Parents are originally a great word, which contains the hardships of conceiving a baby in October, the courage of childbirth, and the hardships of educating children with hard work.
Most people, once they become parents, see their children as the most important thing. In every step of a child's growth, there is the love and companionship of their parents, as well as their dedication and sacrifice.
In this case, it is natural for children to be filial to their parents and to be considerate of their parents, and they are only paying back the kindness they once owed.
But with the continuous progress of the times, we are more and more aware that not everyone can be a good parent, let alone all parents can bring a happy life to their children, and some people will resent their parents for why they brought themselves into this world.
Parents also need exams, and the examiner is the child.
In real life, failing parents abound, and they are the main culprits in their children's miserable lives.
Why do people hate their parents when they reach middle age? These two points are the answer, and I believe many people can empathize.
01: The irresponsibility of parents has caused a lifetime of suffering for children
A netizen once cried that what he hated most was his parents.
When he was a child, he was given to others by his parents just after he was born, and then he traveled to many places, but no family was willing to accept him, and finally his parents took him back with great reluctance.
However, this did not change the attitude of his parents, but made his parents more impatient with him, who cared little about him on weekdays, and even had to stay up by himself when he was sick and hospitalized.
Later, he was forced by his parents to drop out of school and raise his younger siblings, even if he grew up, he had to be divided by his parents.
Seeing that others have a car and a house after middle age, a successful career, and parents who love themselves, this netizen burst into tears.
He has never done anything wrong, but he has not been able to get the simplest happiness, all because of the irresponsibility of his parents.
Children can't distinguish between good and evil, we always feel that our parents are right, but with independent thinking, after seeing other people's parents, we will gradually find that many parents are the children who suffer.
What a sad thing it is that they give birth to children, but they don't know how to treat them well, and let the children live in the shadow of not being loved for the rest of their lives.
We always accuse our children of unfilial piety, how many of us can reflect on ourselves?
Perhaps from beginning to end, it is only those irresponsible parents who do wrong, and the children are the most innocent.
02: Parents' self-containment restricts their children's development
Parents' vision, pattern, and thinking pattern determine the direction of their children's future life.
Parents who can follow the pace of the times and constantly refresh their thinking are enough to provide their children with a good educational foundation and at the same time point them in the direction of life.
In today's society where involution is so intense, if you can get the guidance of your parents, children will stand on the shoulders of giants and succeed faster.
While many parents are working hard to let their children win at the starting line, there are also some parents who are complacent and use ignorant thinking to deprive their children of the opportunity to improve.
You should be like a bird flying to your mountain", the heroine lives in a family with ignorant parents.
Parents think that if you are sick, you don't need to take medicine, you just need to pray, girls don't need to go to school, and it's enough to get married.
For a long time, the heroine was bound by her parents in such a distorted mind, living numb and ignorant.
It wasn't until she studied hard and entered college that she realized that what her parents said was wrong, and the reason why they were so poor was that their narrow thinking limited them.
Later, the heroine got rid of her parents and studied hard to be admitted to a higher education institution and had a successful life.
Objectively speaking, the heroine in the book is lucky, because she finally realized the ignorance of her parents at a turning point in her life.
But in real life, there are still too many people who can't get out of their parents' thinking all their lives, and they will always be coerced, even if they wake up one day, but it is too late for people to reach middle age.
At this time, they hate their parents, and they are more helpless.
Whether the parents did it intentionally or not, the children's lives have been ruined, how sad.
People hate their parents in middle age, firstly, because their children are finally fed up with their parents' irresponsibility, and secondly, because of their parents' ignorant thinking, which makes their children miserable.
Becoming a parent is not as simple as we think, we should not move ourselves at once, but also satisfy our children.
The past can't be repeated, I just hope that in the future, we can all correct ourselves and be a good parent, which is the best gift you can give your children.
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