Everyone wants their relationship to be smooth, but often inadvertently fall into some misunderstandings. The following 9 common "pitfalls" may have you stepped on more or less, but as long as you are aware and try to avoid them, your relationship will definitely be more harmonious.
1.Over-explanation: Sometimes, we are afraid that others will not like us, so we say everything very clearly, even verbosely. This will not only make you appear unmysterious, but also make the other person lose interest in exploring and understanding. Keeping some personal space and mystery right away will make the other person more fascinated.
2.Be the other person's "mother": always worry that the other party will not have enough food, clothing, and motivation, which will only make the other party feel that you are nagging like his mother. Proper care is necessary, but excessive care can deprive him of his freedom and room to grow.
3.Too verbose: When communicating with the other person, don't always argue with me and you. Learning to listen to each other's opinions, talk less and listen more, not only can make the other person feel respected, but also increase mutual understanding.
4.Giving up your privacy: Giving away your privacy soon after you have met may make the other person think that you are insincere or frivolous. Protecting your privacy and gradually deepening your relationship will make your relationship healthier.
5.Always talk about the past: Talking about the past can not only bog you down in memories, but it can also make the other person feel like you can't let go. Cherishing the present and looking forward to the future is the most important thing in the relationship.
6.No ego: Always revolving around the other person, without your own life goals and backbone, will make the other person feel that you have lost yourself. Maintaining independence and self-esteem, and having your own life and interests, can make the relationship more stable.
7.Too idealistic: Living in the imagination and not accepting the dark side of the real world will distort your psyche. Only by accepting the imperfections of reality can we better face and solve problems.
8.Twist and pinch and let the other party guess the need: If there is a need, you dare not say it, and always let the other party guess, which will only make both parties tired. Be brave enough to express your needs and feelings, so that the other person understands you better, and also makes the relationship more direct and efficient.
9.Being too emotional: Expressing one's opinions and attitudes aggressively or emotionally can not only fail to solve the problem, but can also make the relationship more strained. Learn to control your emotions and communicate calmly and rationally to better solve problems.
To sum up, avoiding these 9 "pits" in your relationship can make your emotional path smoother and smoother. But the most important thing is the communication and understanding between the two parties, and only by truly communicating with each other can the relationship be more stable and long-lasting.