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My younger siblings are still young, why are you so careful?Not sensible at all!”
Recently, I often hear parents of second children complain like this, they feel that since they have two treasures, the big treasure in the family has suddenly become annoying, if you also feel this way, please listen to me.
In fact, this situation is not Dabao's problem, but the parents' mentality has not been adjusted well.
From Dabao's point of view, before there was no Erbao, all the love in the family was his own, and at that time, his parents' eyes were always staring at him alone, and he could swim freely in the arms of his parents' love.
But after having the second treasure, he found that he had become the superfluous one in the family.
Parents gave more care to Erbao, who was still young, of course, in the eyes of his parents, this is a normal thing, but for Dabao, he can't understand it.
He doesn't understand why just one more child makes his parents no longer pay attention to him, and he doesn't understand why as long as there is a conflict, the fault is always himself, and he doesn't understand why parents want to compare their younger brother in kindergarten with themselves who have entered junior high school
Just because he is a few years older than his younger siblings, he has to let them unconditionally, and even when they scribble in their homework books, his parents still blame himEven once Dabao expresses dissatisfaction, his parents will put on the hat of ignorance and be criticized and blamed by his parents.
Although parents do not give enough love in life, their parents often have much higher requirements for Dabao than Erbao in learning.
As the eldest child in the family, they are often asked to play the role of a role model, to lead the way for their younger siblings.
Parents often pin their expectations on the eldest child, hoping that they will be able to do well in their studies and bring glory to the family. Therefore, the requirements for them are also stricter, and the slightest mistake can cause dissatisfaction and blame from the family.
Sometimes Dabao has to make trade-offs in study, socializing, hobbies, etc., and even sacrifices his interests and dreams in order to meet his family's expectations.
In addition to this, Dabao is often asked by his parents to help care for and educate his younger siblings, while also taking on some responsibility for family matters.
These responsibilities include taking care of the small things at home, helping parents with household chores, tutoring younger siblings in their studies, etc.
These burdens often leave Dabao feeling stressed and unable to enjoy his own personal space.
Putting all the expectations of the family on one child and ignoring the child's own dreams is itself unfair and extremely selfish.
When parents take care of Erbao wholeheartedly, they should not forget that Dabao is still a child, and they also need love, understanding and support.
As parents, we should give Dabao more space and opportunities to develop their interests and pursue their dreams.
It is recommended that all second-child families pay more attention to and understand the grievances of the eldest in the family, try to maintain the authority of Dabao, and give equal rights and care to children.
Only in this way can families truly achieve equality, harmony and happiness. Are you right?
Let's have some dry goods Chinese-style family education second child to tell the truth