I had mixed feelings when I found out that the boy I had been expecting to reply to text messages suddenly disappeared from the face of the earth and was no longer heard from. To be honest, I don't know what to do.
At first, I constantly checked my phone, and even kept it within reach when I was in the shower, and turned the screen volume up to the maximum, for fear of missing any of his messages. I'll admit, it's silly, but when you care a lot about someone, it seems to become less rational.
I've tried sending a straightforward message of "Hey, how's it going?" Or even more playful, "missing person reporting?" ”。All of this information is silent. I realized that continuing like this was not the way to go.
So, I started to change my strategy. I told myself that just because he didn't reply doesn't mean my life is over. I started to get together more with my friends and participate in various outdoor activities. I launched a ** challenge in the circle of friends to share my daily moments. I didn't want to get his attention, but to make myself aware that my world didn't revolve around him.
One day, after working up a sweat in the gym, I had a whim and sent him a message: "Hey, I tried a new fitness program today and it feels super good!" If you're interested, you can come along next time. "I wasn't expecting a reply or even taking it seriously. But to my surprise, this time he replied: "Sounds good, and the next time I call me for a simple reply, I realize that maybe he just doesn't like the monotony and uninteresting conversation." People like things that are alive and vivid rather than dry words. As a result, I share more about my actual actions and experiences rather than simply saying, "What are you doing?" Or "I miss you."
I started documenting little anecdotes in my life, like a cute puppy I met in a coffee shop or a chatty old man I met at a movie theater. I've found that as I fill our conversations with these real stories and experiences, he slowly responds more frequently.
I also learned to rely too much on my phone. I started practicing yoga to make myself less anxious while waiting for a response. I've learned to enjoy every moment of the moment and not let the little red dot on my phone screen dictate my mood.
I no longer struggle with why the boy didn't reply to the message, because I know it's not just me. Maybe he's busy with work, or maybe he's looking for the best way to communicate with me. It's important that I don't allow myself to be stuck in that passive waiting state.
In the process, I learned the importance of communication, not only through words, but also through actions and attitudes. I understand that coercion is useless if a person is unwilling to reply. But if you provide interesting, worthwhile content, things may be different.
Now, I don't worry about what to do if he doesn't reply to messages. Because I have my own life, my happiness and contentment no longer depend solely on His reply. Of course, if he is willing to get involved, it will be the best. If he chooses to be silent, then I have learned to be wonderful on my own.
If you're experiencing the same problem, try changing your strategy. Fill the conversation with your actions and experiences, not dry greetings. Remember, your world doesn't stop spinning just because someone doesn't reply to a message. Keep going, enjoy life, and what should come will always come.