At the Spring Festival class reunion, traces of her cheating were discovered.
I have witnessed several extramarital affairs at class reunions, and those women who want to cheat can still see some clues in their eyes and behavior. I'm forty-two years old, and I've been married to my husband for more than a decade, but instead of being as romantic and passionate as I imagined, our lives are full of trivialities and mundaneness like most people's lives.
Every day, I am busy with firewood, rice, oil and salt, and I am worried about the few yuan of change. It's a simple and ordinary life, but it's real, and it's the life I've been living.
Someone asked me if I was happy in my life? I smiled and replied, "It's okay." "My husband Hong Wei and I have a deep relationship, and we met through a friend's introduction.
After a period of contact, I felt that he was very good to me and met almost all my expectations for my partner. Eventually, we entered the palace of marriage. After marriage, the sweetness of life gradually fades and is replaced by pressure and contradictions.
Especially after having children, the contradiction is more prominent. My marriage with Hong Wei is not happy, but it is not bad, barely passable. I also considered divorce, but I gave up on the idea of having children.
I cherish my current life, I don't want my children to live in a single-parent family, and I don't want to give up my existing stability. In my married life, I have also been pursued, and some people have even confessed to me that I also have the opportunity to cheat.
But in the end I didn't choose to take that step. However, extramarital affairs seem to be common nowadays, and those who cheat don't seem to worry about being found out and live comfortably. During the Chinese New Year, I attended a high school reunion and found out that two classmates had a relationship in high school, and now they are connected again.
Although their behavior was puzzling, I later learned the truth from friends close to me. It turns out that they had a secret relationship in high school, but for some reason, they didn't end up together.
Now they all have families of their own, but in this gathering, they have rekindled their passion. This party made me see the laughter and enthusiasm of my classmates, but it also made me realize the complexity of marriage and love.
Although I know that my life is not perfect now, I still cherish it and do not want to give up because of external pressure. What I want is a stable life, not a short-lived romance.
At 12 o'clock in the evening, we ended the unforgettable class reunion and set out on our own journey home. I was traveling with a good friend, but when I got home, she told me to get off the bus halfway and told me to go back first.
I asked her the reason in confusion, and she just smiled and didn't answer. Later, I asked her, isn't she afraid of being discovered by her husband? She told me: "The guy in my family trusts me very much, as long as I can make an excuse to get by, he won't ask at all, it's okay!" ”
At night, lying in bed and recalling the events of the class reunion, I found a pattern: women who want to cheat at class reunions will have some special manners. First, they will drink and play uncontrollably, and lose their sense of proportion.
Although the relationship between classmates is close, it is necessary to maintain a moderate distance and avoid out-of-character behavior to avoid extramarital affairs. Second, some women are reluctant to go home late and choose to stay there even as the party is nearing its end.
Maybe they've found the right opportunity, or they've decided not to go home. For those women who want to cheat, they tend to neglect the stability and responsibilities of their family in pursuit of their own happiness.
The first type of person is the one who complains about unhappy marriages at meetings. The life of middle-aged people is trivial and dull, and the relationship with their partner is also diluted by daily quarrels and indifference, lacking freshness and love, and the relationship naturally fades gradually.
But a wise person will not tell others about these private matters casually, and even if he complains, he will only understate it, because the ugliness of the family should not be publicized. But some people will complain about the unhappiness of their marriage as a way to pave the way for their cheating, find a reason for cheating, and eventually betray the marriage.
Although I myself felt that my marriage was unsatisfactory and my family life was a mess, I didn't think about cheating, and I didn't betray my marriage. Maybe I'm just timid and reluctant to have a stable marriage.