After retirement, people who have a hard life will say the following things when they open their mou

In the workplace, we often hear the phrase: a happy ending.

After working for a year, I summarized my achievements and felt that it was not bad, which was considered a success. We've been through a lot of things like this.

However, life and "words" are not directly equated. Some modifiers are just a wish and never become a reality.

When we survive until the moment of retirement, it will still not be "a happy ending". In the past, there were many unsatisfactory places, and there were many broken things in the future.

There is a way to judge whether a person's life is miserable, listen to his words, and trace his form.

After retirement, people who have a hard life will say the following things when they open their mouths, and most of them are "cocooning and self-restraint".

First, the complaint that the pension is too small: crying out for poverty with money.

One of my cousins retired from a local coal mine. Because the social security paid by the employer is not much during the working period, the pension is relatively low. Compared with local civil servants, the difference is one or two thousand yuan per month.

Every time he met his cousin, he would sigh: "It's really sad to mix in a useless unit for a lifetime." If I hadn't agreed to recruit workers and continued to farm in the countryside, I would at least have my own orchard and a small western-style house.

During the Chinese New Year, my cousin went to the countryside to pay New Year's greetings. A relative said, "Uncle Cousin, look at you so painfully. Why don't I give you the little orchard, and you give me the pension. ”

Uncle Cousin immediately shut up, quickly waved his hand, and refused to exchange.

Yes, compared with retired civil servants, my cousin has a sense of loss, and compared with rural relatives who can't retire for the rest of their lives, they have a sense of accomplishment. This is a truth that my cousin did not understand.

Holding a pension and crying poor every day is the mentality of "not being satisfied". Over time, the joy of spending money will be lost.

Second, the gossip of sowing discord: always taking the blame on oneself.

Some retired elderly people have brought the practice of "intrigue" in the workplace to life. I always think that if you provoke right and wrong, you can make a profit.

Let's say you tell a neighbor that the marks on his car were drawn by a child. As a result, neighbors and parents of children are entangled. On the surface, you can sit on the mountain and watch the tiger fight, but in fact, when the neighbors and the child's parents come to you to "confront", it will immediately come to you.

Understand that where there is force, there is also reaction; A person who tells the story of right and wrong is a person who does not distinguish between right and wrong.

Third, curse the cruel words of old colleagues: keep hatred in your heart.

There is a kind of person who brings the holidays in the workplace to the outside of the workplace. I always think that when I retire, I have to take revenge and expose all the mistakes of the other party.

When I'm in the workplace, I'm worried about losing my job. When you retire, you are not afraid of heaven and earth, even if you have a grudge with your old colleagues, you will not lose your pension.

When a person has a vicious thought in his heart, the hatred is like a stone, pressing down on his chest, causing him to fidget and sleep unsteadily.

People with good lives will "not blame the past". When you meet a colleague who has a holiday, you will also shake hands and make peace. It's only reasonable that everyone is going to go against each other for work and promotion.

Fourth, lament the foolishness of children: there is always no hope for the family.

When a person sighs, he is prepared for the "worst". The signs of misery are obvious.

Each generation has different opportunities and a different perception of society. If a retired person compares the lives of his children with his own experiences when he was young, he will definitely have a sense of disparity.

I often feel that my children are not as good as themselves; What children do is unreasonable.

My little uncle, after retiring, helped his son with the car washing job. He often said in his relatives: "I didn't expect to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to send my son to college, and in the end, I have to rely on my parents and live at the bottom."

The little uncle didn't know that there were three hundred and sixty lines, and the line was the champion. Who's to say that there is no profit in car washing?

Many people of the older generation think that working in the system means going to work, and other jobs are part-time jobs; Running your own company is starting a business, and working in someone else's company is not promising. Such a prejudice really needs to be changed.

Give your children more encouragement, respect their choices, and speak positively, and the family will have signs of prosperity. Otherwise, there are many factors of life in the family.

Fifth, the old saying that is so aggrieved that tears are shed: I can't get out of the past.

Many retired elderly people say "I want to be the beginning, that year" as soon as they open their mouths.

Pulling the memory back decades, life is really painful. On the one hand, the society is in a state of poverty, the transportation is relatively backward, the material is not rich enough, and some families have long lacked food and clothing; On the one hand, I have experienced the pains of growing up.

Bringing the pain of the past back to the present life is "remembering the bitterness" and tells us not to forget the way we came. But we also need to understand that the purpose of "remembering bitterness" is to "think sweet".

The old man often burst into tears when he remembered the past, but it was just hurting his own heart and making the people around him see the joke.

In the seventies and eighties of the last century, the monthly salary of the unit was only more than ten yuan, and the living expenses of the family were not enough. Many people, after work, have to go to the construction site to move bricks to subsidize their families.

Inconvenient transportation, long-term separation of husband and wife, children with fever and cold. Speaking of the past, it is touching and miserable. But don't get caught up in it, look to the future in everything.

Seon lost his horse, how do you know if it's a blessing?

The greatest sorrow in life is that "you can't get out of yourself". Always keep yourself at a certain stage, and the outside world has already bloomed, and you can't feel it.

There's a philosophical saying: "Never be a perfectionist, because people are always bent on turning heaven into hell." ”

When you are retired, please keep your "blessings" and don't say that your blessings are gone.