Whether you act or speak, you need to judge the situation and understand people's hearts. Don't insist on going your own way, which pot is not opened, otherwise you will offend people and not know it. This is the wisdom of words and the secret of deeds.
The language of the conversation should be chosen according to the cultivation of the other party, so that it can be elegant and vulgar, so as not to make people feel disgusted. In formal conversation, the topic should depend on the other person's situation, and no matter how good the topic is, if it does not meet the habits, preferences and needs of the other person, it will not be able to cause a common topic for each other. Only by talking speculatively with each other can we try to slowly steer the topic into the scope of what we want to talk about. In daily conversations, most people talk about trivial things around them, perhaps to show affection to the other person. In formal conversations, I hope you don't talk about your wife and children, otherwise you will inevitably give people the feeling of being sissy and not doing your job.
Conversations should begin with more serious topics such as politics and economics, and then move on to more lighter topics such as literature, art, and personal interests. In short, the best conversation is to expound your own ideas and opinions in a dignified manner, so that each other can resonate ideologically. A person who is good at asking for help must be very polite and careful in his words, so as not to say things that are out of place, because he knows that inappropriate words often hurt others, and even if it is too late to make up for it afterwards.
On the contrary, if you behave steadily, have a gentle attitude, and speak to the point, both parties will naturally be able to talk speculatively, and the things you want will be easy to do. Therefore, in order to make the other party have a good impression of you, you must speak kindly, think carefully before speaking, and don't think of what to say, so as to cause others to frown and not know why. Those outspoken friends should usually cultivate the habit of thinking deeply and speaking carefully, and must not blurt out as if spitting without looking at where they are, which will affect their own image.
Since you have to entrust people to do things, most of them are because of difficulties and crises in work and life, such as family illness, marriage disharmony, career difficulties, etc., these factors will make people exhausted and lose confidence, which not only affects their emotions, but also affects their interactions with people around them. When you are at a low emotional ebb, it is normal for you to ask others for your care and helping hand. But don't bring your excessive frustration to others. When you entrust someone to do something, you always have a crying and sad face, which will make people feel unlucky.
In short, we should treat things differently and differently when we do things. For those who have a cheerful personality, have a wide range of interests, and like to socialize, it is appropriate to say something light-hearted; For those who are withdrawn and not good at words, try to avoid talking about unpleasant topics. In addition, it is important to choose different topics for different occasions. In public, you should choose some light-hearted and interesting topics to talk about; And when communicating in private, you can delve into some of the more sensitive topics. At the same time, when asking someone to do something, you should also choose a topic according to the characteristics of the other party.
If the other party is a successful person or has a high social status, you can talk about some topics related to career, success, etc.; If the person is a housewife or an older person, talk about family, health, etc. In conclusion, factors such as the other person's identity, interests, and needs should be taken into account when choosing a topic.