan.
However, fate took a turn for me, and I was deceived by a ** company, and they told me that I could earn good returns through investment and financial management. In the absence of principal, I was confused by the ** of money, signed a contract with the loan company they recommended, borrowed 300,000 yuan and invested it, but I didn't expect to be collected by the door soon.
When my daughter and son-in-law learned what had happened, they discussed taking out my husband's original compensation money to make up for the loophole. I tried to excuse myself, but in the end I confessed, admitting that I had given the money to my son and accidentally leaked the fact that I had taken out 200,000 yuan myself. I told my daughter that now I can't afford to pay it back and that I hope they can help me.
My daughter was obviously in a bad mood and she asked me why I didn't open my mouth to my son, and I explained that they had just had a baby and that I couldn't bear to open it when it was time to spend it. My daughter left in tears and didn't speak to me for days.
Later, my son-in-law came to me: "Mom, this 300,000 yuan is not a small amount for us, although your daughter and I have saved a little over the years, but the two children also need to spend money to go to school, and we can't come up with this money." Besides, when you gave all your savings to your son, did you consider your daughter's feelings? You gave all the good to your son, and now you leave the difficulties to your daughter, is this appropriate? ”
I felt a little angry because I was not without contribution in my daughter's house: "I give you 5,000 yuan a month, which is not for nothing. I have come out of kindness to help you in your lives, so why don't you cherish my kindness? Now that I'm in trouble, shouldn't you, as my children, be filial to me? How dare you accuse me, and what right do you have to speak to me like that? ”
The son-in-law suppressed his anger, and his words became unkind: "It is also your biological son, you can give everything for your son, but your daughter has not received anything." Not to mention your monthly 5,000 yuan, you have only given it for less than three months in total, and now you are asking us to repay 300,000 yuan. Your calculations are so good, you are not here for our good, but to bring down our family. You're dragging yourself down, don't you realize? I don't want your 5,000 yuan a month, you'd better go back to your son's house, give him the 5,000 yuan, and let him help you repay the 300,000 loan, after all, you gave him 1.2 million, what do you think? ”
I angrily began to call out to my daughter, and when she came out, I blamed her for not knowing filial piety, and colluded with her husband to say that I was a burden and wanted to drive me away. I understand that only if I make a fuss, my daughter can keep me and help me through it, because my son can't count on it at all. However, my daughter also seemed to be disappointed in me, no matter how noisy I was, she didn't say a word, and had already called her son to explain the situation, and soon my son came and picked me up. In the end, my son took 100,000 yuan and my daughter took 200,000 yuan to help me pay off the debt, but I lost my daughter forever.
The last thing I want to say is:
Some people disagree with the behavior of the son-in-law and daughter in the article, thinking that they should be filial to the old man no matter what, and should not drive her away, especially since she also took the initiative to hand over a pension of 5,000 per month. This practice will hurt the hearts of the elderly and make the elderly hopeless. Some people think that this is Aunt Li's own fruit, when she was partial to her son, she didn't take into account her daughter's feelings at all, and now she shouldn't blame her son-in-law for turning her face. What do you think?