This Friday, the leader took me to a dinner because a big project had just been successfully completed. The leaders were also very happy, so they invited a few customers to celebrate together, and by the way, they also paved the way for the subsequent cooperation in advance. I didn't want to participate because I was unwell, and the doctor advised me to rest more. However, since I was one of the core members of the project, I could only reluctantly go at the request of the leader. I greeted the leader in advance, and tried not to drink alcohol when I arrived at the dinner, and the leader agreed.
The restaurant is softly lit and full of exquisite dishes, and everyone sits around in a lively atmosphere. Recalling the bits and pieces of the project, everyone was deeply touched. After three rounds of drinking, everyone began to toast each other. I knew I was in good shape and couldn't drink, so I kept a low profile and hoped people wouldn't notice me.
However, I was afraid of what would come, and just as I was eating silently in the corner, an account manager walked up to me with a wine glass, and I immediately felt bad.
Manager Zhong, this project cooperation is so smooth, you are indispensable, I salute you for this glass of wine. Sure enough, the one who came was not good. I hurriedly refused on the grounds of physical discomfort, but I didn't expect the customer to be reluctant, "Manager Zhong, you see that my wine glass is up, if you don't drink, you will look down on me." "I was a little angry, but I didn't dare say that. After all, if you are quick to talk for a while, the project may not be able to move forward. If it had been before, I might have replied according to the other party's words: "Mr. Zhang, I'm really sorry, I really can't drink because of my health." ”
But then, I suddenly remembered what my uncle, who was the director of the bureau, had taught me before. He knows all about the routines of the workplace. Once, during a meal together, he told me about this situation. "At the wine table, this kind of annoying behavior of persuading to drink is very common", the uncle's words revealed a little helplessness, "Although the person who is persuaded to drink may be unhappy, but there is no way, this is our human society, wine table culture." ”
In the face of this situation, many people either do not refuse and drink hard, so that once it starts, everyone has to drink the toast later; or resolutely refuse, which may offend the other party and affect the relationship between the two parties. Uncle said slowly.
In fact, since the other party said such cruel words to persuade drinking, it was nothing more than to protect his face and status. In that case, you only have to give him enough face to refuse," the uncle continued. "For example, you can say, 'Mr. X, you're my good big brother, and you usually take care of me. My brother and I are not feeling well today, and you, who are the elder brothers, will definitely not embarrass my brother. Today, I replaced the wine with tea, and when my body is better, I will punish myself with three cups to make amends to my eldest brother. In this way, first raise him, and then gently put him down, give him enough face, and naturally you will not be embarrassed. ”
Or, you can subtly divert the subject to defuse it. You could say, 'Total, my admiration for you is not something that a glass of wine can express. Since we have been working together, we have been honest and supportive of each other, not to mention the professionalism of your team. I believe that our future cooperation will definitely create more brilliance. I really can't drink it today, so I'll salute you with tea instead of wine, please bear with me. Uncle explained. Thinking of my uncle's teachings, I couldn't help but smile, and I already had a plan in my heart to deal with it.