I am a seventy-year-old rural woman, who is a farmer like my wife, and the years are merciless, and we have not been able to enjoy the pension, and our life is not easy.
There is only one child in the family, and we once gave everything for his future. I remember that in order to provide for him to go to high school and college, my wife and I cut back on food and clothing, and even food and clothing every day became a luxury.
During those years when he was in college, we experienced hardships that others could not have imagined. In order to keep him from being discriminated against on campus and being looked down upon by his classmates, he was reluctant to eat even an egg at home, which became the price of sending money to his son.
When his son was a sophomore, he received a letter from him, saying that he was in love, but because of financial constraints, he couldn't bring his girlfriend the care he deserved, and he felt guilty.
When we received our son's letter, my wife and I were both happy and embarrassed. My son has a girlfriend, a good news that he has someone to take care of in a foreign land, but it also means that we need more living expenses to support him, and we have reached the point where we are struggling.
My wife persuaded me: "No matter how bitter you are, you can't be bitter about the child, what's more, my son's girlfriend is the future daughter-in-law, we treat her well, and she will be good to us in the future." ”
I thought so, so I didn't hesitate to take out the wedding ring that my mother had given me and sell it to raise living expenses.
During the summer vacation of my sophomore year, my son brought his girlfriend to visit our home, and we met for the first time.
According to our expectations, our son's girlfriend should be a bright-eyed and touching girl, but the reality disappointed us. She is not tall, mediocre in appearance, and even a little dark.
I couldn't help but ask my son, "Aren't there a lot of beautiful girls in school?" ”
The son replied with a wry smile: "Yes, but I am not worthy of them." The conditions of our family, it is already lucky to have someone willing to accept me, don't be picky. ”
He is reasonable, and considering his identity and family background, I can only deeply sympathize.
In order to satisfy my son's girlfriend, I borrowed some money from my relatives and prepared a sumptuous reception for them. Before leaving, I also gave her a sum of money, but she took it without thanking her, which made me feel a little embarrassed.
After the girlfriend left, rumors began in the village that she was not polite, behaved rudely, and did not look like a well-educated person in any way. Someone even came to my door to persuade me to let my son break up with her.
I asked the person who came, why did his girlfriend *** offend him, why did he say such a thing?
I heard my cousin say that when I met my son and his girlfriend on the street, my cousin took the initiative to say hello, but my girlfriend ignored him coldly. My cousin thought she didn't know her cousin and asked my son to introduce her, but she just answered expressionlessly.
The cousin warned that if my son did not break up with his girlfriend, he would not attend their wedding. I asked my wife to write a letter to my son, reminding him that his girlfriend should be more sensible and enthusiastic.
A few years later, both the son and his girlfriend had jobs, and they talked about getting married. My girlfriend asked for a high bride price and furniture, and we agreed for our son.
In order to raise money for the bride price and furniture, my wife and I borrowed money from all over the place, and some relatives sympathized with us, while others were indifferent. Eventually, the money was scraped together and they got married.
After we got married, our son asked us to take out the gift money we received, and they wanted to buy a house in the county seat. Although I hesitated, my son promised to help pay off the foreign debt, and I gave him the money anyway.
When my son came back, he told us that they had their eye on a building and wanted to buy it. The money was not enough and they wanted us to help again.
For the sake of our son's marriage, we are in heavy debt, and we don't know when we will be able to get out of it. My son was eager to buy a property and borrowed money from us, but we couldn't help ourselves.
Despite our determination, at the request of our son, we borrowed money from relatives and friends, but the last time we failed to repay it on time, this time we asked for a loan again, only to be met with more ridicule and cold words.
Some of our relatives scolded us for doting on our children, and even said harsh words that we couldn't talk about. Our failure to contribute to our son's purchase of a house has become a painful thing for us, and it has also become a reason for them to accuse us, which has made us suffer a lot.
One winter, when the heavy snow lasted for two days, the family's food stock was exhausted, and my wife pushed her bicycle to the countryside to buy food. The departure was uneventful, but on the way back, the ski section made it difficult to control the bike, and I accidentally slipped and the bike pressed on my wife's leg.
The well-wisher sent my wife to the township health center, and after learning the news, I hurried there. The doctor told the wife that her injuries were serious and she was faced with two options: go to the county hospital for surgery** and recover faster; Or recuperate at home and recover more slowly.
But the county hospital needs a lot of money, and we don't have the wealth on hand. I had to go to the county seat to find my son, hoping that he would pay for the treatment of my wife.
However, the son did not speak, but the daughter-in-law replied on his behalf: they did not have enough money to provide support. I was doubly disappointed by this reply.
I was devastated that all my selfless support for my son seemed to have come to naught. I turned around and questioned my son, hoping that he would give an honest and frank answer.
The son stopped talking, and finally scratched his head, claiming that he was powerless to help. He explained that although both of them had jobs, the cost of living was huge and they could not accumulate enough money. He had to provide a small amount of money to buy the nutritional products that his wife needed, and persuaded me to let my wife recuperate at home, after all, it was winter and would not affect his farm work.
This answer made my heart twist, and for the first time, I felt disappointed in my son. I said gloomily: "Today I know your true colors, you turned out to be a ruthless person. We have worked so hard to raise you, to educate you, to marry you, and now we need your help, and you are so cold. ”
Seeing this, the daughter-in-law retorted not to be outdone: "You are more ruthless than us, how much money did you give us when we bought the house?" If you don't pay, how can you get it back? Now we have tried our best, and giving you 200 yuan is already the limit. ”
My son handed me two hundred dollars, sighing as always: "A penny is hard to beat a hero, but for me, these two hundred dollars is my best." I took the money, left with tears in my eyes, and returned to the township health center with a heavy heart, and took my wife home.
My wife endured the pain and recuperated for more than two months before she was able to walk slowly.
The son and daughter-in-law rarely went home for a long time, and did not come back until the end of the New Year and the second day of the first lunar month. When they come home, they behave like our elders and ask us to serve them. But if there is a slight neglect, the daughter-in-law will be unhappy and even play a face, and the son will support her and quarrel with us.
Unlike other families, we don't look forward to the Chinese New Year, because our sons and daughters-in-law always come back on these days, but not because they miss us or care about us, but because they treat our house as a free restaurant, and they want to enjoy it and have someone to serve them.
Especially in recent years, as I get older, my physical health has declined, and I often feel too lazy to move, and most of the time my wife is cooking. When my wife was young, she was not good at cooking and could only barely cook, but the food he cooked lacked taste and was difficult to swallow.
I am more and more worried about the return of my son and daughter-in-law, because my daughter-in-law is not good at serving, and once she is upset, my son will also be angry, so my wife and I will not have a good life.
For the sake of family harmony and not let outsiders see the flaws, I can only cook for them with a smile, but often cry silently while cooking.
This year's Mid-Autumn Festival and National Day holiday lasted for eight days, and I silently prayed in my heart that I wouldn't get sick at this time. However, fate took a dramatic turn, and on the night of September 28th, I was feeling fine, but the next morning, I suddenly felt a headache, a fever, and weakness in my limbs.
I quickly asked my wife to go to the doctor, and after the village doctor came to examine me, he told me that I had a cold and needed to rest well and not overwork. She left two boxes of pills behind and left.
As soon as the village doctor left, his son and daughter-in-law drove back. When they saw that I was still in bed, they didn't bother to ask me if I was sick, but asked me the first thing they said, "Mom, what delicious food did you prepare for us?"
I felt sad looking at my son and daughter-in-law's indifferent attitude towards me, but I could only pretend that nothing had happened and close my eyes.
The son and daughter-in-law didn't care, and after they came to the house to say hello, they went straight to the West House, which was the room where they lived, and every time they came back.
Since I was sick, I couldn't continue to cook, and my son and daughter-in-law hid in the room and didn't come out. Lunch could only be prepared by his wife, and he worked alone in the kitchen for a long time before he barely made four dishes, and the rice was still made in a rice cooker.
At lunchtime, the wife set the table and knocked on the door to invite her son and daughter-in-law to dinner, but when they saw the dishes on the table, they frowned. The dishes made by my wife were not good-looking, and two of them were scorched and black.
My daughter-in-law looked displeased, and when my son saw this, he immediately blamed me and said, "Mom, you treated us with such a dish on the first day we just came back, what do you mean?" Aren't we welcome back?
Although I was already very uncomfortable, in order to avoid quarrels with my son and to prevent outsiders from hearing me, I endured my grievances and said to my son with a smile: I'm really too lazy to move, this is your father's cooking, his skills are limited, you might as well go out to eat.
The wife worked hard to cook a meal, but was complained by her son, and her mood was affected. In order to ease the atmosphere, my wife took my son and daughter-in-law to the restaurant to eat hot pot, while I chose to stay at home. In the evening, I got a little better and cooked my daughter-in-law's favorite millet porridge. The next day, although I felt a little lazy, I still got up early in the morning and went to the village entrance to buy soy milk fritters, after which my son and daughter-in-law decided to go out to enjoy the rural scenery. I asked my wife to do the dishes, and I cleaned the guest room.
Unfortunately, due to exertion, I started to burn again at noon. Although it was uncomfortable, I didn't worry about my wife cooking, so I still planned to let them go to the restaurant. However, the wife became angry because of her son's attitude, thinking that they were not filial enough. At this time, the son and daughter-in-law came back, heard the wife's complaints, and were angry.
The son asked, "Dad, what's wrong with you?" It's a rare time for us to come back, just so that you can serve us, and you're not satisfied? The wife insisted that she did not need them to serve her, and even said that she would never want them to come back in the future. The son asked if he was serious, and his wife said yes firmly, and even said that he didn't expect them to support the elderly.
In the midst of the argument, I felt conflicted. I realized that the presence of my daughter-in-law brought a lot of disharmony to the family, and she seemed to have a hard time getting along with. Watching my son and his wife arguing, I felt heavy. In the end, I decided to speak for my wife and said to my son, "Let's go, we are old and we don't need your service anymore." ”
Our son and daughter-in-law looked at us in disbelief, as if we had always been obedient to them, and now we had to tell them to leave.
They were stunned for a moment, and then the daughter-in-law was the first to enter the house, followed by the son. A moment later, they came out with some things, got into the car, and left silently without leaving a word. **10,000 Fans Incentive Plan
After my son and daughter-in-law left, my partner and I looked at each other, and we didn't know if we were happy because we were relaxed or sad because we offended them.
There will always be times in life when we grow old, and as parents, we don't expect our children to give us anything in return, we just want them to understand our lives, and we don't ask too much of them. If children can understand and be considerate of us, we as parents will feel comforted. But why can't our sons and daughters-in-law do it? These seem like simple things.