Morality is better than all laws, and morality is better than all lynching. This sentence shows the sense of proportion that a person should have when speaking and doing things. A sense of proportion is a kind of respect for oneself and others, and it is also an adaptation to society and the environment. A sense of proportion is not a constraint, but a freedom, which allows us to express our thoughts and emotions and achieve our goals and values without harming ourselves and others. A sense of proportion is a kind of wisdom and a kind of practice, which requires us to constantly observe and learn, constantly reflect and improve, and constantly grow and progress. This article will discuss the importance and methods of a sense of proportion from four aspects, namely, to speak with a ruler, to laugh with a degree, to do more than to do things, and to speak with virtue.
Speaking with rulers means that you should speak with art and respect, don't say your thoughts casually, don't easily evaluate the behavior of others, don't ignore and hurt others' feelings, and don't wantonly challenge others' bottom lines. Speaking is a communication and an influence, it can enhance friendships, it can cause conflict, it can convey information, it can cause misunderstandings, it can provoke thought, it can also cause resentment. Speaking should be measured and measured, taking into account one's own identity and position, taking into account the psychology and emotions of others, taking into account the occasion and environment, and taking into account the purpose and effect. Speak with art and respect, with appropriate language and tone, with appropriate ways and methods, with a sincere attitude and emotion, and with beneficial content and meaning. Speaking with a ruler is not to speak with reservations, but to speak responsibly, not to speak with scruples, but to speak with respect, not to speak to hide, but to speak with choice, not to speak to cater to, but to speak creatively.
Laughter means that jokes should have a purpose and effect, don't ignore the feelings of others in order to amuse yourself, don't violate your own principles in order to please others, don't sacrifice your dignity in order to adjust the atmosphere, and don't harm the interests of others in order to show yourself. Jokes are a form of entertainment and communication, it can increase intimacy, it can also create estrangement, it can relieve stress, it can also increase burden, it can express affection, it can also expose malice. Jokes should have boundaries and risks, be aware of your own identity and image, be aware of the character and preferences of others, be aware of topics and sensitivities, and be aware of consequences and influences. Jokes should be appropriate and humorous, with reasonable reasons and motives, with moderate degree and frequency, with friendly language and tone, and with interesting content and form. There is a degree of laughter, not that there should be restrictions on jokes, but that jokes should have a purpose, not that jokes should be restrained, but that jokes should have an effect, not that jokes should be restrained, but that jokes should be innovative, not jokes should be avoided, but jokes should be enjoyed.
Doing more than enough means to have an attitude and principles in doing things, not to complete the task, and ignore your own interests, not to cater to others, and violate your own values, not to adapt to the environment, and give up your ideals, not to seek stability, and lose your own enterprising. Doing things is a practice, but also an expression, it can show ability, it can also reflect quality, it can achieve goals, it can also meet needs, it can achieve achievements, it can also encounter challenges. We must change and respond to things, adapt to our own abilities and levels, adapt to the expectations and requirements of others, adapt to changes and development in the environment, and adapt to the adjustment and change of goals. There must be room and retreat in doing things, there must be some time and space, there must be some opportunities and choices, there must be some flexibility and compromise, and there must be some improvement and progress. It is not to compromise in doing things, but to be principled in doing things, to admit one's mistakes and shortcomings, to apologize and compensate those who have been hurt, to correct and avoid saying hurtful words, and to be grateful and cherish the opportunity to communicate with others. Speak with virtue and wisdom, treat the differences and shortcomings of others with kindness and understanding, treat the offenses and misunderstandings of others with tolerance and tolerance, treat the trust and expectations of others with honesty and integrity, and treat the feelings and dignity of others with courtesy and respect. Speaking virtuously is not to speak to be tolerant, but to speak to hurt, not to speak to conceal, but to speak to recover, not to speak to escape, but to speak to be responsible, not to speak to give in, but to speak wisely.
This article focuses on the importance and methods of a sense of proportion from the four aspects of speaking with a ruler, laughing with a degree, doing more than one's work, and speaking with virtue, hoping to give readers some inspiration and help. The sense of proportion is not an innate ability, but an acquired learning, which requires us to constantly observe and learn, constantly reflect and improve, and constantly grow and progress. A sense of proportion is not a limitation, but a freedom, which allows us to express our thoughts and emotions and achieve our goals and values without harming ourselves and others. A sense of proportion is a kind of wisdom and a kind of cultivation, which requires us to discipline ourselves with morality, speak with art, do things with principles, and speak with virtue. Taking care of yourself is the best practice for yourself.