In the relationship between men and women, we often hear opinions such as "a woman must learn to torture a man so that she will love you more" or "if you want to pinch a man, then you don't want him to be happy with you". These statements may seem to reduce the relationship between men and women to a power game, but in reality, real intimacy is far more complicated than that.
First of all, we must understand that neither men nor women should be reduced to some stereotype or pattern of behavior. Everyone has their own unique personality, needs, and values. Therefore, trying to "grasp" or "control" the other party through a fixed strategy is not only unfair, but also doomed to failure.
However, this does not mean that strategies or techniques do not exist in the relationship between men and women. On the contrary, understanding each other's psychology and needs, as well as mastering some effective communication skills, can help us build healthier and stronger relationships.
For women, gentleness, thoughtfulness, and empathy are indeed valuable qualities. But this does not mean that women should unconditionally submit to men or give up their own needs. Instead, women should learn to respect each other while respecting themselves. When a man asks a need or question, the woman can steer the conversation by asking rhetorical questions or other questions, which not only stimulates the men's desire to conquer but also helps them understand each other more deeply.
But it should be noted here that this kind of rhetorical questioning and guidance is not to "torture" or "control" the other party, but to promote understanding and communication between the two parties. Women should maintain a gentle and accommodating attitude and not try to establish their superiority by questioning or doubting the other person.
In addition, we need to understand that the relationship between men and women is not a zero-sum game. That is, the success of one does not mean the failure of the other. Instead, true intimacy should be based on mutual respect, mutual support, and mutual growth. Therefore, both men and women should strive to promote each other's growth and happiness and not try to satisfy their own selfish desires by controlling or manipulating each other.
For those women who are struggling emotionally or in life, it is very important to seek help and self-improvement. Reading books about emotional relationships and interpersonal communication is indeed a great way to do it. But these books should provide practical advice on how to understand others, how to build healthy relationships, and how to protect yourself, rather than promoting a stereotypical gender role or behavior pattern.
Finally, whether emotionally or in the workplace, women should learn to believe in themselves and rely on their own strength to face challenges. This does not mean being ruthless or scheming, but learning to be kind and compassionate, but also to have enough wisdom and courage to deal with life's various complex situations.
In conclusion, the relationship between men and women is not a simple power game or a struggle between conquering and being conquered. On the contrary, it requires joint efforts, understanding and respect on both sides to sustain and develop. For women, learning to apply some strategies and techniques based on maintaining self and respecting others can help them better cope with life's challenges and build healthier, stronger relationships.
I recommend you also read the book "Be a Woman Who Can't Be Refused". It is not only a guide to enhance women's charm, but also a treasure book to help women understand themselves and master interpersonal skills. The book elaborates on how to use the power of gentleness to resolve the contradictions and dilemmas in life; How to cultivate your inner self and become a confident and attractive woman. Whether you're a working woman or a housewife, this book can provide you with practical advice and inspiration to make you feel more comfortable and confident in your interactions. Reading this book, you will learn how to become a woman who cannot be refused, and reap more happiness and success. I believe that it will definitely become a mentor and friend on your life path, and help you grow and progress.