relationship
I don't know if people who have ever been married feel this way, but recently, when I felt the strongest "wedding smell" on them, it was after I got married, that I found that I spent far more time on online shopping apps than on food delivery apps.
Before we got married, we both ate out, and we would never go out to the kitchen until we had to, and when we usually went to work, we ate out three days out of five days or ordered takeout.
At that time, none of us would have imagined that a year after we got married, our wedding would turn into a cooking competition. The two of us went to the kitchen as soon as we got off work, and this study was more than half a year, and we learned to mix noodles, learn to roll out, learn to make dumplings, learn to make buns, and learn to make pies.
After getting married, probably because of the responsibilities between husband and wife, we focused our main energy on the home instead of ordering takeout.
This change is just as puzzling to me, but so natural.
In fact, the strong feelings of "living a life" often surprise me, as if I have just been married for a year, but I have already entered the golden wedding.
Last weekend, the two of us made a pie at home, and the two of us were in the kitchen and sharing how to make the pie, and I suddenly felt like we were our parents. Just like two of us in our 50s, on the weekend, make a pie at home and wait for the children to come home for dinner, who can understand what kind of mood it is.
At this moment, I couldn't help but think of some time before we got married, when we went to a married friend's house together. The two of them were busy in the kitchen, making us fish and dumplings, and occasionally stuffing snacks and fruit into our mouths.
At that time, I looked at their departing figures, and I had a strange feeling in my heart, thinking that falling in love and getting married are really different. Although the couple has been together for less than half of our time, their relationship has become noticeably closer since they got married.
At that time, I was still envious of them for living a life of "living like a real couple".
In a sense, this is the beginning of a relationship breakdown, and the more complicated the meal, the more it shows that the relationship between us is deepening.
I'm not a fan of cooking. I still remember when we first got together, he often said that he wanted to cook me a good meal, but I refused, thinking it was too troublesome, and it was better to stay in a hotel.
And at that time, our relationship was not deep enough, not to the point where we could fully trust each other, and dating was just a meal and a sleep. They eat here, in a nearby guesthouse, and the relationship between them can be described as "fast food".
Then we lived together. Once, the two of us took turns cooking, but each time we would argue over our workload, and finally the two of us discussed it and decided to order takeout again.
At that time, neither was willing to do more for the other, but could not speak out. Our relationship has not yet developed to the point where we can ignore small things, let alone talk about things that go beyond family matters.
Later, we went through a lot of things together and became best friends instead of worrying about trivial things.
After marriage, we became more united and had more things to do "together". Not only do we have to cook together, but we also have to discuss how to make money together, how to achieve common ideals, and how to make suggestions for future possibilities.
I think that what we eat as a family is only on the surface, and what is hidden under the surface is probably that everyone has come to agree that we are a family.
In fact, before I got married, I was full of fear of the word "live", and I was afraid that these two words would make us lose our feelings.
But now, I know that life and passion are not contradictory, but can coexist.
Actually, I don't want to encourage everyone to get married, until now, I think that persuading people to get married will be struck, and it is irresponsible to only talk about the sweetness of marriage and not talk about the pain after marriage.
I just think that when a person gets to a certain point, he will have a big surprise, there will be some unexpected changes.
Therefore, don't be afraid to be too emotionally deep, let alone "live". After all, between normal couples, the most important thing is feelings, not simple feelings.
While deepening a relationship can be painful and tear things apart faster, you'll eventually get to that point. People can't spend their lives in fast food love, trivial things are the truth of life.