My uncle said: "Any relationship, no matter how distant or close it is, needs to keep the boundaries of communication. Most of the people who can really talk talk about scale, understand proportion, and know how to advance and retreat. ”
He added: "Etiquette is the most delicate thing in the world, and it is both an indispensable part of human interaction and at the same time not to be overly calculated. If you value etiquette above all else, you will lose trust between people. Therefore, it is the hardest and best to find a sense of proportion in verbal communication that is both straightforward and not rude. ”
Indeed, in social psychology there is a theory of "interpersonal distance", where the distance of intimacy varies due to the different relationships between people. But no matter how close or close the relationship between the two parties is, they must keep the boundaries of communication, grasp the scale and sense of proportion of speaking, and never feel that the relationship between each other is good, and they will speak without hindrance and scruples, otherwise no matter how good the relationship is, it will be exhausted.
Therefore, only the right distance can produce beauty, and only the right sense of proportion can make interpersonal relationships more harmonious. The reason why people who can talk can go smoothly in interpersonal communication is because they have mastered the knack of speaking with a sense of proportion.