In the movie "The Lord of the Rings", King Xiudun, who lost his beloved son, was in great pain at his son's grave, leaving two lines of tears.
He said in a deep voice"The young man died young, the old man lingered, and the white-haired person should not send the black-haired person. ”
There is no greater tragedy in the world than this, for the departed, it is a regret, for the living, it is a pain.
Parents dragged their broken bodies to witness their children drifting away from themselves, and they would have to die alone in the future.
Such cruelty and despair are the weight of life that many people cannot bear, but the world is impermanent, and accidents can happen suddenly.
And many times, children leave earlier than their parents, in fact, there are already "signs", but many people ignore and do not notice.
It may not be a good thing for a young man to be ambitious
Zhang Ailing once said:"It's better to be famous early, too late, and not so happy. ”
This sentence seems to make sense at first glance, after all, the length of life is limited, and the sooner you can realize your talents, the easier it will be to get on the right track.
The road of success is destined to be the patent of a few people, and in the huge competition, countless people are eager to stand out from the ordinary.
Countless young talents, when others are still racking their brains for success, they are already dragons and phoenixes among people, showing their edge.
But premature juvenile ambition is often not a good thing, and it is easy for them to fall into an unknown crisis and incur the disaster of killing.
Xiang Yu, who was called the "Overlord of Western Chu" by later generations, has infinite strength since he was a child, can lift a big tripod, and is extremely talented in military affairs.
In the battle of Julu, he only relied on the 20,000 or 30,000 people in his hands to break Wang Li's 200,000 Qin army's main force, and was supported as the leader of the alliance by the princes after the first battle.
At that time, Xiang Yu, who was only 24 years old, was already powerful in China, and for a time his name resounded all over the world, and no one was afraid.
But the premature fame also made Xiang Yu too confident and developed a self-righteous character, even his father Fan Zeng didn't believe it.
Coupled with his low political consciousness, Hongmen Yan easily let Liu Bang go, resulting in his final defeat and death in the Chu-Han hegemony.
Every stage of life is something that a person must go through, and if a teenager becomes famous too early, it is easy to get carried away and suffer from it.
Only by going through each stage of life can you better combine your talent and experience and make the fruits of success more ripe.
The edge is exposed, and it is easy to flourish and decline
There is a saying in the book Huainanzi:"The husband is prosperous and the things are prosperous, the joy is sad, the day is moving, the moon is full and the moon is losing. ”
The development of things follows objective laws, and no one can break out of this established rule, even if it is a gifted person.
Just like the sun, moon and stars, when the sun rises to its highest point, sunset follows, and the moon reaches its full moon, and with it is incomplete.
If you walk too smoothly on the road of life and reach the top easily, then what you will face in the future may be a rapid decline.
Because many things in life are conserved, and while you have them, you are also losing, and it is easy to climb to the top and fall to the bottom.
is like Fang Zhongyong in the story of Wang Anshi's "Wounded Zhongyong", who was originally an innate prodigy and showed his talent since he was a child.
When other children are still learning to speak, he can already write poems about things, and the style and connotation of the poems are far beyond ordinary people.
Fang Zhongyong's father saw that he was very capable, so he took him everywhere to recite poems against him, and earned a lot of fame and money.
But for many years, Fang Zhongyong has never gone to school, and his ability naturally stays in place, and gradually becomes obscure.
It didn't take long for him to become no different from ordinary people, no longer as high-spirited as he used to be, and no longer famous.
An environment that is too smooth can easily make people live too easily and comfortably, lose their self-motivation to work hard, and gradually sink into the world.
No matter how shining the light of the past is, it is just a passing cloud, and if you want to always be at the top in the fierce competition, you must consistently sweat.
If you are indulgent and hardworking, you will sit and eat empty
There is a saying in the Warring States Policy:"Parents love their children, and they will plan far-reaching things. ”
Parents always think long-term about their children's care, hoping that their children can live a more relaxed life in the future.
Although this is a kind of human nature, it also has a good grasp of the scale, and too much doting on children will encourage unhealthy tendencies.
Many parents nowadays are afraid that their children will suffer on the way to growth, so they try to protect them with full authority.
This will indeed save them a lot of worries, but at the same time, it is also easy for them to develop a bad character of being lazy and disgusting.
Once they encounter some wind and rain, they will instinctively hide under the wings of their parents, and they will not be able to withstand a little blow from the outside world.
In the days to come, they will only hold their parents to "gnaw at the old" to the end, or lose the only property in the family little by little.
A "wonderful" woman in Hunan did not hesitate to pretend to be paralyzed for more than ten years in order to be able to enjoy the easy life of others serving her.
When her parents were there, she began to be sick in bed due to an "accident", and since then her parents have served her daily life.
Later, her parents died one after another, and she fell in love with her sister, continuing to pretend to be a sick person and rely on her sister to support her.
It wasn't until she was discovered later that her "performance" for more than ten years finally stopped, which also made the whole family sad.
Without the ability to live independently, they can only squander the wealth left by their predecessors, and they will also overdraft and depreciate their own blessings.
If you want to truly become a person who stands up to the sky, you must learn to take your own responsibilities and mature in the true sense of all aspects.
Zhang Xiaoxiang once said:"Determination is not sharp, and success is not fast for a long time. ”
Whether it is parents or children, if they want to survive better in the world, they must continue to learn and improve themselves.
The real death of a person is not only the death of the body, but also the decay of the soul.
Life is a one-way journey that cannot be turned back for everyone, and every minute of it should be cherished.
Let yourself always stay on the right path, pay due sweat and efforts, in order to achieve a life without regrets.
I hope that everyone can take this as a warning and live the way they want to be in the journey of climbing and moving forward.