Schopenhauer once said:
"The essence of man lies in the pursuit of his will, and when a pursuit is satisfied, it is pursued again, and so on forever. ”
Life is like a long-distance train, some people are constantly running for their ideal goals, but some people only care about the comfort of the moment and are not afraid of the scenery outside the window.
They lack neither extraordinary talent nor tenacity.
Often behave in a way that makes people look down on and run their lives in a mess.
Really respond to the sentence "people have no ability, you can know at a glance", quickly see if there are these two types of people around you.
I like to be in the nest
There is such a description in Understanding Human Nature:
The more unproductive and incapable people are, the more they like to be in the nest, venting their anger outside and their negative emotions on their families, but when they come into contact with outsiders, they are cowardly. ”
Although this passage is sharp, it reveals the current situation of many families in reality.
They often have no goals, no pursuits, and prefer to get by, but don't want to admit their incompetence.
In front of outsiders, he will be submissive because of his ignorance and inconsistency, and then he will vent this grievance on his family.
I don't have much ability, but I have a lot of resentment, I don't reflect on myself, I only know how to complain about heaven and others, and let innocent family members suffer this unjustified disaster.
Living with such a person is destined to be tormented and miserable.
Those who are victims of it must understand that blindly tolerating will only make them unscrupulous, and their lives will get worse and worse, and resisting at the right time is an effective way to protect themselves and their families.
In the final analysis, this kind of person is still not worthy of thought, and his mind cannot support action, and if he is exhorted and guided, and urges his progress, he will be very happy.
If you can't change his bad roots with help, then stay away as soon as possible!
Those who struggle in the swamp cannot escape the consequences of being filthy.
It is the wise man who goes ashore decisively and stays away from the source of suffering.
Full of complaints
Everyone in this complicated world will go through indescribable ups and downs, fall countless times, and have to get up and run again.
After all, time will not stop because you are frustrated, and your stagnation will only cost you your personal time and energy.
If you are obsessed with the hardships you have encountered and complain, you will not only make your life bleak, but also affect the emotions of others and infringe on the interests of others.
Will Bowen once shared one of his own stories in the book:
One spring afternoon, he heard a "bang", and followed the sound to see his pet dog lying in a pool of blood, and his daughter crying beside him.
The driver who caused the accident slipped away without stopping, Will was instantly furious, left his daughter in place, and chased the perpetrator while driving, during which he ran countless red lights, and finally caught up, and the other party had no sense of guilt.
The two parties, who had no result in communication, scuffled together until they both saw blood.
For several days after the incident, Will complained non-stop, complaining about the incident and cursing the driver who caused the accident.
Negative emotions are like viruses, tormenting him all the time and invading the people around him.
He finally let go, but when he thought back on this time, he only felt regretful and embarrassed.
Benjamin Franklin once said
Constant complaining is the worst reward for the comfortable life we enjoy. ”
In real life, there will inevitably be times when we are disturbed by emotions, but it is important to know that anxiety and complaining will not solve anything, but will make things worse.
Even in the end, you will find that your bad situation is the result of endless complaints.
Mentality is a person's best feng shui, learn to adjust the mentality, life will be smoother.
The world is bustling, all for profit, and the world is bustling, all for profit.
In this materialistic world, only by ensuring one's own excellence and completing self-improvement will one have a certain right to speak.
If you can only be in the nest and complain about yourself, then no matter how many opportunities are in front of you, you can't grasp it.
If you have no strengths, you will only attract contempt, and eventually ask for hardship.
I hope that everyone who reads this can reflect on themselves, and if there is something to change, they will be encouraged, and they will march towards a better future.