Strictly speaking, if the parents are still around, then the grandparents have no obligation to raise their grandchildren. However, the elderly are very considerate of their children and do not want their children to have a hard time. So after having grandchildren, they will take the initiative to help take care of the baby and reduce the burden on their children.
65-year-old Aunt He has been in the city to help take care of the baby for ten years, and she said that she would stay in the city to care for the elderly after she was done, but who knew that some time ago, her daughter-in-law suddenly asked Aunt He and her husband to return to their hometown, regardless of the original promise. What's going on here? Next, let's take a look at Aunt He's story. **10,000 Fans Incentive Program My surname is He, and I am 65 years old this year. My wife and I are both from the countryside, neither husband nor wife is educated, I have never gone to school, and my wife is a little better, and she has reached the third grade of primary school. It's not that the two of us don't have a thirst for knowledge, but it's good to be able to live in that era of lack of food and clothing, and reading is a very luxurious thing.
We also know that if we don't study, we will have a hard time in the future. Therefore, we attached great importance to the education of our children, and at that time, our family was actually not having a good time, and our son and daughter spent a lot of money on education. But we didn't think about them going out early to work and sharing the pressure at home.
People in the village often say that girls read so many books, why do they do it? Anyway, in the future, I will be from someone else's family, spending money in my mother's house and earning money in my mother-in-law's house. It would be better to let her go out to work quickly, but we will not think so, even if the two of us have a hard time, we still have to let the children go to school.
My daughter is very competitive, she was admitted to a key university in the capital, she didn't let us worry about it during her studies, she also had a good job in the society, and the son-in-law she was looking for was also promising, and their young couple lived a very happy life.
My son's academic performance was average, he couldn't get into the bachelor's degree, and he only studied in a junior college. After graduating, I changed a lot of jobs, and then I asked us to borrow some money and partner with a friend to open an auto repair shop.
After a few years of work, my son married a daughter-in-law. The money for the wedding house and the bride price has exhausted our savings, and we have wiped out most of our life's savings. But we are very happy in our hearts, there is an extra member in the family, and our son has a home, and the future life will definitely get better and better year by year.
After my grandson was born, my son and daughter-in-law asked me to help take care of the child. I am willing to help take care of the baby, but I don't want to go to the city, I want to take my grandson to my hometown, so that my wife can help take care of it together, and I can also relax. And the cost in the hometown is relatively low, and it can save them a little money.
However, my daughter-in-law didn't want to be separated from her children, so I finally chose to go to the city and started a separate life with my wife. Most of the housework is done by my son, and my main thing is to take the baby, although I have this one task, but it is not an easy job to take the baby. When my grandson was a child, he cried, and he cried when he was hungry, it was very difficult to carry, and he always had to hold it, and he had to sleep with it during the day, otherwise he would wake up after a while.
The key is that I love to stay up late, and I don't sleep until two or three o'clock in the morning every day. I have to bring it myself, after all, my son and daughter-in-law still have to go to work, if I don't sleep well at night, how can I have the energy to work during the day? It was really hard for me in those years, and when my grandson went to kindergarten, I thought I could retire successfully.
As a result, my daughter-in-law had a second child, and I was tripped up again. This time, I really couldn't take care of the two children, so my son took over his wife in his hometown and let the two of us take care of the baby. At that time, my daughter-in-law told us: "Mom and Dad, if we want to live, we have to work, and the two children really need your help to take care of them, so we can only trouble you." In the future, you will live here with peace of mind, don't go back to the countryside, and our husband and wife will provide for you in old age, so that you can enjoy your old age in peace. ”
My wife is used to farm work, and although she is old, she still has a lot of strength. After he came over, he did all the housework, and his son and daughter-in-law were much easier. My wife can often help take care of the baby, and I feel much more relaxed than at the beginning.
The days have passed, and now we are in our tenth year in our son's house. In the past ten years, we have brought up our grandchildren, and now that both children will take care of themselves, we can finally have some comfortable days.
As a result, who would have thought that my daughter-in-law's attitude towards us suddenly changed half a year ago. In the past, my daughter-in-law was polite to the two of us, bought us a few sets of new clothes every year, and bought us whatever we wanted to eat, which was more filial to us. Several neighbors in the community praised us for being blessed and having a filial daughter-in-law, which was also the case with us at the beginning. But after 10 years, she was always picky everywhere, thinking that my wife and I were not hygienic, had bad living habits, and cooked meals that were too heavy and unhealthy.
Once, Aunt Wang, a neighbor, packed some leftovers from the banquet for us, saying that they were leftovers, but they were all untouched. But when I took it home and was seen by my daughter-in-law, my daughter-in-law was immediately unhappy, turned to her son and said, "Is there a shortage of food at home?" Why take someone else's leftovers? Make it like a beggar and disgrace our family. ”
Although I didn't say this to me directly, I really didn't feel good when I heard it. She doesn't like it, why would she say such ugly things?
In fact, this is not the first time that something like this has happened, and there are more and more conflicts between our husband and wife and them. On the night of the 25th of last month, the two of us were watching TV in the living room, and our daughter-in-law and son suddenly said that they wanted to talk to us, and we felt inexplicable at the time.
My son said that it was hard for both of us, and he was very grateful to us for helping them take care of their children over the years. After talking for more than ten minutes, we could feel that he had something to say, but after waiting and waiting, he still didn't get to the point.
At this time, the daughter-in-law couldn't help it, hurriedly grabbed her son, and then said to us: "Mom and Dad, you have indeed paid a lot for our family, and our husband and wife are really grateful to you." Now that the two children are older, they don't need to be brought by anyone, and it's boring for you to stay here, after all, there are no people you know here, it's better to go back to your hometown to live, there are many friends in your hometown, and life will definitely be more interesting. ”
Hearing this, we already understand that our daughter-in-law just dislikes us and doesn't want us to retire in their home.
At the beginning, we said that we would help bring the baby, and the two of you will provide for us in the future. Now that the children are older and don't need to be taken by anyone, you want to drive us back to our hometown, don't you do this? I said.
The daughter-in-law was a little unhappy, and said bluntly: "My mother is old and needs someone to take care of her, she is just my daughter, I must take her to take care of her." Our family is living an average life, and the house is small, so we can only grieve you to go back. When we have the ability and make money, we will take you over and enjoy the blessings. ”
I didn't know what to say, so my wife replied, "You don't want us to live here, and we won't force it." But we spent all our savings on you, and we have been taking care of our children for ten years, and we have not had any income. When we go home, we don't even have money to buy gas, and you have to give us 800 yuan a month for living expenses. ”
800 yuan is not much, I thought my daughter-in-law would not refuse. As a result, the daughter-in-law said that they had to repay the mortgage and car loan, and the pressure on life was too much, and 800 yuan was too much, so they could only give us 500 yuan a month. The same is true of the son.
My husband and wife didn't quarrel with our son and daughter-in-law again, and the next day we packed our bags and got on the train back to our hometown. We didn't say anything, but we felt bad. The two of us have such a son, and the idea has always been to support our son, so we have never been stingy when spending money for our son, as long as we have as long as our son needs it, we are willing to give.
But now that we are no longer needed, they will drive us back to their hometown, which is really not a thing. The two of us have a grudge against our daughter-in-law in our hearts, but we are even more angry with our son, we have no credit and hard work for so many years, and now he would rather support his mother-in-law than care about our two biological parents, which is really sad.
The only thing to be thankful for is that we also have a filial daughter, now our daughter gives us 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses, although she can't come back to see us often, but she often buys us things online, and every month she can receive the express delivery that her daughter bought for us. Sure enough, the son is the debt collector, and the daughter is our little padded jacket.