Narrator: Huang Fugui.
My name is Huang Fugui, 79 years old this year, widowed and living alone, it turns out that high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, cerebral infarction and other elderly foundations, there is no problem in taking care of yourself, I have a cerebral infarction again a few years ago, semi-paralyzed, although someone can move a few steps with the help of tools, but if you want to buy vegetables and cook by yourself, these can not be done, and life can only be semi-self-care.
I only have one son, my son is 55 years old and has not retired, hospitalized for a few days, my son served me for a few days and was very impatient, and lived with my son's family for a few days during the New Year, I felt very awkward and uncomfortable, so I wanted to ask a live-in nanny to take care of myself, so that it was convenient for both of us.
My monthly retirement salary is more than 7,000 yuan, and the salary of hiring a live-in nanny is about 6,000 yuan, and I also have to pay about 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses, medical expenses, water and electricity bills, ** fees and other miscellaneous expenses, then my salary is not enough, I hope my son can subsidize me a little every month.
The son works as a repairman in a state-owned enterprise with a salary of more than 8,000 per month, the daughter-in-law works as an accountant in a private enterprise with a salary of more than 5,000 per month, and the grandson works in a company that does animation, and the specific salary is unknown, but the son's family of three has a job and receives a salary every month, not rich, but it is enough to live.
I told my son what I thought, and my son said to let him think about it, and after thinking about it for two days, my son said to me: "Dad, after the holiday, I also have to go to work, and I don't have time to take care of you, you are home alone, I don't worry, it is better for you to go to a nursing home." ”
I've inquired about it, a better nursing home can be six or seven thousand, it's more cost-effective than you hire a nanny, there are professional doctors and nurses, and there are peers of the same age as you, you won't feel lonely and lonely, and your retirement salary will be enough. ”
As soon as I heard my son say that he wanted to send me to a nursing home, I was a little reluctant, I was used to living alone and being lazy, and my work and rest time was not very regular.
I said to my son a little unhappy: "I'm not a lonely old man, I don't want to go to a nursing home, I heard people say that going to a nursing home will be bullied." ”
Dad, what nonsense are you talking about? What I am looking for you must be a regular nursing home, and there are professionals in it who can't take care of it? You also have to be considerate of me, your daughter-in-law and I are still working, and your grandson is about to get married, **all need money, **have money to subsidize you to hire a nanny. ”
Besides, if you go to a nursing home, the house you live in can also be rented, although your house has been for many years, but it is a school district house, nearby vegetable farms, hospitals, shopping malls, parks, and the transportation is convenient, you can rent at an affordable price, your 110 square meters can be rented for three or four thousand, if it is a company rent, maybe it will be higher, is it not good for you to subsidize your grandson's mortgage? ”
When I heard that my son wanted to rent out my house, I flatly refused, "I told you clearly, I don't like to go to a nursing home, you still have to go to a nursing home, and you still want to rent out my house, you don't plan to let me come back, you want me to die in a nursing home, you really have no filial piety." ”
It is said that raising children to prevent old age, that is really an empty word, I and your mother finally pulled you, bought you a house to marry a daughter-in-law, you gave birth to a child, the child is still raised by us for you, when the grandson buys a house, we also subsidize your money, now I am in trouble, I want you to help me, but you are unwilling. ”
Dad, can't you understand my difficulties? Obviously, you can save thousands of dollars by going to live in a nursing home, why do you have to hire a nanny, aren't you wasting money? Other people's parents are thinking about their children. ”
My son and I have a word, each holding what he sees, no one can convince anyone, my son to his brother-in-law, my brother-in-law, my sister and his aunt called **, let them judge and uphold justice.
The brother-in-law felt that it was not easy for the children now, he said: "Your son is also in his 50s, and he is about to become a father-in-law and grandfather, and his son needs money for a wedding, and he needs money to subsidize you, as an old man, you are almost 80 years old, how much time is left, it is better to think more about your son and grandson." ”
My brother-in-law's words made me a little angry, I thought that my sister-in-law and brother-in-law would be on my side, but I didn't expect my sister to persuade me to go to a nursing home.
She said: "If I don't move in the future, and I want my children to serve, I will take the initiative to go to a nursing home, so as not to cause trouble for them, going to a nursing home is economical and affordable, and you can reduce the burden on your children, and the house can be rented to subsidize your grandchildren, the best of both worlds, why not, isn't it good to be an old man who makes children like?" ”
Listening to my brother-in-law and my sister standing on my son's side, my son was even more energetic, he said: "Dad, it's not that I'm not filial, it's that I have more than enough heart and not enough strength, if I earn tens of thousands of dollars a month, I will definitely hire a nanny for you." ”
But don't worry, even if I send you to a nursing home, I will visit you every week, and I won't let the nursing home feel that you have no one to take care of you, no one cares, I won't let people bully you, treat you badly, and I will definitely fulfill my son's responsibility. ”
My sister's brother-in-law's words made me feel even more disappointed, my son couldn't count on it, and my grandson didn't even think about it, so I secretly made a decision.
On the fifth day of the Lunar New Year, I returned to my home from my son's house and called the intermediary company to ask them to help me find a nanny, and I don't need my son's subsidy, I still have more than 400,000 deposits in my name, which was originally intended to be used for my grandson's marriage, and now I keep it for myself.
My son and daughter-in-law were dumbfounded after knowing my plans, when my grandson bought a wedding house, I took out more than 200,000 yuan, they thought I had no savings, but I didn't expect that I still had 400,000 yuan, which I had saved over the years.
I've thought about it, if the deposit is used up and I'm still alive, I'll sell the house, anyway, my son is so unfilial, I don't want to leave the house to him, don't I spend it myself?
My son and daughter-in-law saw that the nanny I hired had started working, panicked, and invited a lot of relatives to come to the house to persuade me, many relatives felt that I didn't care about the life and death of my son and grandson, too selfish, as an old man, I should think more about my children.
I don't agree with this statement, I didn't graduate from high school at the age of 17, so I went to the countryside to become an intellectual youth, and I spent 10 years in the countryside before returning to the city.
My wife is also a devolved educated youth, we know each other, fall in love with each other and start a family, to be honest, when we got married, neither of us thought that we could go back to the city.
The son was born in the countryside, due to the difficult conditions, the wife hemorrhaged heavily when the son was and lost his fertility, because there is only one son, our husband and wife have been very fond of him since he was a child, and the son is a post-70s generation, but he really has not suffered much.
After returning to the city, my wife and I have arranged our own work, my wife entered the printing factory, I entered the power supply station to do substation maintenance, and I climbed high and low to work outdoors all year round, although the work is hard, but the salary and benefits are good.
I live with my wife in the housing reform house, and the fund-raising house is our unit to build a row house and a large flat, and the family did not have much money at that time, so I chose a large flat, and gave it to my son after getting a new house.
My wife also jokingly said at the time: "Although we have divided the house several times after returning to the city, we have never lived in a new house, and this new house is better for us to live for a while before giving it to our son." ”
I didn't agree, I always felt that good things should be given to my son, I worked hard all my life, I was reluctant to eat and wear, I left everything to my son, I wanted to support my son in my old age, and I needed my son's support, but my son didn't want to, he only thought about his own interests.
Am I wrong that my son wants to go against my will and want to make his own life better, and I have to be selfish as an old man, I don't want to live according to his will and let me live comfortably? **10,000 Fans Incentive Plan