In our lives, there are always people who don't contact us for a long time, and suddenly one day they come to the door. This situation tends to leave us confused and curious. This article will help you better understand this phenomenon by taking a look at the three main reasons why people who haven't been in contact for a long time suddenly come to you.
Sometimes, a person does not contact you for a long time because he is going through some difficulties or challenges and does not have the time and energy to manage relationships. When he is struggling, he may suddenly think of you and ask for your help. The contact in this case is often because he trusts you and thinks you are a trustworthy person.
For example, Xiao Li and his high school classmate Xiao Wang have not been in touch for five years. Suddenly, one day, Xiao Wang contacted Xiao Li and asked for help him move. Xiao Li happily agreed, and helped Xiao Wang complete the move.
In this example, Xiao Wang did not contact Xiao Li for a long time because he was busy with work and life and did not have the time and energy to manage interpersonal relationships. When he needed help, he chose to ask Xiao Li for help because he thought Xiao Li was a trustworthy person.
Sometimes, a person does not contact you for a long time because his interest in you has waned. However, over time, he may regain interest in you and decide to reconnect with you. In this case, the contact may be because he wants to know how you are doing recently, or he wants to reconnect with you.
For example, Xiao Zhang and his ex-girlfriend Xiao Liu have been breaking up for two years. In those two years, they have not been in touch. But recently, Xiao Liu suddenly contacted Xiao Zhang, asked him about his recent situation, and expressed his desire to reconnect with him. Xiao Zhang was surprised, but he was also happy to be able to communicate with Xiao Liu again.
In this example, Xiao Liu did not contact Xiao Zhang for a long time because her interest in Xiao Zhang had weakened. But as time goes on, she may have regained interest in Xiao Zhang and decided to reconnect with him.
Sometimes, a person does not contact you for a long time because he may have realized that your relationship is over or has gone sour. But as time goes on, he may begin to miss the good times and experiences you once had. In this case, he may reach out to you in the hope of being able to relive old dreams with you.
For example, Xiao Zhao and his old friend Xiao Qian haven't seen each other for three years. They used to be best friends, but because of some misunderstandings and contradictions, the relationship gradually drifted apart. Recently, Xiao Zhao suddenly contacted Xiao Qian and asked him if he had time to come out and get together together. When they meet, they find that they still have many topics and memories in common, which reinvigorates their relationship.
In this example, Xiao Zhao did not see Xiao Qian for a long time because their relationship had become problematic. But as time goes on, he begins to miss the good times and experiences they once had, and hopes to be able to rebuild their friendship.
Someone who hasn't been in touch for a long time suddenly comes to you most often for the above three reasons: he needs your help, he may have a new interest in you, and he may want to relive old dreams with you. Of course, this is not absolute, and everyone's situation is different.
Whatever the reason, we need to think carefully about our feelings and attitudes and make choices that align with our values and interests. At the same time, we should respect the feelings and needs of the other person, and deal with various problems in interpersonal relationships with sincerity and kindness.
It is also very important to maintain a certain distance and independence in interpersonal interactions. We should learn to protect our privacy and personal space, and not be easily swayed by the needs of others. At the same time, it is necessary to maintain the appropriate enthusiasm and care, and give others the necessary support and help. In this way, you can build healthy, long-lasting relationships.