Title:"I have been raising my son for 8 years, my in-laws are in a prosperous life, and my son-in-law implicitly hints that I make space"
My name is Meng Fang, and my wife and I have only one daughter, and we put all our savings and energy into our daughter.
From the moment our daughter was born, we began to worry about her, worried that she would be deceived by someone with a heart, that she would be bullied by her in-laws in the future, and that she would suffer ......Therefore, we are willing to bear all the pain, and we can't bear to let our daughter suffer any grievances.
However, we didn't expect that our carefully cultivated daughter would grow up to fall in love with a phoenix man from the countryside.
I don't mean to look down on the countryside and the phoenix man, it's just that the son-in-law's original family is too dragging his feet, and the son-in-law is not the kind of person who does big things, and we are worried that after our daughter gets married, she will suffer with her son-in-law.
But the daughter ignored our persuasion at all, and was determined to marry her son-in-law, and let out cruel words, if we had to stop her, she would never marry for the rest of her life.
I finally compromised on my daughter's insistence.
In order to support our daughter in the in-law's house, we bought a wedding house for our daughter in full, but when I hoped that the in-laws would pay for the decoration, the in-laws made up a bunch of reasons for the sky, and they didn't pay a penny.
We were wronged for our daughter, but our daughter was willing, saying that she was married to a son-in-law anyway, as long as the son-in-law was good to her, nothing else mattered.
But it's not important to her, it's important to us, and in the end, it's us parents who pay for her willfulness.
In order to buy her a wedding house and buy a dowry, we even took out the coffin, and I felt that this was not marrying a girl at all, but marrying a daughter-in-law.
But the daughter and son-in-law were used with peace of mind, spending lavishly, without taking into account our feelings as parents, let alone understanding our hard work.
In the second year of my retirement, my daughter gave birth to a grandson, and my mother said that there was too much farm work at home to leave, so she could not take care of her daughter and children.
My daughter had to let me go, and without saying a word, I left my wife at home and went happily.
After serving my daughter's confinement, I felt sorry for my daughter who had to take care of the children alone, and had to cook and do housework by herself, which was too hard, so I took the initiative to stay and help her take care of the children.
I said that I was taking a child, but in fact, I did everything, the child was sleeping, I had to hurry up to buy vegetables, cook, laundry, and take care of the family's tastes, and do a good job of nutrition, every day is really ten times more tired than I go to work.
But when I thought that I had worked harder, my daughter would be more relaxed, and I never got tired of it.
My in-laws ignored my grandson, and I was very angry, so I loved this child even more, not only did my best to take care of him, but also took out his own pension and borne all the daily expenses of my grandson.
During this period, my wife fell ill and was hospitalized, and although I was anxious, I couldn't bear to leave my daughter and granddaughter behind, so I had to ask a nurse to take care of my wife.
But who would have expected that my wife's condition deteriorated rapidly, and in just one month, I was tortured by the disease and passed away.
Fortunately, with the laughter of my grandson, I gradually came out of the pain of losing my wife.
And I am at my daughter's house, and my grandson has been with me for 8 years, and I haven't saved a cent of my pension, so I subsidize my daughter.
I thought that my wife was gone, and I would continue to stay at my daughter's house like this, and I would retire at my daughter's house, and I was very happy to think about it.
But when the son-in-law came back that day, he suddenly said to his daughter at the dinner table: "My dad called ** today and said that he has been dizzy lately, and he wants to come and live with my mother for a while, and he happened to go to the hospital for a check-up, and the hospital in the town can't see anything." ”
The daughter immediately said, "I can't live in that house." ”
At that time, I didn't think much about it, and I made an idea for them and said: "They are old and two, I can vacate my room for them to live in first, it doesn't matter if my grandson and I squeeze it, anyway, they will go back after a while." ”
My daughter and son-in-law just looked at each other and didn't say anything, so I thought that was the end of the matter.
Unexpectedly, that day, my son-in-law took us out to play for the first time, and gave me 2,000 yuan for the first time.
After knowing his true intentions, my heart was cold to the bottom! The son-in-law said: "Mom, I've worked hard for you all these years, and now that the child is older, I don't need someone to take care of it, you can go back to your hometown to rest, and you can buy whatever you want with the 2,000 yuan, even if it's a reward for you." ”
I looked at the 2,000 yuan stuffed by my son-in-law, dumbfounded, I have been at my daughter's house for 8 years, and the money spent on my daughter's small family and grandson is at least 150,000 yuan, but now he is taking 2,000 yuan to send me, which is ridiculous.
Seeing that I didn't take the money, the son-in-law was a little anxious: "Mom, you should also go back to your hometown to have a look, the air in your hometown is good, it is good for your body, it is suitable for the elderly, you can also walk around and enjoy your life." ”
Although my son-in-law's words are nice, he actually hints at me and asks me to make room for my in-laws! Thinking about all these years of being a cow and a horse in my daughter's house, I have paid so much effort and money for them, and now that my wife is gone, my heart is sad.
I didn't reply, just looked at my daughter, but she lowered her head and didn't say a word, obviously standing with her son-in-law.
But I still didn't give up, and under my questioning, my daughter spoke: "Mom, just be considerate of me, what can I do if my in-laws want to come?" He's a son. ”
Be considerate of her? Then who will understand me? My daughter didn't have any reservations for me, and she complained that I didn't understand her, which made me even more sad.
Thinking about how hard I worked for so many years, and finally fell into making room for others, and the effort I put in to make room for others, and the more I thought about it, the more sad I became.
I didn't say anything more, I didn't have anything more to say, I just went home and packed my bags and left, and since then, I have stopped subsidizing my daughter's family.
I've figured it out thoroughly, taking care of myself may be the best way to care for the elderly, and as for my daughter, don't count on it.