Tomorrow is the first day of work after the New Year, and you may still be immersed in the joy of the Spring Festival, but a new journey has begun.
The new year is full of hope, and many people are looking forward to changing the status quo of their work.
As the saying goes, "The state is born from the heart." "The state of mind determines the environment, and if you want to change the status quo, you must start from the first degree.
In 2024, may we all let go of our grievances, put away our emotions, refuse internal friction, and start the new year in the best working condition.
Let go of grievances
There was a topic in "Strange Sayings": "Should the collapse of adults be hidden?" ”
Zang Hongfei gave an impressive point, he said:
"Wonderful Talk" has been broadcast for so many years, so many people have cried, so many people have collapsed, on this stage, you and I are just talking about it after dinner. Obviously, I was thinking in my heart, 'These mentors and the audience are blind, and they chose to eliminate me', and they still have to say, 'Thank you, I'm very happy to be able to come so far, I've learned a lot in this process'. ”
Not all the efforts can be exchanged for satisfactory gains. Born as a human being, it is inevitable to encounter the situation of being eliminated by paying a lot, even if the skills are really not as good as others, it is inevitable that you will be aggrieved for a while. It's just that smart people know how to let go of grievances in a timely manner and adjust their mentality in time.
Just like Zang Hongfei said later:
"In my heart, the 'coolness' of adults is: go away for half a life and come back without saying a word. For me, this question is not whether to hide the collapse of an adult, but whether I collapse and I can hide, I am finally an adult. ”
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Indeed, after decades of life, it is inevitable to suffer some grievances, but being able to let go of grievances in a timely manner and make progress day by day is the posture that a strong person should have.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "Sometimes, we have to be strong, so in pretending to be strong, we are really getting stronger and stronger." ”
On the road of growth, only by bearing all the hardships and digesting all the grievances can you meet yourself in the coming days.
There are countless ups and downs in life, and only by letting go of grievances and accumulating strength can we build a stronger self.
Put away your emotions
There is a story fragment in the book "Acting as an Emotionally Stable Adult Every Day", to the effect that:
One day before getting off work, my colleague Xiao Wu was called to the office by the leader and roared, and everyone in the company was holding their breath and listening.
When she came out of the leader's office, her eyes were red, but she still had a smile on her face.
It was as if what had just happened was not a stormy criticism, but just a loud heart-to-heart ......
I asked her, "Why don't you explain the explanation?" Why not complain? Really not sad? ”
She said lightly: "Because I know very well that the boss doesn't care how many nights I stay up with, he only looks at the final result; My colleagues don't care how many times I've cried, they only see the surface. I had to do it all by myself. ”
She continued: "My biggest takeaway in recent years has been not bothering people when I have a breakdown, and I once climbed eight flights of stairs with a smile on my face to find a place in this building where I could cry. ”
It turns out that those who seem to be quiet on the surface are actually more resilient on the inside than anyone else.
Wang Tao, the founder of DJI drones, also has two lines of words hanging in his office: only brains, not emotions.
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Sure enough, the strong know how to put away their emotions, and they understand that allowing their emotions to ferment will only lose time to solve the problem.
As Kazuo Inamori said:"Success should not be filled with unnecessary emotions. No matter how much you complain or how much you are wronged, the most important thing at the moment is to do a good job first, which is the mentality that a mature person should have. ”
Only by dealing with emotions can you control your work well.
Reject internal friction
At work, what drags us forward is probably not the level of ability, but the inner self-pull:
I didn't do my job well for the time being, and I was criticized by my boss, so I pondered my boss's words again and again, and fell into deep self-doubt.
When I received a more important project, I was afraid that I would mess up, so I was worried about this, worried about that, and worried.
But in fact, such nonsense thinking is not beneficial except to waste a lot of time and energy.
There is such a psychological experiment:
The subject was taken to a dark room, where he was told to draw some blood.
Next, the person hears a "tick, tick, tick" sound. He thought it was the sound of his own blood dripping down.
Half an hour later, his lips turned white with fright, and he felt like he was running out of blood.
The subject cried and said, "Am I not going to be able to do it?" What to do, I feel so dizzy. ”
As a result, when I turned on the light, I saw that there was no blood draw at all.
The sound of ticking is the sound of the staff turning on the faucet and the water dripping into the basin.
A lot of times, fear comes from your imagination.
And when you really start to do something, those uneasiness and fear of the unknown in your heart will slowly dissipate.
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As Yataro Matsuura said:"The so-called dilemma in life is nothing but the shackles you set up for yourself with your cranky thoughts. ”
Throw away too much mental friction and act bravely. Only by taking action will the problems be solved one by one.
Give it to yourself
Kazuo Inamori mentioned in the book "The Way of Living":"The workplace is the best place to cultivate the spirit, and work itself is a kind of practice. ”
No matter what work you do, it's not going to be smooth sailing.
But your attitude towards work will largely determine the height of your life.
Therefore, no matter what work you do, you must remember to adjust your state, which is a responsibility, but also to embrace a better future.
*: Zhai Yi; **Bee fly (ID: fengmeng2019).