What is the most important thing for children Children are the future of every family, and whether children are excellent is a matter of great concern to every parent. The evaluation of whether a student is excellent is usually based on the three good standards, namely: good moral character, good learning, good health, and all-round development of morality, intellect and body. However, in reality, it is not uncommon for students with good grades to perform mediocre after joining the workforce. Why is that?
Take me as an example, I used to be very good when I was a student, and I was recognized as a good student in the eyes of teachers, classmates, parents, relatives, neighbors, etc. But now it has long been obscure. I am now in my fifties, fifty and know the destiny of heaven, although I am still a small achievement, a middle-level cadre of a company, but compared with my childhood classmates is indeed very ordinary. Some of the so-called naughty classmates who were naughty when they were children now mix better. Not to mention that they have cars and houses, many of them also run their own companies and become bosses, and in the end they are just a part-time worker, although they are a middle-level cadre, but if they retire one day, they still have nothing. Why is that?
I thought about it for a long time, and I thought there was a problem with the evaluation index of whether the student was excellent, maybe I wasn't that good at the time, but according to the evaluation index card at the time, I was relatively good.
These classmates, who were business owners, had poor academic performance at that time, and they were at most in the middle of the stream. They were all fun-loving at the time, often getting together to play cards, drink, and fight, and were often criticized by the teacher by name, and even made to stand at the door of the classroom. After graduation, most of them went to the market, and later figured out the way to the market, and they all partnered to start their own businesses, and they became bosses, and the enterprises also grew from small to large, and became successful people in the eyes of teachers and students.
And I and some classmates who studied well, all went to university, got graduation certificates, some went to government agencies and institutions, lived a life of drought and flood protection, and some went to large enterprises and became white-collar workers that everyone envied at that time. Because the salary is quite high and the environment is comfortable, few of us who study well have started their own businesses.
These more successful boss classmates, when they first joined the work, the salary was relatively low, the work was more tiring, and it was even difficult to find a job. Students who study well, have high academic qualifications, and have a stable job are often content with the status quo, but later have a relatively dull life, retire peacefully, and do not achieve a career. Of course, among our students who study well and work well, there are also those who give up their superior jobs and successfully start their own businesses, but the proportion is very small.
From here, it can be said that the road of life is long, and the student age is only a short period, and studying well does not mean that you will mix well in the future, and it will even have the opposite effect and lose your fighting spirit in the future. At that time, I was not good at studying, and I was often criticized by parents and teachers, which may be a kind of frustration education, which exercised my ability to make blows, which is better for the future.
If it is said that these children who do not study well start a business because they are forced by life, but those students who study well and work well will definitely choose to start a business in the future because of their lofty ideals and clear goals.
Therefore, looking back now, I think the most important thing for children is to let them establish lofty ideals, and children will continue to forge ahead towards this goal in the future; The second is to enhance their psychological resistance to blows, life cannot be smooth sailing, and mental health is more important than anything else.
And now, some children don't know why they want to study, and learning well is also because of the good supervision of their parents, and the family conditions allow them to sign up for a lot of tutoring classes, and it is not that children really want to learn spontaneously. There are also some children who have good academic performance, and occasionally do not do well in the exam, and they can't bear it psychologically, and I heard that there are some students who jump off the building and commit suicide. You say, what's the use of this kind of learning? Can you adapt to society?
To sum up, through my own real experience, I think the most important thing for children is not to simply learn well, even if the moral, intellectual and physical three are not necessarily really good, but to have a lofty ideal, there is an indomitable spirit is really good!
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