I've read a book that says:
A face is nothing more than a person's appearance.
But in fact, a person's appearance is determined by another appearance, and that is education.
That's what he thinks too.
How do you feel when you get along with people?
I used to think it was morality, but then I realized that it was a kind of cultivation.
With cultivated people, even if the three views are inconsistent, it will not make people feel embarrassed.
Moreover, the more cultivated a person is, the more reliable his character is, which is a kind of constraint that prevents them from doing anything out of the ordinary.
So, which kind of person is more educated?
If you look at life carefully, you will find that well-educated people often have a certain "commonality".
That is, they can communicate in normal language.
Speaking well is the most basic restraint.
He saw a paragraph on the Internet.
When the man came back from work, he saw that the house was neatly cleaned up, and there were a few freshly washed clothes, so he didn't say anything, and walked directly towards the kitchen over there.
His wife was busy in the kitchen, "I won't be able to eat dinner until later." ”
Before he finished his words, he reprimanded: "It's so late again, when will I come back, you don't see when I will come back, you eat at home." ”
As he spoke, the man walked out, and as soon as he reached the door, he saw a cake on the table, and then remembered that today was his wife's birthday.
However, even though he knew that these words were hurtful, the damage he had done to his wife was irreparable.
It seems that it is easy for us to ignore the people closest to us, to say nasty things to the people around us, to think that they will not leave, and then we have no fear.
But words, though invisible, are extremely destructive.
In the final analysis, those who can't be reasonable, can't be patient, and can't express themselves gently are often because they don't know how to control, so they let their emotions dictate their actions.
Especially under impulse, exposing one's weaknesses in quarrels is all because of not controlling oneself well.
This kind of person can't control himself at all and does what he wants, which shows that he is not well-educated, so he becomes so selfish.
On the contrary, some well-educated people know what not to do and what not to say, so even if they are angry, they will not do anything to hurt others.
The most terrible thing between people is never conflict.
After all, conflicts are easy to resolve, but injuries are irreparable.
Speaking well is a sign of respect for people.
There is such a play in "The Theory".
A newborn family, at the full moon banquet, there are many people coming.
When the guests saw the baby, they couldn't help but send their blessings.
Some people said, "This son will become a great thing", but the gentleman didn't care, just smiled.
People said: "This kid has a very good body and bones, and it won't get in the way when he looks at it." ”
All in all, almost every guest is complimenting their children, and their parents are smiling.
A man who claimed to be from the city went up to the child's parents and said to them, "This child will die sooner or later." ”
With that, the gentleman was beaten severely by his master and then kicked out.
Men don't understand that people will die one day, so why others will be accepted if they tell lies, and if they tell the truth, they will be beaten.
If you think about it, it may just be because he doesn't give others the respect he deserves, and he is just expressing a truth that lacks "warmth" and "humanity".
In conversation, people should pay attention to the truth, what they are talking about, and what they are talking about.
When the truth is not needed, keeping your mouth shut is a kind of cultivation and a kind of respect; When you hear a lie, keep silent, it's a courtesy, and it's a protection.
If you are "more serious", you will not care about your face, nor will you care about your mood, then you will be despised.
A cultivated person will take care of others, and he will speak very well and will not hurt others.
The great English thinker Bacon once said, "In conversation, subtlety and appropriate expression are more valuable than words." ”
Life, many people are anxious.
He can't wait to say what he thinks, to explain clearly, to make himself the focus of the conversation, to protect his interests.
But literate people know that communication is often two-way.
Don't blindly behave, learn to let the other party absorb first; Instead of rushing to explain, it is better to let the other person understand first.
A cultivated person who attaches importance to himself without neglecting others and being good to others is to leave a way back for himself.
Therefore, a cultivated person, from his speech and demeanor, you can see that he is a cultured person, he can talk to people well, he can control his emotions, and he can give people the respect they deserve.
For the rest of your life, instead of pursuing the prosperity outside, it is better to hone your heart.