Some parents have a weak sense of education, and even have the ideology of preference for sons over girls. The awareness of communication is not strong, they do not know how to express love and care, they ignore the role of parent-child communication in children's growth, and do not pay attention to the synchronous development of family education and school education. Many parents said that when talking to their children, they did not listen to them many times, and the communication should be carried out on the basis of mutual understanding and trust.
The dangers of miscommunication:
One. Destroying the parent-child relationship.
Poor communication and the feeling of not being understood alienate the parent-child relationship, which is the most direct harm and seriously causes the parent-child relationship to break down.
Two. Affects physical health.
If you don't manage your emotions in time, you will accumulate in your body, and you don't know when it will explode, which will directly affect your health.
Talking to your child and educating your child to be reasonable is the best policy, so it is better to try a few effective communication methods.
First, choose the right time to enter the child's psychology
The laws of physiology tell us that the child is in a cheerful mood, this is a better time, to find the child's excitement, conflict may be inevitable, the principle is to avoid hurting the child's self-esteem. Criticism is not an attack, criticism is only about things and not about people, replacing criticism with constructive opinions, and turning criticism into hope is where the ultimate value of criticism lies.
Second, discuss with your children in case of trouble
Parents should discuss with their children more and let them realize that they are a member of the family, so that they will be more likely to accept their parents' decisions, be more filial to their parents, and be closer to and respect their parents.
Third, put yourself in your child's shoes
Many times, seeing the children do those things are really angry, maybe in the eyes of the parents to do those things is disobedient, but, have you ever asked the child why he did that, if you ask you will know that the result is different from what you think, the child has his own reasons for doing that, many times this reason is to be obedient, in order to make the parents satisfied.
Educating children is like raising flowers, careful watering, fertilization, and care can be successful, but in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well, and if you don't understand, you have to ask others for advice and learn the experience and art of raising flowers.
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In the process of children's growth, there will be many thorny problems, such as rebellion, isolation, sensitivity, school boredom and so on.
I always feel powerless in the face of these parents, but these 5 books are close to life cases to help parents sort out the problems comprehensively and guide their children correctly.
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While letting children learn to respect and be grateful, parents can also learn how to communicate with their children calmly and truly enter their children's hearts.
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