When we enter middle age, we seem to be far away from young love, unable to talk about money and wealth, and even death is still far away from us. In this period, people's perceived gains and losses have been seen very clearly, and fame and honor are like a pile of dung that can be easily discarded.
Mature and wonderful age, it should be the most glorious moment of life, full of rich experience and deep knowledge, but also have a solid and powerful body, but at this time, difficulties are often accompanied by the side.
The pressure from the outside world and the inner contradictions of the self are like two invisible forces, which are extremely determined to push us forward in the unknown direction. Work and career have encountered obstacles that are difficult to break through, the quality of life has gradually decreased, many difficulties have been encountered in interpersonal communication, and many close friends and family have gradually faded out of our life circle.
Why is it that at this stage of middle age, there are fewer and fewer people to talk to? It is understood that there are roughly three reasons, see which type you belong to?
First of all, there is a lack of suitable social time due to a busy life. In the context of today's rapidly changing social development, the pace of the whole era is advancing rapidly, and the pace of people's life is accelerating day by day. Many times we find that we don't really have the time we can fully control, and we don't have the leisure to enjoy life to the fullest. Especially when people reach middle age, they often need to take care of the elderly and children, and the burden of family livelihood makes us have to work hard in the company every day to earn living needs; When you get home in the evening, you have to deal with the daily chores. In the midst of a busy day, we are still unable to protect ourselves, so naturally we have no spare energy for social activities. Even those who used to enjoy lively activities such as parties and shopping have had to face the reality and return to ordinary life. As cruel as it may sound, when appropriate, we should also adjust our mindset and find some time to be alone for ourselves.
Secondly, some people are introverted and not good at dealing with others. This group of people may be more interested in the tranquility of the environment than the hustle and bustle of the downtown area. This type of person is more introverted, has difficulty in interacting with others, is accustomed to keeping silent, and lacks the courage and determination to express himself. Unless it's a social occasion that you need to attend, you'd rather stay at home and entertain yourself to avoid being noticed outside. Even during social activities that they have to participate in, they still feel uncomfortable. Similar to this phenomenon, we call it "social phobia", and it is prevalent in people of all ages. In a sense, there's nothing wrong with this way of life, maybe they enjoy it, as long as the people who know them can understand, why care if others do? After all, in most cases, life is lonely, not everyone likes flashy communication, and it is not a pleasure to live your own life alone.
Finally, some people have come to understand the true meaning of life and have learned to respect their inner needs. The complexity of social reality and the strangeness of human nature have always imperceptibly affected the psychological state of each of us. In the past, we may have given sincerely, but we have been ruthlessly hurt by others, and since then we have been disheartened and no longer trust others easily; Perhaps in order to adapt to the expectations of others, he gave in and flattered, pretending to behave appropriately. After all the twists and turns, we fully understand that the nature of life is so harsh that not everyone deserves our full attention.
If you want to maintain a good relationship between relatives and friends, it is not only possible to achieve emotional exchanges, but it is also important to build a solid network of interest relationships. Some people often adhere to the principle of "having many relatives and friends, and going out to do things without worry", but after receiving such influence for a long time, we become more and more obsessed with sophistication and tactfulness, deviating from the quality of sincerity and beauty, and becoming hypocritical and cunning. But, fortunately, there is a group of people who have seen everything and are determined to distance themselves from all the social behaviors that interfere with their lives. They no longer force themselves to conform to worldly standards, they no longer endure humiliation just to gain the affirmation of others, they just try to please themselves and listen to their inner voice. After letting go of all the heavy burdens, they also took off the disguise on their faces and faced life with sincerity, so that they were in a good mood, wandering bravely and freely.