Edison once said:"Kindness is the most precious treasure in life, and people who have kindness have endless good luck. ”
Indeed, kindness is the most precious nature of human nature, and from childhood to adulthood, our parents and teachers also taught ourselves to be kind to others.
In the process of growing up, being kind and honest can accumulate blessings for yourself, make some connections, and accumulate some good causes and effects.
But generosity is not always about merit, and if you use the wrong object or direction, you may put yourself in a dangerous situation.
No matter how kind and honest a person is, if he unfortunately commits these 3 taboos, he will also be "retributed", and I hope you don't have any of them.
Blind kindness will eventually be harmed by the wicked.
As long as it is a mortal in the flesh, it will have compassion, always eager to help the weak, and want to help others as much as possible.
It's not a fault to have such thoughts, but it's also important to know that not everyone in this world is a good person and it's worth paying.
If your kindness is given to the right person, you can not only help the other party get out of the predicament, but also receive gratitude and rewards from the other party.
But if you meet someone who is unladylike, and you don't have the ability to recognize people, and blindly send out your kindness, you may suffer from it.
Just like the two protagonists in the story "The Farmer and the Snake", the farmer's kindness is meant to be good, but he just saves an object that should not be saved.
He thought that if he warmed the snake with his body, the other party would repay his kindness with the same kindness as he did.
As everyone knows, snakes are creatures that have no emotions at all, they are outright cold-blooded animals, and they will only instinctively hurt others.
In reality, people like snakes abound, and no matter how much kindness others give them, they cannot change them.
On the contrary, it will make them use their kindness to endanger others even more, and let themselves become "**" invisibly
Bonnie Bo once said"Kindness is precious, but kindness does not grow teeth, that is weakness. ”
There is no and cannot have a uniform standard for kindness, and when dealing with good people, it is natural to spare no effort to help the other party get out of danger.
But for the wicked who do not change their nature, don't try to move the other party with kindness, and stay away from the other party as soon as possible to protect yourself.
If you are nosy, you will get into trouble sooner or later
The book "Zengguang Xianwen" once said:"Don't say anything when you hear something, don't know about it, don't worry about idle things, and return early if you have nothing to do. ”
Don't spread the gossip you hear from the outside to others, and if others ask you what you don't know, just answer truthfully.
If you encounter something that has nothing to do with you, don't just help out, if you don't have anything particularly important to do, it's best to go home early.
Seeing that the road is uneven, the thing of drawing a sword to help is indeed exciting, but not everyone is suitable for heroes to be heroes.
If you don't have enough ability, only enthusiasm and kindness, you are likely to be self-defeating, and instead lead the disaster to yourself.
Some time ago, the famous "iron-faced judge" incident on the Qingdao subway caused a lot of discussion:
At that time, an aunt on the subway occupied a place for two people, and another aunt next to her tried to give up her seat to the young man who was standing.
But Aunt Zhanza refused to cooperate, and even had a fierce quarrel with the aunt next to her, and Aunt Zhanza's wife immediately participated in the quarrel between the two parties.
At that moment, a man dressed in gray came over to join in the fun, and he was like a judge, staring at the two sides of the heated argument.
When the old man said, "You can't care if there is no one, I occupy ten seats", he raised his hand and gave the old man a slap, and then turned around and walked away.
After investigation, it was found that he was suffering from mental illness, and if it were not for this reason, he would definitely have to compensate and apologize to the old man.
For us ordinary people, don't get into trouble, it is necessary to take action, and we must fully consider the ability and consequences before making a choice.
If you don't know how to refuse, you will suffer a big loss sooner or later
I believe that many people have similar feelings, that is, the kinder the person, the easier it is to live a miserable life, and always have to endure others.
On the contrary, many wicked people who have no bottom line not only live a prosperous and free life, but also often benefit from good people.
The fundamental reason is that the more kind people are, the less they know how to reject others, and they can only make themselves constantly back down against their will.
In many cases, the social relationship between people is not how much they retreat, and how much others will politely retreat.
On the contrary, when he keeps giving in, others are also pressing step by step, until the other party finds his bottom line.
That's why when you are working, if your superiors assign you tasks, as long as you don't take the initiative to mention that the work is saturated, the other party will always feel that you can still increase the amount.
When the same job is handed over to someone else, the other party has no time to refuse, and you take it head-on, and the boss still doesn't think you work hard and hard.
On the contrary, the boss will think that you are honest or that you do not have enough work, and take advantage of your forbearance and kindness to continue to squeeze your value.
The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said, "Patience is not a virtue, but a sign of cowardice." ”
Tolerance is not the same as retreating, but should be as accommodating and tolerant as possible on the basis of safeguarding one's own interests.
If we blindly retreat, we will lose our own position and rights, and let others encroach more and suffer even greater losses.
No matter how close the relationship is, don't be overly compromised, and be firm in your attitude when it's time to refuse.
Napoleon once said:"True kindness is not only a virtue, but also a wisdom. ”
Of course, kindness is a quality that should be adhered to in the world, but it should not become a cage and shackles that bind oneself.
While paying your sincerity, you must also protect your own safety and use wisdom to deal with complex human affairs.
In this world, there are so many kind people, but there are very few people who can really make good use of their kindness.
Don't let the flood of goodness overwhelm your reason, add some spikes to your kindness so that you don't get hurt by the outside world.