Zhou Guoping once said: "Adult socialization is an art of boundaries. You have to know when to go in, when to retreat, when to speak, when to close. This sentence speaks to the social key for adults, which is to clarify the boundaries, not to overdo it, not to cross the line, not to lose balance. In this article, I will share with you 5 unspoken rules that will help you build healthy relationships and make you more confident, comfortable, and self-loving in your social interactions.
Don't be too nice to people. It sounds a bit cold, but it's a way to protect yourself. Some people, if you are too good to them, they will become accustomed to it, take you for granted, and even desperately ask for it, not knowing how to be grateful. Such a person will not only not cherish you, but will also hurt you and make you feel aggrieved and tired. Therefore, don't be too nice to people, sincerity is precious, true feelings are hard to find, leave it to those who deserve it, be kind to others, and be kind to yourself.
Don't get too close. It sounds distant, but it's a wisdom to keep your distance. Some people, if you get too close to them, they will lose their scale and proportion, think that you have nothing to say, and even have no scruples and do not know respect. Such a person will not only not understand you, but will also alienate you, making you feel depressed and embarrassed. So, don't get too close, distance produces beauty, have a sense of distance and boundaries, leave a little space for each other, and learn to treat others as others and yourself as yourself.
Don't expect too much. It sounds a bit negative, but it's a way to reduce stress. Some people, if you expect too much from them, they will disappoint you, think that you are vexatious, and even disgust you and do not know how to tolerate. Such a person will not only not satisfy you, but will also suppress you and make you feel depressed and annoyed. So, don't expect too much, lower your expectations, reduce dependence, be yourself, live freely and peacefully, and life is full of surprises.
Don't please others. It sounds a bit selfish, but it's a way to keep yourself.
attitude. Some people, if you curry favor with them, they will despise you, think that you are groveling, and will even take advantage of you, not knowing the return. Such a person will not only not respect you, but will also harm you and make you feel inferior and sad. Therefore, don't please others, don't please, don't pander, just do your best, which is the best posture to get along with others, love yourself, please yourself, and keep life as it is.
Don't overdraw relationships. This may sound stingy, but it's a strategy to maintain balance. Some people, if you overdraw them, they will become cold, think that you are bottomless, and will even abandon you, not knowing how to cherish. Such a person will not only not accompany you, but will also disappear, making you feel lonely and regretful. Therefore, don't overdraft the relationship, don't owe favors, don't chill people's hearts, and the equal contribution of both parties is the key to a long-term relationship.
When socializing as an adult, we should sort out the boundaries, don't go too far, don't cross the line, and don't get out of balance. By following these 5 unspoken rules, you will be able to build healthy relationships and make you more confident, comfortable, and self-loving in your social interactions. I hope you found this article helpful, and I wish you more warmth and beauty in your interpersonal interactions.